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READ THIS How Do I Get Over My First Love Who Cheated On Me? You have to realize that this really sounds like a 1 sided love. She doesn't love you. Nobody treats their loved ones like the way she treats you. Seems as if she is not even making excuses, she is actually being brutally honest with you. YOU are making excuses for her by saying she does these things because of her emotional/ mental problems. She is seeing other guys right in front of your face and you ar...
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I'm sorry, man, about what she did to you. I know that you loved this girl with your life, like really loved her. And I don't mean to be cruel or rude, but:
Maybe in a way you got yourself into this. Maybe you might be too young to be in love so deeply. Maybe you got a little too attached. Maybe you were so blinded with her beauty that you didn't realize the truth. Maybe you misunderstood. There. I've said it, and I've done what you asked: I've slapped you in the face with the truth. Hard. What should you do? Walk away. Just walk away from her and start anew. Don't try making up with her - she doesn't deserve you, and she's proven that many times over. Gather up the hurt and anger and walk away. Don't look at her with fondness ever again. Will it be hard? Yes. Will it be scarring? Yes. But you have to do it - it's just one of those things. I'm sorry. QUOTE(seez @ Apr 10 2007, 02:00 PM)  I'm sorry, man, about what she did to you. I know that you loved this girl with your life, like really loved her. And I don't mean to be cruel or rude, but: Maybe in a way you got yourself into this. Maybe you might be too young to be in love so deeply. Maybe you got a little too attached. Maybe you were so blinded with her beauty that you didn't realize the truth. Maybe you misunderstood. There. I've said it, and I've done what you asked: I've slapped you in the face with the truth. Hard. What should you do? Walk away. Just walk away from her and start anew. Don't try making up with her - she doesn't deserve you, and she's proven that many times over. Gather up the hurt and anger and walk away. Don't look at her with fondness ever again. Will it be hard? Yes. Will it be scarring? Yes. But you have to do it - it's just one of those things. I'm sorry. I think someone can totally be truly in love at a young age. I don't think anyone can, but there are people who are developed enough at that age mentally to understand love as opposed to infatuation. I do agree with your advice, though. You just have to move on - it's hard, it's painful, and it sucks, but you need to get on with life - there are other things to life than being in a relationship and, as unromantic a thing as that is to say, there'll be others as well. Soon, you'll find another girl and you'll forget all about past problems. If you don't I'd seek therapy because then that's starting to be abnormal.
I dont know if this post is late or not but... she appears to be willing to be with you but you are, naturally, jealous about her "involvement" with the other guy. Me thinks you should give her space and give yourself a break - admitted it would be real difficult and you do not need to hate her to do it but uyou've got to do it, for your sake and for hers. It is bound to help you get a fresh perspective on things and life.
I hope that helps, good luck.
I'm really sorry to hear that...
But I'm actually happy to know that I'm not alone. And I really do understand how you feel, man. Been through the same shoes you are currently on and I still think I'm still wearing the other half of the pair until now. Although yours is worse than I am. I felt so relieved when I read your post. Thanks, man. Maybe you'd feel the same way (more than the comments, suggestions and advices) if I post my own story here. I feel in love with this girl and she cheated on me so many times I don't want to count it anymore. And every time she goes back to me, I keep on accepting her like nothing has happened. And after a few months and promises, she'll do it again. I'm still wondering why I always fail to leave her after what she did to me. Maybe I'm just foolish enough to stick with her. And those cold treatment you were saying,... Yes, it's cold but it burns so much. (agree?). Well, we did break up (her decision) and I'm at lost for months..even now. I just made up my mind to set new goals. Goals where I can benefit. I believe it's the wise decision though it's still saddens me. Wish that gives you some hope that you're not alone with this kind of problems. As for her treatment, she may actually be just waiting for you to get out of her life. I know and understand how much you love her but would you go so far as learning how to hate her just to earn the courage to leave her? Sometimes, love isn't really enough. Well then mate... a toast to us... Hope to see you get up and love again.
