About one month ago, i meet this amazing chick. Although she was young and had a little daughter of 1 month old at the time, i liked her alot. As the story goes on, wouldn't you have it, she asks me out, along with another chick at the same time. Now like anyone else i spent couple of days making my decision, I choose her over this other chick. Did i make the wrong choice?

After about 4 weeks, she was going 2 and half hours away to visit her friends and family for only 3 weeks, and return there shortly after. So she left, and she left me on great terms, she got down there was having a wonderful time. However, someone didn't like the way she was being a mother, so she was battling to keep her daughter through the courts all well and good so far.

Do you kno how hard i hits when a friend rings you and says that she wants to be just friends because she can't handle the stress of having a boyfriend and fighting to keep her daughter as well. Now that i can agree with and deal with. With the mind thought that we will get back together when this is over and she ishappy.

Nope. I was wrong as always Now she is going to move a day whole day up states. 24 hours straight driving from where i am. She wants to keep her baby, so that is where the father lives and his family. Now, i was heartbroken by this, as anyone would be. But i did have to agree, knowing the court system quite well, knowing this was the best option for her and the baby.

Then she says she never loved me, and that she didnt know what she wanted. She is going to try and sort things out with her ex-boyfriend and maybe get back together with him be the onl person she has ever loved. Well, im over it now. I have let my steam out....

 

 

 

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All I have to say is bummer man, thats the tricky part ot relationships that involved a children. Usually the father or mother are beyond stress out that they are not thinking clearly, which you mention in the post. At hte time I would have said it would be a tough call on who to go out with. But after now I would have gone out with the non-child date.

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It's hard to make decisions like that. You just have to go off gut instinct. I'm not saying it was the wrong decision though. You never know what you are going to get. It's hard to deal with stuff like this and even harder when she piles her emotions onto you. You're good now that your over it. That's always the hardest stage. Good luck in finding someone else!

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Thanks, and yes i'm over it. No lik the relationship was a long-term one. The reason i choose her in the first place was that we di bond so much better then me and this other chick. I love children, so that didn't play a factor in m decision, although alot of peoples advice said it would have. I guess it did in the end, but i care more for the childs future then my own.

As for your comment in finding someone else husker, thanks, i know the other chick from the original decision is still interested, dependent on the decision of some other guy who she has asked out apparently. I'm over the whole having a girlfriend thing, i think building friendships is only going to help you through life. Not to say that you never find the girl of your dreams and marry her, but don't just take anyone that offers etc.

Thanks All...

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I found out never trust a women. They make it sound like they love you then one day and they get all mad. This has happened not on the extent of yours though. They always say I NEVER LOVED YOU! But you know they did. In your heart you will always love her. Bu im happy you got over it because some people would go upstate and murder her. And that is just wrong.

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Thats just the thing, i do love her, and i know she loved me, its just her way of dealing with it. She had no choice about having to move back up there and thats something i have to deal ith also.

I guess, the thing is you have to trust partially in the beginning and you slowly give and give more each time. If your trust is broken, or your love, you dont want to end up losing it all because of this one person.

You ot to learn to let live, and die freely, wihout being burned by someone all because they have to do whats right for them. And yes im over it, i have already found another chick to try and get with. She is also th oppersite kind of peson person to my ex-girlfriend, strange really!!

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You better try to get that girl back to her ex-boyfriend , for the sake of that child !!! I really do feel sorry for that kid .. If you can do this for your girl friend, you would be changing the life of her daughter. You can always find a better girl for you i suppose !!!

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