Saint_Michael

Nov 30 2005, 11:48 AM

well to put it in perspective parents fear change, don't get me wrong some people are just not ment to be caring adults, but when you think they are not listening to you they are, they just have hard to coping with change when they are in conflict of being an adult and want to be a kid as well. Best you can do is keep talking to her about what you are doing just to keep here updated. Of course being a brat to your parents doesn't help either best thing to do is listen what they have to say and then talk about how you feel about the situation at hand.


And also in the fantasy world turkeys can talk as well.

 

 

 

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Becca

Jan 14 2006, 08:35 PM

My mum never listens to me..and tells me off for not listening to her... But I must admit... sometimes you do follow in your parents footsteps haha... So you basically end up doing what she does most iritating to you..

If you think about it. We don't listen to our parents more than they don't listen to us... I mean my mum tells me wear a coat all the time and I never listen to her. She tells me not to dye my hair again and I don't listen to her. She tells me not to spend all my money and I never listen... it all adds up

Plus sometimes parents DO get old if they aren't already and forget EVERYTHING and ANYTHING you tell them in a matter of seconds.. and it's not on purpose.. That's basically what my mum is like.. I scream at her all the time for not listening, but then it isn't really her fault, but it is really. duh. confusing myself!

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leiaah

Jan 18 2006, 01:06 PM

QUOTE(callum @ Jan 18 2006, 03:48 PM)

Might seem hard or a bit silly, but if you start to talk to your parents like an adult (not arguing with them when ever you don't get your way) then most parents respond to that and start listening to you more and even give you more freedom. This isn't to say that you can't disagree with your parents over things - it just means that you should talk to them the same respect as you would any other person and you should try to take their views into consideration as well.

Callum

That's a very mature answer, Callum. I agree with what you said. It just seems bad when parents nag and fuss about us not listening to them when in reality that is what's happening, maybe not all the time but it's true. That's a good advice even to me.

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ongnoai

Jan 18 2006, 01:59 PM

QUOTE(ribbons&pearls @ Nov 30 2005, 01:27 PM)

i swear that i'm gonna duct tape my mother's mouth is she doesn't start listening to what i say. She always gives me crap for not listening to her, but really its the other way around. I get into trouble from her aLL The time because she never actually listens to EXACTLY what i say. she'll pretend she's listening and only catch a FEW of the details like... if i said i was going to wear a red and pink dress with black butterflies on it she would only catch that i was going to wear a dress. her listening to me saying what i'm gonna wear isn't realli important cuz i have a much better fashion sense then her anyways but when its important stuff she NEVER listens !! am i just being a *BLEEP* and its normal for parents to do this or is she just being rude? do ne of you guyz get that?

ribbons&pearls, you're a doll and I do mean it. I fathered two daugthers, and I've seen the same as you describe, repeatedly and from the other side of the fence. Never paid much attention when I was supposed to and, know what? the lassies love me and I love'em with all my heart.

Keep doing the good job of being yourself. Any parent worth speaking of will eventually melt down in front of a pig-headed young lady. But, shhhh! No parent worth speaking of will acknowledge it publicly.

Cheers!

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iGuest

Jul 6 2008, 11:10 PM

my parents never listen
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My parents are sometimes nice to me but when I get in trouble I am grounded and when my sister get in trouble my parents say don't do that again and she is older than me! my sister will curse and I tell my parents. They say that don't believe me or they will say to my sister don't do that again. I try to talk to them about how I feel. How I get them to listen to me!?


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iGuest

Jun 7 2008, 03:51 PM

Replying to Becca

My parents just don't listen to more than two words at a time ever
And theres a difference between not listening and choosing to do something different, but if I try reasoning with my parents they just interupt me every 2 words then when I telll them they're not listening they just carry on yelling, ignoring me again. I might sometimes explain why I don't want to wear a coat, but they just never give any reason for anythig except one which I have already proved them wrong about 5 or 6 times

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iGuest

Dec 6 2007, 04:31 AM

I hear you people, and trust me I've tried that. I've tried talking to my parents as a kid, whining and all. I've tried talking to them like an adult, I tried as hard as I could to be mature. I tried the traditional approach, being myself, didn't work. Sometimes I wish they would just shut up and hear me out.

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iGuest

Nov 14 2007, 09:24 PM

I know how ya'll feel. I play the piano and my teacher gave me some music to play in front of the whole school and told me to practice it.

I practiced for a day. My mom would tell me to play the song so she could hear how it sounded. I said "NO" and kept on playing the piano ( the song I was already playing ) anyway, we got into this argument about how this was good for me...and...bla bla bla and we let it go.

My dad yelled at me and he said that if I didnt do this I couldn't go to my friends' house or anything like that. I said OK! The truth is I hate piano, but if I told my parents that they would HATE ME even more!

The next day my teacher told me I would be playing the song next week. I said, my parents said I didn't have to do it. She said she had received an e-mail from my mom that said that I was going to play (I don't think my mom gets it) I won't do it, but how do I get my MOM to listen to me?????

P.S. I could use advice!!!!!

-Tercia14

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Thorned Rose

Jan 26 2006, 01:11 AM

QUOTE(WoLf9015 @ Jan 26 2006, 01:59 PM)

Ya i know how you feel my parents at least my dad anyways dont ever listen to me.  The other day my grandma was drunk and broke all the plates cause she didnt like them anymore and then blamed it on me. I kept telling my dad it wasnt me and he wouldnt listen to me then i kicked him on the floor and i pinned him down  and started yelling at him. I would say my exact words but there a bit harsh and he still wouldnt listen to me so i jus walked out the door. The best way to make them listen is to runaway a few times they should listen after the 3rd time

I'm afraid running away might get their attention but it won't get you their respect and to have a truely positive and constructive relationship with your parents, you want their love and respect not their wrath. No offence, but I don't think that getting physical is going to make them listen to you any better - perhaps out of fear, but then do you really want your parents fearing you? I would only ever recommend running away if your parent(s) (or caregiver for that matter) is abusive and even then only if it is the last resort and you have somewhere safe to go just as I did with my abusive father - I researched what I could do first, found that I didn't have any helpful options, rang my mum (they're divorced) who sent someone to come and get without my father knowing. My father had no respec t for me to start with and he certainly didn't give me any respect for running away. I always talk to my Mum in a civil way and she respects what I say, even if she doesn't agree with it. Getting violent and running off for no good reason will never get you anywhere.

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