I am sorry you are going through all of this, am not gonna slap you in the face, i feel you will walk away eventually, when u love someone is hard to let go no matter what they have done to you, but their will come a time when u can't take no more and know that the time has come to leave it all behind. it will hurt for a while, but u will get through it. u sound like u have some good friends, let them be there for you to help u through all this.
You will move on to love again, think a lot of us have been there and r proof  So good luck Caz
Man just walk away she's pulling you for your nose and you don't deserve and noone deserv such thign. If she like to see other guys let her and go away this is the best you can do for your sake. Why? Because eventualyl you will change after she keeps on cheating you like that.
It will be hard and often you will think that you made mistake of your life. Often you will think about it you will not be able to keep it up you may even have problems with sleeping but you have to do it. BEcause eventually she will eat you inside and there will be nothing just emtiness. Try to solve this man.
In my personal experiences I have learned that letting someone who cheated back into your life is a huge mistake! I have had guys cheat on me, swear they would never do it again, they were sorry, and all the lame excuses one could fathom. I had my heart torn out, ripped to shreds and stomped on more times than I would care to count, but it's always the same. Once someone has broke your trust, you can't get it back. Somewhere in the back of your head it's going to be there, and what she's doing just elevates it more. People change, sometimes for the worst. There is someone better out there, someone who will treat you the way you deserve, and respect you. Keep your head up and move on! I know it's hard, but it's the best advice I can give. Life goes on, sometimes relationships don't. You can't put yourself through the pain, and if she loved you, she wouldn't stray.
QUOTE(Sammy82 @ Apr 10 2007, 04:39 PM) So I've been dating this girl for about 5 years now. Things were great at the beginning but 3 years in her father passed away and things went crazy. During our fourth year together she started to spiral down into depression, most likely due to her father's death. Despite her constant sadness she never allowed herself to talk to me about her problems. As time went by, she started meeting some guys, 3 to be exact, and began to confide in them about her sadness and depression. This gradually developed into feelings and she was seeing these 3 guys behind my back, at different times of course. When I found out, she claimed that they were only friends and they were temporary relief from all the sadness she was going through. I believed her. All 3 times. She was a good girl when I met her, that's why i fell for her. She was very kind and considerate. But now things are so different and she's no longer the person I fell in love with. But I'm such a hopeful son of a *BLEEP* that I don't allow reality to soak in. Everyone of my friends, including hers, have been telling me to walk away. And I've tried but can't because I know she's got a medical condition that's making her make irrational decisions and act on impulse. I am also very close to her family. They love me just as much as I love all of them. Now i'm torn. This girl i'm with is constantly going through emotional ups and downs and is constantly looking for relief away from me. Because I am her reality. I remind her that life isn't always peachy. I remind her of the times we had with her father before he passed. Like I her family loves me. She still sees guy number three. She said she can't just cut him off like that. She needs time to slowly pull back away from him. But to me it seems like forever. He calls her everyday, and he emails her everyday. He's making her gifts and she would call him when she feels like *BLEEP*. And she does this while i'm around. Sometimes she would wake up in the morning feeling very irritated and groggy and she would be soo cold to me, then she would call him up and all is smiles and laughter. But to me, this is her depression getting the best of her. Can somebody slap me in the face with the truth. Friends have been telling me all this but it just doesn't register. How do I harness enough hate and anger to walk away. I am not an angry person. I try to give her the benefit of the doubt, but she's just abusing it. What should I do? What could I do? Life's a *BLEEP* and mine is a perfect example of it. I'm torn and everyday a little more of me dies because of her.
Dude, u remind her bout her father and that makes her feelings even worst. you know, girls are so different than boys. girls don't care what first love means. when girl don't love boy anymore, she started to do something that make boy's heart bleed. you should just go away dude. leave her. i know it's hurt and it cut deep down inside your heart. some scars will never heal, but it makes us (boys) stronger to face every problem we encounter in our life. let her go and start a new life. you will keep thinking and even dreaming bout her in early time after you leave her and its normal. you need time to heal your broken heart and when all is over, you can take a deep breath and big smile.
Well it happens my 1st love cheated on me and it broke my heart in high school but you live and learn and you just move on. just leave them in the dust. someone else will come along i know for a fact it happend with me i found my love the very next year and weve been together ever since and we got married last year it will be ok... everyone is ment for someone but dont dwell in the past.
