Sentress
Feb 8 2007, 01:53 AM
Recently, someone I know broke up with their boyfriend of six years. The first thing that came to my mind was "what makes you realise that the relationship is no good after six years, that you couldn't have known at, say, 3, 4 or 5 years?" Apologies if this is too dumb and open-ended a question, but at my age (19) and lack of life experience, I just can't get my head around it. I'm currently in a year-long relationship, and it's bizarre to think that in 2 years it's possible that we'll hate each other. Excluding the obvious betrayals such as infidelity, what the hell would cause that? I understand that the responses will be varied, and it's the range of experiences that I'm interested in hearing. The issue(s) that ended the relationship -- did they arise unexpectedly? Or did you always sort of know? I have this morbid curiosity to know what can make something really really good evaporate into nothing. My friends are too young to help me with this, and I'm too impatient to wait three heartbreaks and a restraining order to find out myself.
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SSBC
Feb 8 2007, 02:03 AM
Ah, I see what you mean. Well, a good friend of mine broke up with his girlfriend after about 2 years or so, solely because there wasn't enough "vroom" left in the relationship. He said she became tedious, and nothing was new. Now I believe thats crap, really. I believe some people just get bored after awhile, but if it is your true love you'll never get bored, eh? I know this isn't a straight forward answer to your question, but theres gonna be a lot of answers to your question and there all gonna be varied, you just really never know. Hope I helped atleast some, best of wishes in your relationship and don't let it get boring. 
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truefusion
Feb 8 2007, 02:31 AM
The relationship breaks usually because one failed to meet (unknown) requirements set by their partner, or cause they were just being played/used. Woe to the one who plays another for a fool! True love never fails. The hard part is the breaking up—they usually always never end properly. Everyone needs closure, but sadly some don't receive it. No closure and pain may remain, if there was any pain to begin with. Most of the time, anger or hate is the person's closure—not the best, proper way to go about it.
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jlhaslip
Feb 8 2007, 02:34 AM
It is usually something I did or didn't do...
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sylenzednuke
Feb 8 2007, 02:57 AM
My post might sound dumb and totally useless as it is I am just 14 and can't really think of that now. As far as I've heard and a lot of people above me have said, true love never dies, you might get bored in a relationship, and sometimes it so happens that one person starts thinking that this is true love and sometimes sets very high expectations from the other person but never reveals it thinking that the other person is already knowing about it as it is "true" love but then the expectations aren't fulfilled and you end up losing faith or interest in the other person. Sometimes after so many years of a strong relationship, a person gets convinced that his/her partner is totally aware of her affection and won't ever doubt anything, then they kinda don't mind mingling along with the members of the opposite gender a little more than they used to, this might create insecurity in the other partner as suddenly his/her partner is getting closer to the other guys/girls. Sometimes it's just plain misunderstanding that makes people break relationships, all these years the other partner has been always there to clear out your relationship but now he/she is sure that you are well aware that you won't cheat on him/her or something, then a misunderstanding arises again but this time the partner isn't that interested in solving it thinking that it's not necessary due to the fact that they have already proved their strong affection, this might lead the other partner to think that he/she is no longer interested in the relationship seeing that there is no clearing out of the misunderstandings. There are a lot of answers to your question actually but the thing is these are all I can guess for now. Hope this helped you to find your answer.
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TypoMage
Feb 8 2007, 03:17 AM
Well I would think that it would be umm. Well this would kinda be a guess but cheating probably. OR you learn someting about them that you did not before you got into the relationship.
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dre
Mar 30 2007, 11:30 PM
Here's what I think: 1. Cheating- will obviously be a good reason to break up 2. Buildup of tension and unresolved problems between the couple 3. Immaturity- not being commited to relationship.
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Misanthrope
Mar 31 2007, 12:17 AM
The term, "youth is wasted on the young" might be appropriate here. I would agree with True Fusion in as much as "true love never dies." However, when relationships are engaged in too early in life, true love is often not recognized for what it is, and thus discarded in favor of other flights of fancy. But regardless of age, what I've noticed in untimely breakups are expectations that have been set far too high. People often interpret what they see on television and other media as some sort of moral and/or cultural guide post, reflecting what some faceless entity says is "cool" onto their own spouse, girlfriend or boyfriend. This is a dreadful mistake, as tv is generally designed to illicit feelings of inadecuacy and insecurity among viewers. No man or woman can live up to the unrealistic figures as presented in the media. When the initial thrill has died, shallow partners move on to greener pastures. What once was the "seven year itch" has degraded to the five year itch. Now, it's more like the one-year itch as America continues it's moral decline into oblivion.
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sunzoje
Mar 31 2007, 03:05 AM
basically, relationship depends on trust and truth. if both the persons have these virtues. the relation will last for ever. in due course of time if only one of this is betrayed, ,the relationship collapse. because trust and truth spreads love.
