I tend to listen to Music. Both Sad, Happy and Fun. It cheers me up a great deal.

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When I feel depressed, I find I just need to take some time alone. The idea of going out and talking about it with a bunch of people always seems dreadful when I'm down...I'd much rather just go to my corner and be quiet for awhile. I heard that in Ancient Greece, what we consider "depression" was just considered "melancholy," and it was expected that you would feel that way every now and then. When you did, it was thought that you needed to take some time to yourself and reflect, because if you were feeling this way, you were perhaps heading in the wrong direction and needed to reconsider things. I think this can be a great way to think about sadness, as a natural time when your mind is telling you that you need to stop and think about some things. I feel like sometimes we are too quick to turn to drugs or other artificial ways of forcing ourselves out of bad moods. The mood serves a purpose; by simply covering up the feelings and not considering why you are feeling that way, any solution will most likely be temporary.

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you know when im feeling especialy emotional i find that it helps to have some patience and wait. i give myself some time to go and do something else first so i can calm down, and get my head straight, an after accomplishing whatever distractive activity i've found i return to my problem and i look to the core of what it is. giving things some time settle is a big aid that i have found to save myself from a lot of mistakes. simply put rushing about and doing things when you are emotionaly unstabe creates nothin but problems.

now as for the things i do when im angry or whatnot, i've found some pranayama to be effective. pranayama is a branch of yoga that focuses of controlling the breath as a form of seperating your mind from the illusions of reality so that you remember that the world is made up illusions that people create and the most effective way to see through the illusion is to look closely at the factors and issues that make up the present situation you find yourself in. after some practice i actualy dont find myself getting angry with valid problems that occure from combinations of factors. i've come to look at the world in terms of things/issues that make up not only what i am thinking or seeing but what others are seeing the present as.

another thing i do is read. which is a complete 180 from the concept behind my use of pranayama listed above. i've found that sometimes all my mind really needs is sometime to get everything off my mind for a while, and so when i dont have the time to sit quitely and do some pranayama i get a book that i find intresteing and read it untill i am completely forgeting what angered me in the first place. now i must admit that this is not always the best way to get over whatever is bothering me, its whats called escapism. it is finding a way out of your problems temporarily without doing anything to fix the real issues in the first place.

there are tons of forms of escapeism. most are rooted in some sort of procrastination or personal defense mechanisim. sometime people use video games, books, or even excersize. litteraly anything could b used. i think thats kind of the nature of hobbies. but theres on thing that i have found that works better than most and that is listening to people who have problems worse than you do.

i used to have a friend i knew from highschool that was a reall problem child, not attractive, and everyone in school picked on her and called her a slut. she of course didnt know any really good methods to deal with her problems so she'd only get into more trouble. but for some odd reason i'd go over to her house and hang out with her a bit, play halo live with her brother and then eat dinner with her family. and almost every moment i was over there i got to sit and listen to the chaos her family was, constant bickering and fighting, areguing and endless fussing. it wasnt until later that i realized going over there was actualy my own way of making myself realize that my problems wernt as big as hers. and even if i did have a big problem i reveled in the fact tht i was the kind of person who tackled his problems and knew not to let them weigh myself down.

having something to look at that presnts an idea of how to better yourself can be a catalyst for constructive action. some people have pictures of religeous figures like jesus, buddhas, hindu gods, gurus and saints. things like these if you are firmly devoted to them can be like a static mindset you have set aside, which when you turn your attention to these things they will remind you of things. not just someting positive but an example for how to go forward with your life. and not everyone uses religious figures, for some its a great grandparent who was finacialy succesfull, or a historical figure who stood for something close to the hearts and minds of many. i personaly enjoy making my own versions of shinto and taoist protection seals. i know thats really far out there, but the trick is to find something that tugs at your heart strings, something that motivates you instantly.

 

 

 

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Whenever i feel depressed the best remedy for me is to do something which I like most. Like playing with my children, playing tennis, doing exercise, going or talking to my best friend. All these things give me enough positive vibrations to get rid of my blue mood.

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