Well as you all know that was my problem. I sat down and told hiim after we watched X-Men 3 with some friends. Basically I just told him that there was no way I could be his "boyfriend". I'm really sorry but I'm not really into a relationship right now. That's all I told him and some more stuff. He cried when I left to go home. Well cried when all his friends left from his house and by that time I had laready left. We just talked on the phone the next day and he said stuff like he wont' get anybody else and stuff, and then he understands because he sort of wanted something to happen between me and him so that he can forget this guy that he likes that does't like him but is gay. Were just friends now. I know deep down he still wishes he can be with me and all. I just don't do anything that might create mix signals for him anymore. I can't be the same funny person around him because it might bite me back. haha. but thats' the end result of what i told him and how he reacted. I was sad I crushed him. I'm usually the one that would rather be hurt then lets others be hurt. But it justs disheartening for someone to be hurt over you.. you know... that's it.. haha. thanks people for encouraging me.

 

 

 

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Hahahaha, oh boy, my normal advice to the girl liking the guy situation is tell her you are gay. but this is a whole new ballgame! Let me put this gently.... You're screwed, dude.

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In a situation like that, you should just tell them flat out. Telling him you're straight or something like that would just anger him in the end if you are gay.

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glad you have a heart, bud. my take on it is this. he eithr doesn't know you that well to call you a friend or he just totally disrespected you which is not the characteristics of a friend when he tried kissing you. either way, he's not acting like a friend. now he has ya acting different when he's around so he doesn't get the wrong impression. that sucks! it sucks because you two like to hand together and both goofy probably in the same way....or silly....or whatever ya wanna call it.

anyway, it's not your problem. it's his. gotta be straight and tell him to respect you and your heterosexuality or you two can't be friends. if he can't respect you bud, then that friendship is over no matter what you want. he may be hanging around you just because he likes you and thinks your cute. ever think about that? you can't help him with his self esteem. if you get too deep, he's just gonna be like a woman....get vulnerable and then want some lovin' haha....heck, i should laugh....but it's true.

my advice also is to not hide who you are around him. it's not your problem, it's HIS after you defined your friendship. if he persists, you need to end the friendship. sad thing to do maybe but you can't wear a mask around him bud, that's not being a true friend either. didn't want that last statement to be taken harshly because i understand your situation and you are doing things with good intentions and who knows, if you're any different around him now, you just might lose him as a friend alltogether because you changed.

i've had gay friends in the past, but never had your problem. one of my best friends did though when i introduced him to my gay friends....haha it was hilarious to me that one of them liked my friend a little too much but everyone was also mature enough to respect eachother too which is what your friend needs to do.

keep having a good heart, bud, it's nice to see.....but keep it in check. you have feelings too and people will want to take advantage of your goodness

 

 

 

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How To Stop A Gay Guy From Liking You

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Hey yes well you see I had this problem one time he was my best freind until he told me liked me and stuff! So it took me long time to tell but did I just told him dude I'm not gay and I cant stand hanging around gay guys or be there freind and we are not freinds anymore but he still looks at me and funny! one time I was going to the bathroom and he was looking at my... Well you know and I got out of as fast as I could! what should I do?

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