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-[Nero]-
Apr 16 2007, 05:59 PM
I say we expect what we want from your partner. Things just wont come true if you keep fantasizing them. Also, remember that BOYS and GIRLS are different. Take this as we're different species. Some of our (boys) emotional feeling and mental thinking are completely different than the girls'. When girls have problem, the boys tend to think that they want solutions, but that's not the case. What they want you is to LISTEN and APPRECIATE, and nothing else. After that, give her a NICE WARM HUG. Awhhhhhhh... Bleh, if your relationship started becuz you and your partner followed your instinct or temptation for love, in my experience, it wont last.
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iGuest
Nov 9 2009, 03:44 AM
6 years
What Causes Long-term Relationship To End?
I have been with my boyfriend for six and a half years now. We've been together since we were.. Oh wow, 12 and 13 actually ha. So I have an interesting perspective to bring up here. Long- term relationships span a.. Long amount of time. People can change a lot throughout long term relatioships, so it's not neccesarily that they love you any less, but that as time goes on there are other things to consider, talk about, prioritize.
So at 3 years, your friends may have realized things working differently, at 4 maybe trying to push through hard times, 5 not wanting to loose them and at 6 finally coming to terms that they aren't in the same place that they were when they first got together. I'm not saying I know these friends of yours, just that its a possibilty.
Another option is that perhaps they're in long distance relationships, and that takes a toll on the two of them as well, there are lots of factors - not just that in two years you'll wake up and hate your girlfriend all of a sudden. It will work out if its meant to.
also I apologize for realizing you posted this question in february - lol
-feedback by michelle
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iGuest
Oct 7 2009, 03:21 AM
Sometimes, even with all the truth and trust in the world, sometimes it takes a while, especially if they are good people, to realize that you just aren't meant for each other. The issues you thought you could resolve if you could just be strong and try become more and more obvious that it just might not be enough.
In a relationship, the last thing you want to do is to force your partner to change. The priority is on making each other happy. If this is not possible, you want to end the relationship, before you get married, before you have children, or before you end up hating and resenting someone who is truly good and has done nothing wrong.
Love doesn't solve it all and doesn't always last forever. Sometimes loving someone really does mean admitting that you can't do it anymore. And just because you break up doesn't mean it wasn't really love.
My 6-year relationship just ended. I'm almost 30 and it's terrifying. He's all I've known since I graduated college. We both tried so hard. And we both loved each other sincerely and with all of our hearts. We communicated. We compromised. We gave everything. Sometimes, it just has to end.
And that is okay. It's okay to fail at relationships. And sometimes you don't know that it won't work until the day that it's over. That's okay, too.
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Gazeekoo
Jul 16 2009, 09:14 PM
Hehe. You just answered all your questions and then asked them again.  I guess you should either put all your eggs in one basket or keep them safe with you. No point in distributing an egg or two to lots of baskets. Er, that was a rather horrible analogy. Anyway, um, advice... try and do new things together. Discover stuff together. But at the same time, don't suffocate each other. Plan surprises for him. All the things people normally tell couples to do, but which are so very hard to do on a regular basis. All the best!
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Polipop
Jul 15 2009, 09:30 PM
I'm totally agree with jullaby. Some people starts to think there's no need to keep the love alive, because they think they'll never lose each other. I think that the worst someone can do. It may cause infidelity and things like that... And lost a relationship that with proper care, would last forever
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iGuest
Jul 15 2009, 06:10 AM
in need of some relationship advice
What Causes Long-term Relationship To End?
I've been with my boyfriend for about 1.5 years I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 23, we've both been in relationships before but I think I could say, for the both of us, love never swept either of us off our feet like it has this time... It was the kind of relationship that just happened when neither of us we're looking for one, we fell in love and things have been awesome...Lately I think I've been feeling bored, which is ok because thats normal right? hes an accountant and I'm on my way to being a teacher but I still think I'm finding out who I am, we fantasize about the future, moving in, marriage, and a life together. I feels good to have thoughts like that I get really excited and can't wait, but sometimes it scares me. I get scared that it won't happen the way we want it to. I think these thoughts come from the abandonment issues I have that stem from when I was younger and my father disconnected himself from my sister I after my parents divorced.Sometimes my negative thoughts get to the core of me and I feel myself trying to withdraw. People I talk to about this say its normal but you just gotta be positive and if worse comes to worse and bad things happen with me and my guy, we'll both be able to work through them or let them go and move...I don't wanna picture myself with anyone else...But is it a mistake to put all my eggs in one basket?... I know we're still kinda young, but they say when you know you know. And I think I know. I just get confused I guess. I dunno, grrr. Any adivce/comments would be great! thanks so much
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