Here's a couple of tips that i can pass on to you(they are to be used for good or Evil....) 1. Be a Chameleon- use the same kind of speech pattern- eg.- if i say"let's go for Dinner" you say "Dinner sounds good" even if you would normally say supper, this tip proves that you are just like they are. 2. Take Charge Every Once and Awhile- Dont just follow- some time you have to lead, because noone knows where they are going. 3. Dont be anxious- ZEN is your friend- be aloof, act like even the most exciting group outing is normal to you- ANXIOUS = ANNOYING 4. Dont be Afraid to Fly Solo- Clingyness is BAD!!!!!!!!- You dont have to spend every second of the day with the group 5. Make the Circle Grow- Introduce new ppl to the group whenever possible- if someone new gets introduced every week in a year you'll know atleast 52 new ppl. LAST BUT NOT LEAST- PASS THESE TIPS ALONG TO SOMEONE ELSE

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I dont know in what school you are in, but like before university ( caus in holland is quit different from other country's) once you have no friends, it will be hard to get friends, because they always expect something. They want to see you do something they wouldn't dare, or they want you to do something crazy, just something that makes you special, and stand out from the rest. But thats normal. They are cchildren. Once you are on university, it shouldnt be hard to get friends since they are all grown up an experienced much.

If you think you do want to make connections with people (cause thats very good for you for anyone), then I should start with talking to people on the street. Have a great smile even if theres nothing funny. I f you walk on the street with an angry fface, you will push people off. Thats not what you want to do. Rather its in the train, or at the laundry service, make sure you just make a chat with the people arround you, no matter what age. Every little thing helps, besides it helps your social skill to develop.

Try sportclubs, studentclubs, jobs, and school coadministration council to join. Join everything were you can find people to talk to, to meet! Its very necessary to also stay in contact once you met someone. Dont wait for them to make the first step to come and talk to you. No one gets friends with sitting and just do nothing. Some Action is necessary.

Make time for your friends, or people you just met. If you spend too mch time behind on your pc to search friends, or talk to 'cyber'friends, you can't be outside making real friends! duhhh
Go out more, dance clubs, lounges cafes!!! Good places too find at least people who want to talk.

Most important of all is that you face must radiate joy and openness. So that you attract people towards you. If you walk on the street with a smile on your face you will see that people will do make more effort to make a chat with you. Success

 

 

 

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The very first part is sooo interesting, 'I may be youbg or something...', just how young are?, are we talking 6-10,10-15, or 15+ cause it all depends what age group you may be dealing with.

Young Adults tend to have a'Judge book by cover' kind of attitude towards alot of different people, to have a 'im better & cool' look on there name.

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Listen, getting friends can be really hard, but it will come. I don’t know how old you are or what kind of person you are, but I’ll give you a couple of advices.

Don’t expect people to come to you.
If you want to hang out with somebody, just go talk to them. If you don’t have anything to say to make contact, then simply ask if you can sit with them. Don’t be afraid that they’ll reject you, cause even if they do, you didn’t lose anything.

Don’t be afraid of doing things that are unlike you!
If you feel that you are kind of stuck in a role and afraid of breaking out of it, you missed the point. We are who we make usself to be (at least to some extend).
Break out of old habits without looking back. This is really hard, until you realize, that nobody find it weirder than yourself. I had a friend once, who had trouble finding friends. All the sudden she broke out of all her old patterns and changed completely. I admit that we thought it was so fake in the beginning, but then we realized that she was more herself, more comfortable like that and we all accepted her for being like that.

Accept the friendships you find.
You can’t always chose who want to be friends with you. Sometimes you will find that somebody you thought was really dumb or weird is really nice and funny. Accept everyone’s friendship, and even if it is not what you are looking for, it is nice to have. You don’t find a true friend with the flick of a wand. It takes time to get to know somebody.

//Munde

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I know exactly what you mean WDSnav, It's hard making friends, harder then some people think. For instance, I just transferred schools like a year ago, and when I first got there I was lonely for a long time. I was just like you actualley, would be the last person picked in P.E. activities and such. In my opinion, one of two things will happen, someone will talk to you and they will become a real friend or a friend, or two you'll will finally start talking. It's a lot easier with option #2. Just listen to other people and what they are saying and when they say something interesting to you just start talking, after that they will either talk to you everyday or just not say anything else to you, but it could go either way.

Also, don't be discouraged or afraid by people picking on you, OpaQue said ignore them, which is a good thing to do, but it won't always be so easy. It's kind hard growing up in pretty much what they call "the ghetto" especially as a white kid (no racial offense, but it's true) so I had to fend for myself and deal with them in the wrong way. The one thing that is bad to do is tell on them because it will lead to worse things, it could be prevented at school but not on the streets. Ignore them until they are unignorable, and just mind your own and you should be alright with that, eventually they'll get tired of picking on you and move on to the next "loser kid." Hopefully.

As with the girls, it's alot more complicated than making friends, but making friends is where it starts. Some girls may act as if they don't like you, but 75% of them really do when for instance they walk by you in the hall and say "Eww" or something and walk off laughing. Just talk to them just like thier a friend, and it'll all come out the woodworks, the best thing is to not be shy, but if you can't help it, just try to stay confident.

All in all, just hang in there, it'll all work out for you. I've always been told that the people who aren't the most popular stay out of trouble, and live a more comfortable life.

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You can make a friend my being nice and being yourselves also you can smile when you walk bt people. A smile can warm up someones day

-secertgirl

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why do I feel so depresed
Tips For Making New Friends

I have gone with no friends 4 days and I am so depresed all ready my friends have adbandoned me and have no new friends but as soon as the bullies hear that thay aren't my friends I'm dead. Can some one help me?

-question by down town

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I know how you except people don't really bully me I tried to talk to people and make new friends but nobody likes me maybe cause voice is is very low hate that so sometimes I just get so tired of trying to make new friends and just go alone I hate my life.

-reply by rtdyufgiho

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