William91
Feb 26 2006, 05:48 PM
| | One of these major things that happend on the net all the time is on many only games there are several people who claim to love each other but they say they dont know each other in real life. I have a good question, how the heck is it possible to love someone on the internet that you do not know, have never seen their face, never even been with them in real life. Just about every game I play theres some wedding for people getting fake marriages but they don't even know each other!Its like going up to a total stranger you do not know and asking them to marry you. I can't believe how many people don't really know what love is. Love is a a lot more serious thing then most people think. You may "like" someone on the net but when your just reading their posts and such, how do you get to know them much?All you basically know is a tiny bit about maybe 5% of their true personality. Im very shy in real life, you would have never known that if I didn't tell you that. What are your opionions about "Loving"someone on the internet? |
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mayank
Feb 26 2006, 07:49 PM
My ideas are similar in this case! Even I dont understand that how can a person know so much about the other person on the internet itself...It's fine if they actually meet through internet and then get to meet physically and then they fall in love but without meeting anyone..??? That's kinda funny and stupid! I think it is just infatuation and nothing else and I think that is the reason why there are so many divorce cases these days!
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ongnoai
Feb 26 2006, 08:40 PM
QUOTE(William91 @ Feb 26 2006, 06:48 PM) 
One of these major things that happend on the net all the time is on many only games there are several people who claim to love each other but they say they dont know each other in real life. I have a good question, how the heck is it possible to love someone on the internet that you do not know, have never seen their face, never even been with them in real life. Just about every game I play theres some wedding for people getting fake marriages but they don't even know each other!Its like going up to a total stranger you do not know and asking them to marry you. I can't believe how many people don't really know what love is. Love is a a lot more serious thing then most people think. You may "like" someone on the net but when your just reading their posts and such, how do you get to know them much?All you basically know is a tiny bit about maybe 5% of their true personality. Im very shy in real life, you would have never known that if I didn't tell you that. What are your opionions about "Loving"someone on the internet?
Well, from what I get personally, I have an odd feeling that, although many people tend to cheat on the net, some of them happen to express true emotions they wouldn't convey even to to their closest relatives or friends. I suspect it all comes from anonymity, let's call it that. I'm quite surprised to get to know at times that girls (I haven't had that for boys) will tell me on private talks on the net that they have been raped, without any poking of mine. Now, is it true, really, I dunno. But somehow, I guess some people need to vent out what load they have on their mind. It's a cold, cold world out there, you know. Now, I ask : are you sure, I mean *DAMN* sure, that the person you meet in actuality, ie in The REAL world, is REAL? I've had opportunities to suspect that fakery is as common a pratice in the REAL world as in the virtual one. A sobering thought, at best. Cheers! 
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sm00nie
Feb 26 2006, 10:48 PM
I have a friend who married someone she had met in EverQuest. They shared a lot in common and then one day decided to meet. They hit it off and they've been married for 2 (hmm 3?) years now. I can't imagine how someone care fall in love without physically meeting. As stated, you have no idea who a person is online until you actually spend time with them. People getting married in game is very very different than in the real world. I like seeing in-game weddings, it adds to the rp feeling of the artificial land, which I imagine is what they're trying to accomplish or perhaps to have a good laugh. Don't take anything that happens online seriously, it's all for fun where there are no risks.
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Julia
Feb 27 2006, 01:54 AM
I think that meeting someone online is okay but marrying them online is just a game. If you marry someone online you know it's not real and you have no real commitment to this person. I think some people will share things a lot more easily online than they will face to face. This can be a real asset in starting a relationship. Also, it's easier to hide things about personal appearance and personality traits when talking online. There would be a point in the online relationship where hopefully at least one of the people would want to meet in person. Then you can make a decision on whether or not you want to marry them.
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brandice
Feb 27 2006, 05:46 AM
I learned my lesson the hard way with this topic. I do not believe that it is possible to actually fall in love with someone over the internet. You can feel very close to someone, you can share things and become great friends, but it's just impossible to feel real, true love for someone that you've never been in the presence of. It's so easy to hide things, sometimes people don't even realize that they are doing it. Most people wouldn't think to tell someone over the internet that they make some annoying sound when they chew or that their snoring is louder than an airplane taking off. Those seem like petty things, but they really do add up. Also (at the risk of sounding like someone from the 70's) there's such a thing as getting a "Vibe" from a person. Sometimes you just don't feel right around people that you meet and it really turns into a sticky situation when you've professed your love to someone online and then they wind up creeping you out in person.
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inyourarms
Feb 27 2006, 07:26 PM
QUOTE(brandice @ Feb 27 2006, 05:46 AM)
I learned my lesson the hard way with this topic. I do not believe that it is possible to actually fall in love with someone over the internet. You can feel very close to someone, you can share things and become great friends, but it's just impossible to feel real, true love for someone that you've never been in the presence of.