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How Do I Get Over My First Love Who Cheated On Me? You have to realize that this really sounds like a 1 sided love. She doesn't love you. Nobody treats their loved ones like the way she treats you. Seems as if she is not even making excuses, she is actually being brutally honest with you. YOU are making excuses for her by saying she does these things because of her emotional/ mental problems. She is seeing other guys right in front of your face and you are just taking it. She does not love you. It will never work. There can not be a happy ending. You will only get more hurt the longer you are in this. She is a disease, a metastatic cancer, spreading throughout your body, slowly killing your insides. My advice to you, dump her now and walk away before she dumps you. Do you really want to get ****ted on for so many years and then dumped by girl that ****ted on you instead of her being sorry and feeling remorse? If you leave her...You will atleast have a very little bit of dignity left. Trust me, I was you.
I dont know what to do.
How Do I Get Over My First Love Who Cheated On Me? Hi I'm Bi and me and my girlfriend have been together for about a year or so I love ger with all my heart I really do i have done so much and gave up so much for her. Ive been disowned by my own family. Shes cheated on me A LOT made out like multiple times with the same girl has told other girls we broke up so they would like her they actually fell in love with her and she would tell them she loved them too and one day they would be together. When I found these things it broke my heart so much but I'm still with her. I cant leave her I love her to much. She said shes gonna stop but recently I feel like shes hiding something I find all these things and I don't wanna tell her cause shes gonna do the usual and tell me I don't trust her and say i am liar and all this stuff I don't know what to do. Its so hard and I hurt so much.. -question by Chenia
Time will heal man..
it took me about 2 years to fully get over my ex who cheated on me on VALENTINES DAY!! but now i don't really care about her anymore..it doesn't even bother me to see her making out with another guy Gosh, why couldn't my bf have stuck around for me to get past my depression. And I never even looked at another dude, just needed to get over stuff, I could infact see the light at the end of the tunnel when he decided to end our love, he left me after being depressed for three months while I was just on my way to sorting mysef out. Your GF is going to kick herself something silly when you do decide to walk away. You know what you should do, you should tell her, simply, truthfully and calmly that you can't handle the situation the way it is, between the two of you, tell her EVERYTHING that is upsetting you, why, what, when, how, where... And tell her you want a break to sort your head out. And really take a good long break. That line is usually reserved for the real break ups, but you should be honest, and strong, and walk away while you are STILL in love. Take some time apart, think about every thing, more importantly give her space to think, and then have a good heart to heart. Don't just keep all this bottled up, don't listen to advice from friends to just walk away, give her a chance to understand you are upset, and think about weather she wants to make that effort to fix what is wrong in your relationship, she will want to fix it if she understands how painful all this is for you, and if she doesn't then she is not worth is. PLease don't just let everythig simmer inside without talking to her, don't let your feelings die before you tell her whats wrong. Give her a chance to fix things before you just give up on each other. This approach takes guts, because it means that you will hurt like hell if she decides that she doesn't want you, but the up shot is that if it works out you get to rebuild your relationship stronger and happier than it ever was before. don't take the cowards way out, by building up a hatred towards her, WHILE YOU ARE STILL WITH HER, and then dump her one day out of the blue, leaving her devistated and wanting to fix things, but you have made yourself hate her so much you can't bare the sight of her any more. And no matter what she says you ignore It really isn't fair that way. Tell her if you are upset, give your love a chance, risk, the hurt dude. -reply by clair
Aracley,
Please see my posting to Sammy. I will add this: First, the old,'It's not what you think' line, tells me that he believes that you're a 'mark'. Secondly, the fact that he took advantage of a vulnerable and needy person, tells me that he is a preditor. So I ask you this: 'Do you value youself enough to gravitate away from such people? Boy, it's tough. I know that it feels like knives in the chest. I know that everything happens for a reason. Perhaps it is better that you learned these things now, rather than 2 years from now. My prayers are with you, and with him, as he needs them every bit as much as you do. Michael |
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