sonorama
Jul 11 2005, 05:32 PM
Wow! first of all, I have to say that I'm glad you guys opened this forum, it is quite nice to have these kind of discussion places in Trap17.com Well, my problem is the following: I've never been the kind of guy who depends a lot on a relationship. I actually get sick of them when my girl starts being possesive. I also dislike aguings about who's right and who's wrong. I'm pretty unstable (if you wanna say so) in relationships. Nowadays I can't stand being with certain people after a big while, it applies to friends and gfs. The problem is that I really think I should try to give a chance for a serious relationship, but, believe me, I have tried already, and it didn't work out  Well, I guess I need to wait for my soulmate, if she really exists... Cheers! 
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Johnny
Jul 11 2005, 05:45 PM
Hm...good question. I think if I have a perfect girl, I haven't met her yet. I think it's more of a "people lower their expectations, and it SEEMS like they end up with the perfect one" type deal. Dunno though.
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ckuehner
Jul 12 2005, 06:17 AM
Hmmm... the perfect boy or girl... Whether they exist or not depends upon what your definition of perfect is. If it is a person with whome you will never argue.. then there is no such thing. It is human nature to argue. No two people in the world will ever see every little thing eye to eye. If that is what you are looking for.. then stop looking. There is nothing wrong with a little argument, it is healthy.. the key is to not let stupid little things blow up into big things. The two keys are trust, and communication. Men and Women since the beginning of time have had a communication problem. If a man says to a woman "I want a Guy's night out" a woman will hear "I hate you and I want to go out and chase women so I can find one better than you" It works the other way around too. We men don't always hear what women are saying correctly either. The trick is learning to understand what what your partner is feeling... not necessarily what comes out of there mouth. We are a society that speaks before we think... so quite often, what we have meant to say is not what actually comes out of our mouth. Once both people realize that and work together to understand what the other really means... then the relationships can work. As for soulmates... With the Billions of people in this world... what do you suppose are the chances that the one and only "Soulmate" exists for you in your own hometown? Or even in your own State or even country? Just something to think about.
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sonorama
Jul 14 2005, 09:19 PM
Well, I am not quite sure of this, but I do believe it happens only ONCE in a life. It happened to me with a girl from Finland. I knew it was pretty hard to mantain a relationship with someone from that far, I mean, Mexico is pretty far from Suomi, the good thing was that she stayed here in my town for almost two school years. So, in fact, she and I really enjoyed to be together all day long, every single day. that was funny, cuz we both really hated to be "tied" to someone or stuck in something for a big while. But None of those thoughts made us reject being so together every single moment for almost One year and a half. She and I were going to get married, but we couldnt cuz of some legal stuff, she came to Mexico through Rotary Club, so when she arrived in here, she was under age (17) and even though she was already 19 when we were supposed to get married, it could not have been possible, don't even ask me why... Well, now I have had plenty of relationships, all different to each other and all in different times, but still feel like going to Finland once a while. Cheers! 
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Johnny
Jul 14 2005, 10:35 PM
QUOTE(sonorama @ Jul 14 2005, 02:19 PM) Well, I am not quite sure of this, but I do believe it happens only ONCE in a life. It happened to me with a girl from Finland. I knew it was pretty hard to mantain a relationship with someone from that far, I mean, Mexico is pretty far from Suomi, the good thing was that she stayed here in my town for almost two school years. So, in fact, she and I really enjoyed to be together all day long, every single day. that was funny, cuz we both really hated to be "tied" to someone or stuck in something for a big while. But None of those thoughts made us reject being so together every single moment for almost One year and a half. She and I were going to get married, but we couldnt cuz of some legal stuff, she came to Mexico through Rotary Club, so when she arrived in here, she was under age (17) and even though she was already 19 when we were supposed to get married, it could not have been possible, don't even ask me why... Well, now I have had plenty of relationships, all different to each other and all in different times, but still feel like going to Finland once a while. Cheers! Wowza, total bummer. You were going to marry her and everything? OUCH. 
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sonorama
Jul 14 2005, 11:01 PM
QUOTE(Johnny @ Jul 14 2005, 04:35 PM) Wowza, total bummer. You were going to marry her and everything? OUCH. Yeah! But we couldn't anyway. I still love her I guess. Hehehe, I just hope none of my ex-gfs after her are reading this 
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Joshua
Jul 15 2005, 01:05 AM
QUOTE(ckuehner @ Jul 12 2005, 01:17 AM) Hmmm... the perfect boy or girl... Whether they exist or not depends upon what your definition of perfect is. If it is a person with whome you will never argue.. then there is no such thing. It is human nature to argue. No two people in the world will ever see every little thing eye to eye. If that is what you are looking for.. then stop looking. There is nothing wrong with a little argument, it is healthy.. the key is to not let stupid little things blow up into big things. The two keys are trust, and communication. Men and Women since the beginning of time have had a communication problem. If a man says to a woman "I want a Guy's night out" a woman will hear "I hate you and I want to go out and chase women so I can find one better than you" It works the other way around too. We men don't always hear what women are saying correctly either. The trick is learning to understand what what your partner is feeling... not necessarily what comes out of there mouth. We are a society that speaks before we think... so quite often, what we have meant to say is not what actually comes out of our mouth. Once both people realize that and work together to understand what the other really means... then the relationships can work. As for soulmates... With the Billions of people in this world... what do you suppose are the chances that the one and only "Soulmate" exists for you in your own hometown? Or even in your own State or even country? Just something to think about. Obviously there's not a perfect one out there as without flaw but I think there is one that is ideal for you. However, I think because so many people do lower their standards that they make themselves people who will go after anyone, and by making themselves accessible to all they minimize what makes them unique and capable of finding that special person. And if they do find them they've become someone who won't value the relationship anyway, someone who, quite simply, can't be a part of a meaningful relationship because of who they have become. I would say because of this two people who were ideal for each other and who do remain in a state where they can have a loving, meaningful relationship, the best possible for them, is a very, very rare thing. And I believe that once you have met that special someone you will be utterly persuaded from then on that they are the right one, whether it be 7 minutes or 7 years from now, and you will have no desire to seek anyone else since you'll believe you've already found the right one. Hmm... on further retrospect, I think you have to have a certain state of heart so that when you do meet the right one you are capable of returning love as well as commitment, if you can't do that then the relationship never had a chance to be the "perfect" one since you will not treat it correctly in the first place. So many people come about with the idea that dating relationships are for merely physical pleasure and I think when you are looking primarily for the physical you are not going to find anything deeper then that... And I think there has to be a capability for love in you, or the ideal person for you will be someone who won't love you anymore then you love others.