It's so easy to hide things, sometimes people don't even realize that they are doing it. Most people wouldn't think to tell someone over the internet that they make some annoying sound when they chew or that their snoring is louder than an airplane taking off. Those seem like petty things, but they really do add up. Also (at the risk of sounding like someone from the 70's) there's such a thing as getting a "Vibe" from a person. Sometimes you just don't feel right around people that you meet and it really turns into a sticky situation when you've professed your love to someone online and then they wind up creeping you out in person.
I agree with everything you've said... I think it's kinda weird to think you're in love with someone you've never seen in real life. But then again, if you always go on webcam or talk on the phone or whatever, it gets more real. I mean if you only IM like once a month and then you think you're in love that's just weird. But if you've been talking for aaaaaages and on the phone/webcam etc.. why not? I agree with the vibe thing too lol. You can't really know peoples' mannerisms unless you meet them in real life.
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mama_soap
Feb 27 2006, 11:05 PM
QUOTE(ongnoai @ Feb 27 2006, 02:10 AM)
Now, I ask : are you sure, I mean *DAMN* sure, that the person you meet in actuality, ie in The REAL world, is REAL? I've had opportunities to suspect that fakery is as common a pratice in the REAL world as in the virtual one. A sobering thought, at best.
I second that thought, totally. It was my immediate reaction when I read what the orignial poster had to say. I can imagine a lot of people finding the concept of falling in love in a chatroom wierd, but I think falling in love with someone you've met for a couple of months is just as wierd, if not more. Sometimes I think I understand people I've never met a lot better than people I've actually met - I mean, there is a lot more you can pack into a few long e-mails even when compared to broken conversations over a period of a few years. I am not sure about love, but I have a lot of good friends I've never met, and I don't find that unnatural. It is about as unnatural as having real friends, if you want me to put it that way  The whole love thing goes way above my head in general, so I suppose I'll not even go there. Cheers!
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brandice
Feb 28 2006, 10:33 PM
QUOTE(inyourarms @ Feb 27 2006, 01:26 PM)
I agree with everything you've said... I think it's kinda weird to think you're in love with someone you've never seen in real life. But then again, if you always go on webcam or talk on the phone or whatever, it gets more real. I mean if you only IM like once a month and then you think you're in love that's just weird. But if you've been talking for aaaaaages and on the phone/webcam etc.. why not? I agree with the vibe thing too lol. You can't really know peoples' mannerisms unless you meet them in real life.
The guy that I met, we emailed each other several times everyday for about a year and a half. Huge emails. We talked on the phone a couple of times but it was a little awkward, I thought maybe it was because we were both nervous- but we really didn't 'gel' on the phone or "in real life." I think mostly I fell into a game, there was nothing really real about it at all. I did a lot of soul searching afterwards and I realized that I was trying to get out of a situation in my life more than I was interested in him. And it was probably the same thing for him. That was from 1998-2000. Afterwards, I decided to do things "normally"  I still talked to people online, but I kept a certain amount of distance for quite a while. Until about a year ago, I guess. I started making an effort to get to know some people a little better that I had been on messages boards with for several years. There's one guy (who lives on the other side of the world) that I've chatted with almost everyday for the last year. (He's sent me pictures and video of himself so I know what he's like in that respect.  ) We've also talked on the phone a couple of times in the last month. It's been going along very, very slowly compared to how some people do things, I do "like" like him, but I won't go so far as to start throwing around serious words. So, anyway, we've talked about meeting a few times and I have decided to go meet him. That will happen in a few months so, let's see what happens this time.
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Nani Cheri
Mar 1 2006, 12:22 AM
I think you can get to know about how the other person you are communicating with tru inet, is without being distracted by his/her looks. Often people attempt to fall in love with the outside and not the inside of a person. But then again, you can never tell if the person is real, or just hides his real personality from you. So, I don't think you can get to know a person and fall in love with that person only tru internet. I mean, i think it will only happend to a few people that will meet after internetting and be with eachother for a long time. But most of the time, I don't think a relation ship will work. Cause you can't get to know the other, 100%. So if you meet and the rest of the thing you didn't knew about that person are positive, it may have a chance. But I don't think it goes that way very often.
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iGuest
Nov 19 2009, 04:53 AM
ok first of all your not just meeting someone right now tonight and
Saying you love them, second of all the reason there is so many
Divorces for the dumb ass who said that is because of real life
Meetings so manypeople confuse lust with love they get married and cant
Stand each other 4 months down the road. So answer me this when u meet
Someone on the net all you can do is talk to them,on I'm or thru a phone
And the more you talk to someone the more mentally connected you
Become. Now I would rather mentally be in love with someone b4 the
Physicaly side cuz then you cant tell if its true. If you talk to
Someone 8 hours a day you don't think it is better then being right next
To someone and not saying anything??? just my opinion
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iGuest
Oct 25 2009, 06:41 AM
She could have been the love of my life...
