After being single for a couple years I found myself alone broken hearted at home on mat leave, the lack of social interraction can drive one bonkers, makes for easy prey...only one problem I was so hurt, afraid and bitter that no one could get through to me. This gave me the opportunity to take a good hard look at myself and figure out what I wanted in a relationship. I saw many friends get burned by people online, men and women alike.
Then I fell in love, so I thought, with a man who lived hours away in another city, we spoke day after day for 8 months. Hours, on the phone long distance,many calling cards later and the net. I thought I was in love. So we met up in his hometown. I stayed with my girlfriend who lived in the city, met briefly hung out at a mall, did lunch and soon he had to take off. Not even a kiss goodbye(my fault) I didnt want to spoil it. I should have know something was off but we planned to meet a second time....This time he didnt show. At least I had my dignity in tack, smart move on my part. By then I was so turned off by relationships.

It so happened that a gentleman, a widower in his early 40's was looking for love, we started talking on messenger casually. I was not into men but for the sake of my 3 boys I had to give the opposite sex a fair chance. I took my girlfriends advice and took his offer to meet at a local mall just to see if we had a friendship vibe. I thought to myself, this guy is not my type but hes cool. Our date went smashingly well and he asked me out to the movies the next day. He was respectful, funny, kind sweet..everything I was looking for. We've been dating ever since and have a 6 month old son. We get a kick out of telling people we found love online. It's just another avenue.

 

 

 

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I think it's kinda stupid to find a bf/gf on the internet. It's better to get with someone who you already know and admire. It does't have to be someone with good looks basically. You can't trust people on the internet, especially because you don't know they're background life. Like I said, find someone you already know

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Well, I never had a real relationship on the internet with all the mails and stuff, but I did dated someone from the internet! He lived in another city, but we had a relationship for 2 months so: IT DOESN'T WORK AT ALL!!
It's true, you get to know eachother first, from the inside, and not from the outside. Thats one thing thats good about it, the disadvantage of it: there isn't a first love flash like you have when you sit in the lunchroom and HE walks in. The eye contact has not been taken place, which I find very Important...

So, no! No more relationships with boys I met from the Internet for ME...

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Here's another warning about hooking up with someone you find on the internet. If things go bad, they can go bad for a lot of people.

I know of this couple who met on the internet, their relationship was very public. the guy shipped this girl over and they got married. It turns out, the guy was nuts, and the girl went back to her home country without an explanation.

Since then, the guy has been hacking forums and pretty much stalking anyone on the internet that he thinks may have had any contact with this girl. He's even following my actions, I think because he thinks I know somebody who might have talked to her!

You never know how crazy people really are sometimes.

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Alrighty guys, it's time for one of my slick oh-so-inelligent replies to life situations. And hear me out. I'm not typing all this for nothing.

When I was younger, I tried internet relationships. I "went out" with one girl, named Jessie, internetly known as foxfire. Anyways, we met on a Pokemon Yahoo group, (yes, that's right ladies and gents, Johnny was a dork, can you believe it?) Anyways, we met there, and we also hung out in this game called Graal (http://www.graalonline.com) which is now totally lame. So we started chatting, doing the whole childish "I love you" "I love you too" "I love you more" game and basically all we did was talk about how cool Graal and Pokemon were, and how nice it was to do so with each other.
Anyways, so a couple months go by, and eventually, she told me we had to "break up". So that happened, and we pretty much never talked again.

Then my next 'net "girlfriend" was a girl named Scarlett. Oh dear Scarlett. (We're still friends btw) We met in Graal again, and Scarlett was a little different. She actually was my friend for a LONG time (4 years, maybe?) until we "got together" and basically, the ending remained the same, except that we recently got back in touch, and we've been chatting about how dumb we were, and we plan to go to an anime convention together this year, because I happened to move near where she lives.

Next story, is my last girlfriend, who was actually my girlfriend in real life, we got together a couple years ago, just after I moved from New York to Houston. Everything was great (oh, btw, yes, real life relationships are SOOOO much better, and not just because of sex, kissing, whatever. I'll get to that later) anyways, everything was great until I had to move here. Then things got weird, and she basically told me she still wanted to be together long-distance until I came back (I'm planning to move back in a year or two), and so basically, it turned into a 'net relationship. We talked and such about when I'm visiting and all that good stuff for a month or two, until she broke it off, and said she thinks I'd be better off with someone close (which, I think, is a total lie, and she just didn't want to tell me that I was a total loser, which I was.) and so yeah, that ended.

Basically, what I'm trying to say, is that internet relationships don't work, regardless of if you're going to or have met the person in real life. They simply don't work. It may -seem- like there's love, but there really isn't. You just want someone to talk to, someone to say they love you. A real relationship is totally different. You can literally feel one another's love, and express it in ways that actually show that feeling, even without kissing, hugging, or having sex. Just being with that person physically makes all the difference, and I'm not joking. I can just be out bowling or something with friends, and still be giving and recieving more love than I ever would on the 'net.

And about cyber sex. Cyber sex is nothing. It's "ooh" "ahh". Nothing. Sex is nothing until you can actually feel the other person's love, which you can never get through the internet.


That's my story(s), and I'm sticking to it. Take my advice. I've gone through this more times than just those three, and it always results the same. There is no real love through the 'net.

(I better get some frickin sweet credits for this...)

EDIT -- Oh, but there is an exception. If you KNOW, I mean KNOW, that the person is right, you might have a chance. But you still can't date solely on the 'net.

 

 

 

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