Hmm Today my sociology professor talked about suicide in society and showed that statistically, protestants, men, unmarried people, wealthy people, and people with no family ties are much more likely to commit suicide than women, catholics, poor people, people with strong family ties, and married people. And he showed its not just some random events, its a trend. He showed that in different countries, men are 2 to 40 times more likely to commit suicide than women. Also, black people commit suicide much less than white people. These are the facts. It was pretty interesting though. It seems like lonely people kill themselves more than people with lots of family etc. So what do you think about it?

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I do not condone suicide at all. I think it is a way of being a coward and giving up on your life's problems. I think, the people that overcome life's hardships and make something of themselves can be considered herioc. Its our actions that define us, and if suicide is the choice of action one takes, then they are deemed a coward. Sorry if that sounds too harsh.

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Well, I want to clear something up at the very beginning: Suicide is for selfish people who are not strong enough to deal with life. My advice to anyone thinking about that stupid thing that doesn't change anything: "Your life is no worse or better than anyone else's. There will always be someone who is worse off. Find other ways to deal with life. If suicide is your only option, think about the people who you will hurt and who will miss you. If you do not think there are those who will miss you, look again. Do you hate selfish people who only think about themselves. That is what suicide is, only thinking about your own problems. Life should be treasured. Don't be ready to waste it."

So yes, it is completely self-centered, pridefully selfish. From a religous point of view, we owe an allegence to God who thought of us first, loved us first and put us on this earth for a very good reason. Rather than die in self pity, why not pray and ask God the reason for our being. Judas was so proud that he thought himself above repentence; unworthy of forgiveness and chose to commmit suicide. Jesus said it would have been better he were never born. If a son came asking for forgiveness with sincere heart, what parent wouldn’t forgive him. How sad for the parent of a son who didn’t trust in his father or mother’s forgiveness and ultimately waste his life by commiting suicide.

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killing yourself will just loop you back to where it all start. i've read that from some book.

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I've actually considered suicide.

I didn't do it for attention because I hated attention. I don't usually talk about things because I don't like burdening people with my problems that only I can make a difference in. I started thinking about suicide because I was super-hard on myself. And it took being in the army as an armorer with an M9 Beretta and a full magazine of 9mm rounds sitting on my desk to realize that I was going too far on being harsh on myself.

People think of suicide for different reasons. I, almost being stereotypically Asian, was ashamed of myself and of my failures and mistakes. I was always striving for excellence, for perfection. It took me a while, but I finally had the self-realization that suicide was a stupid answer and a coward's way out of the problems that were bothering me.

A lot of people just feel like they don't have anything to live for because of the events happening around them. There's no real way to really help anyone but to help them help themselves. Once you convince that person that things happen, it's normal to feel the way he or she feels, and that the future can bring in possible relief but suicide will prevent you from ever knowing, I think that one may recuperate and continue to live life.

There's always a way around things. Soldiers come back from Iraq. Those that don't gave their lives for something noble, and your friend should rest assured that he or she can be proud of that. Relationships come and go. It sucks, but everyone finds someone eventually. Patience is a virtue most overlooked. (Heck, even I'm tired of waiting, but I'll wait even longer if it turns out to be worth the wait.) There are literally TONS of people to meet in one's lifetime as there are fish in the sea. I hate using cliche answers, and everyone hates them, but it's usually the way to make an analogous answer that will hopefully help someone realize the bigger picture, that life is worth living.

The best thing that you can do, though, is LISTEN. I'm sure you knew that by now, though. Be an outlet for him or her to vent. "Understand" what he or she is going through and sympathize.

I hope your friend comes out of the rut.

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