QUOTE(God-Of-Earth @ Aug 28 2006, 01:28 AM) Hey do you mind if i use that as a quote to my GF. Seriously though. I will never mind infact I will be honoured. Thax GOE

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You know, love really isn't stupid, and it definately doesn't suck. It's just the situation that's difficult. Sure, you like someone, but the situation or circumstance is what makes you think something's wrong. Just be there for her. I'd suggest that if your good friends with her that you be there for her if things are bad. Be there both in the bad and the good and if he's really that bad, she's either going to realize it or you'll be there at just the right time to pick up the pieces. Then, I'd say don't move in to fast, wait a while till you think she's over him so you're not the rebound. Just don't try to steal her from him. That will leave him ready to damage you or her not wanting to be around you because she thinks your trying to break them up when she thinks she doesn't want to and that there's nothing wrong.

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Really, if you sit down and have a long hard think about everything, everything sucks. Why do we have to get up and go to work everyday with only 2 days rest in between? Why do women go through the pain of child birth?

Because some people like the start to finish, child birth then caring for the child until caring no longer needed. And some people rather adopt to save from the pain but like looking after children. What you're after is a relationship that is adopted!

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Love isnt stupid. Its just a little confusing and sometimes painful. If shes got a b/f then shes off limits, but show her you know how to treat a woman better than her b/f and you may get her in the end......

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If she has a B/F that doesn't eman you can't be a freind. when she has a problem with her man, you can be the shoulder for her to cry on/lean on. being a friend is better than nothing at all. Plus it keeps the slight window of oppurtunity of you and her getting together in the event something happens.

always remember, it could always be worse (refer to my thread )

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There is at times a caution with becomming a friend, I once became a friends with a chick, and at the end of all the B/S i got the whole, 'Your to much like a brother...' talk. Then went found some other guy she had already been out with who is a total freak retard but hey, who am i to judge? Good Luck again,...

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You sound like an angry child with this topic name... And how your post goes makes you sound quite young. You shouldn't only focus on one girl with a boyfriend, especially if she really likes him. I'm a girl and if a guy liked me and I was conflicting with my boyfriend and the guy just jumped in for the chance, as if trying to push me and my BF apart, i'd get angry and hate the guy. Don't be obvious.

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Physical attraction itself is simply a primitive reaction part of every sexually reproducing animal's genetic makeup. It is in the interest of such a species to have such a reaction to the opposite sex. Companionship is another which is the second makeup of love.

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Well I say love doesn't suck. Love is how you guys, and girls are born . You might think love sucks now but if you were with her then you wouldn't say that anymore but ehh thats life you win some and lose some but don't worry dude there's more fishes in the sea. There has been people that don't treat others the same, but if thats her choice then theres nothing you can do except try to get her to love u as much as u can but if she is into her boyfriend mistreating her then thats her lose. You need to bounce back up and find another girl, or maybe you could find her twin haha. who knows.

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Well I only have one advice for you. First you have to know that love is certainly not stupid and it doesn not suck! True love is a state of mind and it means that you have compassion to all beings - that is true love and it is very hard to achieve. The guy-girl thing can be very positive and also very negative so the main thing that one should think about is if a certain relationship aims towards spritiual development of both partners with the same goal in life or if their "love" is based only on sex, emotions and all that stuff! If the latter is true, it is very hard to have a successful relationship!

So, with other words that means that you have to be the best friend of your girlFRIEND and she has to be your best friend. Friendship is very often forgotten eventhough it is included in the words boyFRIEND and girlFRIEND! It is the basis on which you should build every relationship.

Without knowing someone, you simply should not be surprised if he or she is not the way you wanted her/him to be!

And now your "problem": Just let it go man, wait and do not try to put them apart as your intentions certainly ain't good if your are doing that. Think about the guy that is dating her - how would you feel if someone would try to get your girlFRIEND?? Be friendly and nice to that girl and also respect her current situation and her boyfriend. Time makes miracles and you never know, you just might end up with her one day or you might realize that she sooo wasn't the right girl for you...what will happen is in your hands, because there is only one rule that governs this world:

IF YOU DO GOOD, GOOD WILL COME TO YOU! IF YOU DO BAD, BAD WILL HUNT YOU DOWN!

Follow the inner voice that tells you to do good and makes you feel bad if you do something wrong and happiness will find you!

Best whishes

 

 

 

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