I don't believe in not being selfish or prideful or self-sacrifice for love. I believe we should be selfish about our relationship, be prideful of whom we are dating. And i definitely don't believe in self-sacrifice. I don't mean the whole relationship has to be about yourself. When i say not to self sacrifice is like letting her go if she is happier that way. If you are truely in love with someone, you should never let them go, you should fight back.

If you really love her, you shouldn't hold back on your feelings. Don't keep it to yourself. It takes two people to create a relationship not one. So why the one side has to be the one that are sacrificing. I think that is the only way to find "true" love. If they can't stand or understand the reason for your selfishness then i don't think that person is the right one.

Prideful:
Well. .actually i guess there are two meanings for this word.

1. Proud of your partner on how smart or beautiful she is and show her off to your friends and want everyone to be envious of your relationship.

2. Your partner has to be the one that loves and wants you more than you wants him/her (her in my case) or something simliar.

I don't believe there is anything wrong with definition number 1 (that's probably just me .... but from what i know.. .that is probably for everyone).

For definition number 2, well.. i don't believe there is anything wrong with that in a non-serious relationship. The effects won't be as strong when you guys break up or anything similar. It's easier to get over with if you had that kind of thinking in mind. EHhh.. that does sound insensative.

 

 

 

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I don't think that Love has any of these qualities. Sure there is nothing wrong with being protective over say, your spouse, but we are talking one to one here. Real love isn't selfish. And it is forgiving. That is perfect love. You are talking about cupboard love. It gives and gives as long as there is a string attached. Real love isn't like that. God's love has no strings attached. That is the perfect love. Get what I am saying? Love doesn't have qualities of evil. If it does it isn't real love. that is all I am saying. Just trying to make a point.

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love is...unexplainable.

theres sad and happy moments to it.
you'll never know what "love" really means.
it is because love[i] may never end.
but, i am glad i do not have a problem with "love" yet.

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From buzzle.com.
i like the description they have (:
Love to me has no meaning ending.. it means alot to me...

 

 

 

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love is racional and emotional, it's the ideas that make your feelings so strong for that person and also the feelings itself... it's love

you know a girl really loves you when her eyes shine just from being with you, when she looks happier just by being at your side

you know you love someone when you'll give your life for her and when you like her till the point it hurts

good luck man

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Untill today i thought i loved my partner, but even though in my heart i know i still do my actions dont say the same!last night i kissed someone else!iv been with my partner for years! im only 19 and ppl keep telling me we are 2 young 2 b together, that i am being held back in my life from what i should be doing!! my partner is very controlling and demanding! and very insecure, i just cant look at him after what iv done! we spend everyday 2gether and when we are not together we are on the phone! i know i love him, i love all the little things he does, i know what hes thinking before he even thinks it and he doesnt deserve to be treated like this! dont get me wrong he can be very posessive and nasty at times, he stays out all night, he fights a lot and is even facing prison!! despite his pitafalls i love him! i feel sick when i think of what iv done, AM I A HORRIBLE PERSON??? but i want to know WHY i did this! i feel like my life is in a mess, everythings going wrong! am i too young, what do i want! what should i do. if i told him hed finish me on the spot and i wouldnt let the reason we split be for a meaningless peck, its not fair on us both! i just want to know what to do next!
has anyone experienced anything similiar!

HELP!!!!

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I think I know a perfect definition, we came up with it in a Bible study group of mine:

There are 3 parts to love. First there's emotion. This is seeing the other person for who they really are and caring about them. From this emotion, you get the 2nd part, knowledge or memory of that emotion. This way when you're not feeling particularly emotional/loving you make the 3rd part, choice/commitment to acting in their best interests apart from your feelings. These continual choices apart from the emotions lead to more emotion for the person as you come to care even more deeply about them because of the commitment to them and their well-being.

So love has 3 parts, emotion, knowledge/memory, and choice/commitment. I also would add it is most clear whether a person loves you when it comes down to acting in your best interests or their own. Love is also by definition caring about the other person at least as much as yourself. This is why Jesus says to love others as ourselves. When we have to choose whether or not to help the other person even though it means sacrifice and pain on our part, that's when the rubber meets the road so to speak.

This is why so many people THINK they're in love these days, they think it's just emotion. But as the above definition shows, it's more then that. It means making self-sacrificing choices on their behalf, not necessarily to satisfy their wants, but rather their needs. If it's just about their wants, if they want to walk off a cliff you'd let them. But that's not love, love is warning them because you're concerned about their welfare even if they aren't.

So many people divorce and break up dating/marriage relationships because it's all about the big ME. They don't care about the other person much. It's about what the other person can do, how they make me feel. Once they no longer get an emotional "high" feeling out of it, they're out of there. Once the other person no longer can provide them with finances or security or popularity they once wanted, they're out of there. They're in it just for what they can get out of it.

Let me tell, that's not love. Our society thinks it is. I wrote a poem on the subject actually, here's what I think it's really called:

Love

What all think they've got
And so many do not
It's life's biggest must
Don't confuse it with lust
Any heart it can thaw
Fulfils God's moral Law
You can give to the poor
Let your body be burned
Work incredible miracles
Speak in tongues never heard
And if you're missing out
On this which you most need
Then let there be no doubt
You have nothing indeed
Many claim to serve God
But escape this command
And they find it so odd
This is His great demand
And for all of your knowledge
And wisdom, and power
Which makes others to tremble
And still others to cower
If you're lacking in this
Then all you have is moot
For you're missing the point
This, God's great attribute
It never harms others
Is patient and kind
Meekly it suffers
With no evil in mind
Bearing all, believing all
Hoping all, enduring all
Never failing, over all travailing
This, God's gift from above-
This Is Love

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The chase is half of the fun my friend... But you know you will love someone not from one large event or occurence. You know that you love someone from the ways that they affect your life in the small ways they affect your life. They are your goodmorning, your entire day and your goodnight. They are constantly on your mind, and when you are with them you are never more happy. (Mine is in Spain for three weeks and it's KILLING me)

Knowing if another loves you is probably one of the hardest things to know. You just have to trust your instincts and go for it, take a risk or for the rest of your life you will be saying "What If..." and that will haunt you for a long long time. So my advice is to just put yourself out there because if you are in the position where you think you should take that risk and that you know that person that well, then the results should yield considerable joy...


Ah...love

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