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underworldskateboards
Jul 17 2005, 01:01 AM
Well I met this girl in california and she was really hot and she had really good qualitys. I think she was the perfect girl. I had to move so now i live in michigan and I was really sad because i missed her. About a year after i moved she told me she was gonna be moving soon to michigan and i was really excited because i could see her again. She ended up moving to the city next to mine. I saw her a lot so i was happy. about 4 monthes ago she was killed by a car so i will never see her again. I can't sleep and i barley eat now. I am sure she was perfect for me.
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Saint_Michael
Jul 19 2005, 03:31 AM
the perfect girl would have to strong, determined and know what she is doing, and knows what hse wants in life. looks come second well actually i do have that with my current girlfriend ***gasp***
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godglitcher
Jul 19 2005, 03:14 PM
The pefect girl for me is 1. Has good looks (not fake but original ) 2. Has a nice family 3. Has a nice personality that would be my perfect girl
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tatati
Feb 14 2009, 08:59 AM
wow previous poster did a lot of dating  forget relationships, learn to live with yourself, ward off anybody who tries to restrain your freedom! donīt even try and try, you might get some nasty DSTs along the way and maybe get involved with a wacko girl and perhaps be a victim of a crime of passion? i dont know, but being alone sounds very appealing to me at the moment. This reminds me of this piece from the comedy Seinfeld QUOTE JERRY: I had a very interesting lunch with George Costanza today.
KRAMER: Really?
JERRY: We were talking about our lives and we both kind of realized we're kids. We're not men.
KRAMER: So, then you asked yourselves, "Isn't there something more to life?"
JERRY: Yes. We did.
KRAMER: Yeah, well, let me clue you in on something. There isn't.
JERRY: There isn't?
KRAMER: Absolutely not. I mean, what are you thinking about, jerry? Marriage? Family?
JERRY: Well...
KRAMER: They're prisons. Man made prisons. You're doing time. You get up in the morning. She's there. You go to sleep at night. She's there. It's like you gotta ask permission to use the bathroom. Is it all right if I use the bathroom now?
JERRY: Really?
KRAMER: Yeah, and you can forget about watching TV while you're eating.
JERRY: I can?
KRAMER: Oh, yeah. You know why? Because it's dinner time. And you know what you do at dinner?
JERRY: What?
KRAMER: You talk about your day. How was your day today? Did you have a good day today or a bad day today? Well, what kind of day was it? Well, I don't know. How about you? How was your day?
JERRY: Boy.
KRAMER: It's sad , Jerry. It's a sad state of affairs..
JERRY: I'm glad we had this talk.
KRAMER: Oh, you have no idea.
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Ousk
Jan 4 2009, 11:01 AM
I don't think there is such a thing as perfect or not even perfect for you. Relationships are about compromise. I don't think that u will want to find perfection cause with a perfect girl/boy the relationship will be boring as hell, no fights no different opinions, no nothing. The problem is that people don't really know what they want, i experienced some stuff in my love life and learned that. First example i wanted a girl with her own apartment because i wanted to move out, also to have a lot of experience with guyz cause i was bored with 19 old girls and their stupid games and stuff, and i was ready for a serious relationship. Well guess what i found the perfect girl, but after three months i realized that i did not want this stuff, i want to be at home doing my thing and not having a girl on my head all day. After that normally i wanted one for a casual relationship, i wanted her to be occupied with stuff and not have to much spare time, so i'll have my peace and quite. Found the perfect girl again but now after two month things got bad because she was to busy for my taste. In conclusion u just have to try and try and maybe you'll find one that suits you.
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triplebtalk
Jan 2 2009, 11:53 AM
The perfect girl would be: a.) Hot in a quirky way b.) Individual c.) Not scared of spiders (always confuses me that chicks are scared of spiders, I mean they rip hair out of their thighs with boiling hot wax, yet when they see a spider they think doomsday has come) d.) Happy e.) Adventurous (happy to try different things, I would hate a girl who was really narrow minded) f.) Exciting I don't think that just saying that they need a nice personality is enough, a nice personality to you might be a bad personality to me.
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contactskn
Jan 2 2009, 10:39 AM
Dear friend it is very difficult to get a perfect soulmate what I think based on my experiences but in many cases it may be possible if your dreams etc about your soulmate is not just out of this world. Even I was searching for such a dear one and ended with my wife now. Obviously here I have to sacrifice the main point which I was in search of. But thats fate. What to do my friend.
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iGuest
Apr 25 2008, 12:06 AM
Johnny, I found it interesting that a guy, such as yourself believes in a soulmate. ...I feel like I can feel that he exist, like someone believing in God ya know... I feel like he's looking for me too..I just don't know what he looks like..Would I know if I saw him? It makes you think? This reply is 3 years late..But a topic like this is always up for discussion ..Have you found her yet? -reply by Jamii
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