I dunno... it's fun to meet people online, and I have one good friend in particular who I talk to in great depth, for hours, nearly every night... but I still wouldn't want to 'date' him, since he lives halfway across the state and it'd be weird.
That, and I have a wonderful b/f IRL, already, haha XD

And that, really, was the reason I was going to reply. My boyfriend had to move out of town (to take a couple classes at a different college) for 9 months, and so, for the first time since I met him, he lived hours away, instead of minutes. I'm taking 19 credit hours in college, and have a full-time job, so I was lucky to see him once a month, IRL. We're both computer people, so we kept in contact over IMs every night, and it was -weird-. Although he's very smart, he types newbishly, in a way that normally makes me assume the other person is a child.. his personality is very feminine, and he just acts different overall. It all seemed quite ackward, for the most part, and strangely, it made me think... had I met him and got to know him online, without ever meeting him IRL, I wouldn't have hardly given him a second glance. Yet now that he's back in town (just moved back about two weeks ago ^^!), everything is lovely, just like it was before.
It really made me think, though.. that my 'favorite person ever' IRL could seem so different when we were forced to chat just in IMs and emails.
I wonder if my favorite people online would seem as appealing IRL, then o.o

 

 

 

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Ok, so I don't really know much about love but as for love online. I don't think so. Anyone can go around and be a realllllly good friend to you. You can hang out play games and what not, but tell me, are they going to be there when you get hurt? Help you run errands? Give you encouragement in real life or help you when you are saddened? You only know this person's personality through the internet. They could just be messing with you so when you do meet them in real life, they can control you and get what they want. Sure some do work out I am sure but probably not many. A couple months ago a guy and girl fell in love over MySpace. The guy one day decided to come see her and when he did...he killed her family and kidnapped her. Not really love now is it?

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When you get to know someone over the internet, try not to ask for their picture. It might be better just to get to know the person's personality before seeing a picture. Sometimes we judge others by what they look like without wanting to.
I used to go on the internet to role playing chatrooms and made a few temporary friends that way. But one day, I made a friend and we really did like each other. One small problem was that the guy was too shy to say anything. I remembered hearing of relationships that didn't happen because both people were too shy to ask each other out so I told the guy I liked him. We already knew each other and voila, we got engaged. We have now been together for almost three years and are getting married soon! He is still very far away but he has visited many times and we talk at least one hour a day on the phone. So true love relationships can happen over the internet. But keep in mind I can smell an online pervert a million miles away just by reading a few typed words (only if the person is speaking directly to me) so I never fell for an online rapist/pedophile/evil person.

Basically true love can happen but watch out what you do and if you meet, do it in a public place with a group of friends (even if they are "hiding" in the backround so the person does not know they are there)

 

 

 

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However, there are people out there who can still disguse themselves to look just look someone willing interested. Also be aware of those who seem to like you, and tag you along, and you get your hopes up for this person thinking they are so good, and then all you turn out to be is 'abit of fun', usually after you have paid $1,000 plane ticket and travelled 2,000km to meet him/her.

I also have meet my Girlfriend over the internet, we didn't see a picture of each other for months on end, and then she gets out of her 'ex-relationship' which was verbal, and sometimes psyical abuse and asked me out, it wasn't until 2 months later did she get to meet me, and were still going. Anything is possible, but just extra care is needed, and lets face it, the same possiblity is possible by meeting someone in a friend party enviroment. These days its a look out whatever you do...

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Heh, congrats. Hope everything goes well when you start living in the same area... sometimes it's a lot different to be living together, even if you've lived in the same town and hung out together a lot beforehand. ^^
You moving closer to him, or is he moving closer to you? :3

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I love a Girl and this is by the net!! thank you Net!

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I totally agree with you. Actually, I think there tends to be two sides to this.

On the internet, there's no way of knowing what kind of person you're dealing with. You can pose as anything you want and change your personality completely and the person on the other end will never know. Heck, you could be a guy thinking you're talking to a girl but really it's another guy. I've had friends who have met people online and have "fallen in love" with them or whatever, and one of them even met one person in real lief that she met online through a game, one time, and he asked her to be his girlfriend that day...I thought that was just really bizarre because how can you know enough about the person to know that you want to be in an actual relationship with them (long distance relationship, in this case)? Personally I think it's kind of stupid.

But then again, the other side to it is that you aren't distracted by their looks and such. The internet can be a much more shallow place because you really get to know the person's personality before you can judge them by their looks and decide they're not the person for you. So that's the good thing about it.

But still, I'm not sure how anyone can actually fall in love with someone online. It just doesn't make sense to me really.

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Yea this is pretty odd, but my friend was "dating" a guy on the net. I asked her why they would date online, and she replied by saying they can always meet and it's almost the same thing.. well alot of people start on the net and then start meeting each other and sometimes, it would work for them. Like my brother, he met this asian Canadian girl on the net and my brother lived in Chicago. They met, but after about 4? years they're not together anymore because of some dumb family issues--anyway, my brother moved to California for a job--starting over. He now works at Google. But the point is, net dating isn't that bad you can meet all sorts of people--loyal, untruthful, etc. but you may find the right person. You will never know, so what is so wrong about net dating?

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Before I think its not possible to love someone on the net.
But my 2 cousins married with the people that they met on the net.
It really depends on the persons involve if they will fall in love on the internet.
Happy for them

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Well, most of those people that are playing those games are adolescents, which means all those hormones are acting up, even when playing online! So, I guess marrying online and all that jazz is more like a fantasy than anything; I guess it's a more advanced form of playing pretend. If that makes sense at all. They know that it will (probably) never be all it is is just pretend, so it doesn't really matter if they know the person or have seen the person or not, it's not all that serious, or I've never seen those online marriage things as too serious, I guess there might be people out there who really get into it..

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