Loving Someone On The Internet?
I don't normally consider dating anyone more than 30 miles away from me, but on match.Com you can see when someone has viewed your profile and I noticed this one girl who checked me out, and although she lived 800 miles away, I just had this funny feeling about her from her picture alone. It was weird. I looked at her profile and knew I had to find out who she was.
I emailed her - all I said was 'you are beautiful. Who are you?' and what happened next blew my mind. Over the next month, this girl and I arranged several virtual dates through Skype and talked for hours both online and on the phone. We developed a very real connection, which I never thought you could do without meeting each other. We shared an appreciation for verbal expressions of thoughts and emotions, had very similar spirits, and the same philosophies on everything...Including underarm deodrant! I kid you not, I thought this girl was my soulmate.
She decided to buy a plane ticket to come see me and just one week later I started noticing she was less responsive to me. Something had changed, I could tell. I tried to play it cool but after a little while I couldn't take it, and I knew it wasn't just my imagination. Something changed. I asked her to be honest with me and she confessed to meeting someone locally and that she doubted my sincerity, that I might be a player, because I advocated we continue to date other people.
Let me tell you, this girl occupied a space in my heart that no one else had met before. I felt completely shattered when I learned she wouldn't be coming and had found someone else. But I also learned that maybe next time I should be more forthcoming with my true feelings, even if they're online and far away, because I believe I would have fallen in love with this girl. No doubt about it.
No regrets though. She made me realize it didn't take a physical touch to make a true connection, and she gave me hope that I can still find my kindred spirit online. I'm still looking.
-reply by Paul
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iGuest
Sep 21 2009, 06:22 AM
Its true..You can fall in love online.
I met this guy on a internet game called Tibia when I was 15. He was my boyfriend on the game for 2.5 years. During summer breaks we would be online together 15-20 hours everyday..It was sick but we were helplessly addicted to each other. At first we just talked on the game and on MSN..Then webcam and mic..And finally we started talking on the phone every single day..And since I live in USA and he lives in UK. we had 400$ phone bills each month.
We talked about marriage and everything..And we had never even met before at this point! He was my best friend and no one knew me like he did. We knew each other inside out..Talking to someone 10+ hours a day every day..Even if its on the computer/phone for 2.5 years..You get to know them BETTER than if you did in real life. No one spends that much time getting to know each other. I knew I loved him..Meeting him was just a matter of time.
And finally, this past summer, now that I'm 18 I flew half way across the world to see him. And guess what? I was right. Right when I saw him in the airport he put his arms around me and this warm tingly feeling went over me...And I knew these were the arms I wanted to be in for the rest of my life. He then kissed me right then and there..And again...The best kiss I have ever had.
It felt so right.
And let me tell you..Those few weeks I spent with him...Right out of a fairy tale. Before I met him I thought he was the most amazing person in the world and I was madly in love with him. Now that I have met him...He turned out to be 1000x better than I thought..And I love him that much more.
Hes coming to see me in december now :)
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iGuest
Sep 20 2009, 01:03 PM
internet love
Loving Someone On The Internet?
I fell in love with a guy I met over the internet we were so close for almost all of last year, we met up, we got along really well, I was so so in love with him, then one day he just wouldn't talk to me, we were never offically going out but I am still more in love with him then ever today, I feel as if ill never ever get over him.
I try my hardest all the time to forget about him.
I think he hates me.
I'm almost certain he hates me. Its breaking my heart more and more each day.
I wish wish wish I could read his mind, I just want to know how he feels about me, I could never ask him because I don't want him to think I'm stupid for still loving him, I never even told him how in love with him I was and I miss him.
I everyday wish I could go back to last year when everything was diferent, when he cared for me, when we would stay up till morning talking about the randomest stuff and I miss our text messages.
it all changed when I got back from holidays.
we were supposed to see each other. But he never showed.
he said to me that night when I asked him why he didnt show he said: "I forgot about u"
he shattered my heart, and its still shatered till this day.
-reply by girl in love
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iGuest
Apr 27 2009, 04:00 AM
Love Is Differen
Loving Someone On The Internet?
You are telling people they don't know what love is. You do?
There is no definition for love. It's something you feel someone who makes you happy.
Love is different for every single person.
I fell in love with someone I met while playing Halo.
He has made me happier than anyone I have ever been with. So don't go telling people they don't know what love is because ultimately you don't know cause you have never experienced it.
If you have never been with someone in real life it can only make your bond stronger. Vocally speaking is about 10% of communication and that is all me and my boyfriend do. So we are very close and understand each other on such a deep level.
Yes I is DEFINITELY possible top fall in love with someone you have met on line.
-reply by Mindy
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