So here is my vent. My rant. My list of dumb questions that I know aren't going to be answered any time soon yet should be aired out before something breaks.
The he said she said game.........
WHY do friends do this to you?
WHY do they automatically figure that since you are a friend you will AUTOMATICALLY take their side on a matter....especially when you were no where NEAR the problem when it started?
WHY do they continue to insist that their side is THE side even if you were there and you KNOW better?
WHY do you suppose you should run far far away when a few close friends stop being close friends and want you as their advocate, cheerleader, lawyer, shield, tactitian, messenger, etc? Hmmmm I wonder on that one......
The 180 personality.......
WHY is it that you are someone's ultra cool buddy until their priorities change?
WHY is it that as soon as something comes up in their life your role changes only you aren't informed?
WHY is it that they even think they have the right to do that?
WHY is it that they get all hurt and huffy when you point out what an *bottom* they have become?
WHY is it that all of a sudden they think they deserve nothing more than the respect that they lack giving others because they have their heads up their butts?
The innocent Madonna.........
WHY is it that this personality can start a torhurriquake around themselves and be oblivious to what it does to those even minimally involved?
WHY is this person convinced they have nothing to do with their own actions?
WHY must they continue to find others to battle on for their behavioural issues?
WHY don't they just crawl off to Hollywood and bat for their award in a different way?
WHY won't they just stay on the meds they claim they do na need?
The grieving lost.......
WHY does one have to hold on to the delusion that everything will work out just as delusionally planned when in fact the opposite is occurring at the rate of a high impact meteor?
WHY do they have to repeat the same stuff over and over and over and over?
WHY can't they just let go and accept reality without trying to drag everyone into the warzone with them?
WHY does one have to expect help in a square little package and if it comes in an oblong one instead they get put out?
WHY am I asking all these nonsensical questions? Because they just keep rattling through my head ( crud I've entered the shoes of the grieving lost! ACK!).
The backstory to this rant is one of those classic scenarios of when two of your good friends date and stuff from the twilight zone enters making their relationship end. Now the grieving lost is just that, and my other friend has become the 180 personality. The innocent madonna? That was only part of the twilight zone material.
So how come I have na aired my concerns to the parties involved you may ask.....
To the grieving lost....there is no point. She is convinced that happily ever after is just around the corner regardless of the fact that the break up was bad and things are only getting worse as far as her chances of even communicating with her ex ( let alone sashaying off into the sunset with him)is. Talking to her is just begging to hear the same crud over and over again and watch as she rakes over the injustices and then swings towards full optimism that all will shine well in the end. Reality is a blunt stick that fails to hit its mark with this one.
The 180 personality? I have a play date with him later in the week to point out some of the changes in his behaviour that is affecting everyone around him negatively. I do not need that sort of attitude, especially when I did nothing to warrant it.
The innocent Madonna? Out of the picture right now and besides the point. As far as she knows ( and believes) she is ( and always is) completely innoccent of any of the things that surrounds her. This has been an ongoing pattern and there is little that can be done about it other than to stay far far away from the storm. That of course is my intentions.
*wipes brow*
Whooo. I feel a bit better after typing all that down.
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