You may very well find my response completely unacceptable, but it might of interest to someone out there. I don't believe young people should focus on romantic relationships, period. I was lucky in as much I attended strict Catholic schools where that sort of thing was rightly discouraged, thank God. Yes, I know it's portrayed as the "thing to do" on TV and other hypnotic mediums that would see you enslaved the rest of your life, but it will keep you down and potentially hinder your chances of success in life. Right now, you have no (I hope) kids or major responsibilities, and your parents are probably footing the bill. Many people find this time of life is the only chance they have to get a college education, and maybe participate in world travel. Now is the time to learn and prepare for life, not tie yourself down with a "girlfriend." What you do now sets the precedent for the rest of your life.

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The way i see your thoughts Misanthrope are in good light, however, the times are changing, it is now the thing that they do, it would need another change back the other way to change the next generation. It's like the TVs getting bigger, Fast Food more popular, longer working hours, working from home, sex/relationship at young age and getting younger. We keep inventing things that make it easier to have safe sex or ways out if something goes wrong at unsafe sex and new ways other then intercourse are becoming more popular, drinking age is down, therefore people are just getting invovled. IT's just the world changing and maybe for the worse or better, who knows?

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As long as you're seeing each other on weekends, it should be okay. That's how often I see my girlfriend, since we both work and she has school [which is 20-30 minutes away, she lives in a dorm].

Any more than two weeks at a time is where you start to get problems, I think.

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The relationship could work as long as you want as it all depends on the people who are in it,long distance relationship easily work for mature relationships which have trust and understanding for each other as it all depends on the person involved in the relationship and not any statistics,in your question you have not told that how long you have been in a relationship,bcoz if it is bigger in time that you were in relationship than it is easy for you to maintain the relationship ,but yet again there is a limit that how long could you carry it,may be for a yeare it is possible but as long as you people continue more and more there is a possibility that it might strain as there wont be much connection except wekends,but yet it could also positively affect your relationship like you both would be very excited for the wekends you people meet,because as you have remained far so far,it would help you connect more as you meet,,but as i said it all depends on the people involved and how they take the particular relationships.
Yo improve your relationship ,stay in touch on messenger ,on phone and keep meetig all weekends no matter what,try to make more precious moments from the time available ,keep loving each other and if you are grown enough ,why not move together or you might also when you go to university ,make sure you both move to the same university and try to get cinnected as more as possible
give her surprises like visitng her sometime in a weekday,girls love surprises and they really love it . so keep doing it and make your relationship as live and happening as possible

 

 

 

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There is only so much a person can do, you have to fully trust that the other person won't cheat or go in another direction when tempted. Although, if they do, you must think, Is it for the best? I don't know if i'd be able to handle seeing my girlfriend once a weekend, even if it was the whole weekend. I think its a case by case basis as to weather you and her can keep it going. I say good luck to all those who are in long distance relationships.

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I personally think you have no problem. If you both want this relationship to work, then let it happen. Do not try to risk anything which could wreck the relationship. Just talk to here, and make sure she knows how you are feeling. Things should turn out for the best.

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I pretty much agree with Forbez here. I have seen long distance relationships crumble.....but that's because I'm in college and it's more a matter of will-power than the distance getting in the way. Too many guys or girls with significant others back home....hours away. It leads to you looking for a better guy/girl to get your jollies with and leads to arguments on the phone. Not being able to see each other or have physical contact can hurt the relationship.

For this case however.....being that it's only 2 hours away and you'll be seeing each other.....you should be alright. Just do what Forbez said.....don't do anything that might mess up what you have and just be honest. You should be fine IMO.

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Will Power is dealing with distance as well. If you lived nxt door to each other you wouldn't need as much will power to resist someone else as if you lived three states away. You tell yourself you won't be caught etc. etc and then you hit the road where you both come together, but which both?

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First of all, I feel for you. This also happened to me, but I managed to get through it. First you should try and call her everyday so she doesn't think that your cheeting on her. Second try and see her as often as possible and contact her often. Third, do not upset her because she could (and I'm sorry but this is the sad truth) be thinking about leaving you and this could strenghin her feelings towards that. So try following these steps and you should be fine.

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My girlfriend moved six hours away, and I constantly worry about her.... Our bond is stronger than both of us have ever experienced, but I still worry about her, and what could be happening since I'm so far away. I'm soo worried that she will lose interest after a long period of time. We're looking to be apart for about 2 years, until she finishes school. Is that normal for me to worry so awkwardly....?

-Matt

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