Is It Insecurity? Or Just Plain Stupidity?

Inspiron

Jun 25 2005, 06:31 AM

QUOTE(Cammy @ Jun 24 2005, 03:07 AM)

I think it has become socially acceptable for us especially women to pick ourselves apart. We say "oh Im fat" " I cant eat another bite" "I hate my hair, lips, hips everything!" Every commercial, television show and magazine tells us that we are not ok every single day. We need to be thin to be liked, popular, have the best shoes, clothes purses makeup hair. Women are bombarded with these notions from day one. Its subliminal. It takes a strong person to fight through all the nonesense and build their self esteem. Im still working on mine. The problem seems to be worse with young girls, their hormones, the pressures from school and family. Im a large woman or BBW(big beautiful woman)and gorgeous at that but it took me many years of hearing fatty and fatso and other cruel things before I could accept the fact that I am ok just the way I am. I am happy that plus size models are more visable in the media such as Queen Latifah and Toccora from Americas Next Top Model season 2. however I was sad to see they gave her a hard time knowing she is a BBW. If you want their attitudes to change you'll have to start with the source. Its going to take a while. If she asks you if you look fat in those jeans say ya fat with a capital P-H-A-T

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Joshua

Jul 8 2005, 10:18 AM

I do think our society has become obsessed with the outward appearance and how pleasing things are to our eyes. Advertisements of all sizes and shapes appeal to our eyes and tell us to succumb instantly to that which appeals to our physical senses.

I think the world needs a wake up call to the things which are really important. Maybe people would treat those around them better if they realized true beauty lies in the nature of a person. A humble spirit, modesty, compassion for others, gentleness, kindness, honesty, innocence, devotion, and perhaps a blending of some of the aforementioned which for lack of a better term I would call being "sweet" are all very attractive qualities in a person. However, our society no longer reflects on these things and for the sake of advertising would just as soon we didn't reflect on them.

So many people are inwardly seeking a person with the above qualities but then try to "catch" the person they are thinking of through physical means. If you try to catch a person through physical means, guess what kind of person you'll get? A physical person... One who focuses on the physical and is only interested in what pleasure your physical being or belongings will bring them. So many people find this exact scenario and when their mate sees no more pleasure physically to be attained from them... just leaves, because that's all they were ever sticking around for in the first place.

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