How Do You Get Someone To Love You?

Global

Jul 10 2006, 05:35 PM

Is there nyway you can get soemone to love you just by being yourself?....

many people change to find love and find it but become unhappy and depressed!

i know this is a hard question and not far off "what is the meaning of life?" but im sure u can help me

pixieloo

Jul 10 2006, 06:14 PM

You can't "get" someone to love you. They either love you, or they don't. And they should love you for who you are, not who they want you to be, or who you're pretending to be. Love isn't about what someone can give you, it's about what you can give someone else.

Mjay06

Jul 10 2006, 06:16 PM

I'm old, wisened (& a bit grizzly

) & ive always found just being yourself works.

If you try & be something you are not you find yourself constantly under pressure & acting, & you dont enjoy it.

Just being yourself may suprise you, ive pulled amazing looking girls who I honestly didnt think I stood a chance with just by acting normal. If they like you great, if not its their loss - thats how I look at it.

Gyad

Jul 10 2006, 07:39 PM

You're being really selfish by trying to get people to love you. If that's the way you see love, then it's wrong. Loving someone isn't about benefiting off of them, it's about what you're willing to do for them. Be yourself, act the way you feel is comfortable, and hope that someone will love for who you are. Most of the time, if you put up a show to make someone love you, you're just adding to the fact that you're not good enough to be worthy of being loved by someone. If you really want someone to love you, then you shouldn't have to get them to. They will love you for who you are. I have no idea how old you are, but from the way I see you, you're still too young to be in love. [Yes, I'm a hypocrite

]

brandice

Jul 10 2006, 08:27 PM

QUOTE(Mjay06 @ Jul 10 2006, 01:16 PM)

Just being yourself may suprise you, ive pulled amazing looking girls who I honestly didnt think I stood a chance with just by acting normal. If they like you great, if not its their loss - thats how I look at it.

This is part being yourself, part having confidence in who you are (which all girls love!) and part seeming not to care either way.

My mom once gave my sisters and I some advice when we were younger, "The quickest way to get a guy to be crazy about you is to not be crazy about him." The number one way to get someone to be more interested in you is to seem as though you aren't trying so hard for someone to be interested in you. I don't mean that you need to ignore someone and brush them off. I just mean you need to be yourself and friendly but you have to go in with the "whatever happens, happens" attitude.

stephanie

Jul 10 2006, 09:05 PM

I honestly think that if you want to be loved,really loved,you can't do anything beside being yourself. But,i know and to girls is easier to do it,that you can transform yourself into something that you know the other person likes to get attencion and cause interest. but that is not going to be real love because it's not the real you also.

husker

Jul 10 2006, 09:57 PM

I agree with what everyone has said above about being yourself. All you can do is try, and if you fail, you just have to move one. Somebody will like you for who you are. Looking at the other person's standpoint, you don't want someone to act different for you to like them, would you?

tuddy

Jul 11 2006, 01:51 AM

What type of 'Love' you referring to?, and in what context?

1. Brother & Sister Type
2. Mother & Daughter Type
3. Boyfriend & Girlfriend
4. You & President?

People tend to use the word 'love' just out of context when talking to friends, like 'I'll talk to you later, love ya' i do all the time. However, if a guy seriously invites you to a romantic dinner, buys you a gift, rambles on then has a tear in his eye when he says he loves you, then you can kind of think he means it.

On the other hand, some fe/males may 'believe' what there partner says on the fact that they think they are not good enough to get anyone, take it or lose it.

What i believe you to be referring to, is there things that are 'generalisation' in love that you can do to help make someone live you, and there is simply not. I'd fallen in love with 3 females, and all 3 were different, its the way you view someone, if they dont view you the same way, tough cookies!

They say 5% Relationships are 'True' Love, and 20% are 'semi love' and the rest is built on fear, or lust. People that are willing to get themselves in to that 5% are those that will be happily married for the long run!....

Lyon2

Jul 11 2006, 06:43 AM

There's no way to make a girl to love us if she doesn't want to, or worst, if she is in love for someone else!

Anyway, if you really want to make a girl fall in love for you, first you need to be good looking, or at least, you got to be resentable all the time, not just outside your house, allways and all the time, girls see this kind of details.

Then, you must give her presents, not everyday, one per week, perhaps saturday night, a flower taken out of the garden (not a flower that you get in stores, girls love natural things, you will break her heart if you give that), then you take her to a restaurant, a nice one, not too expensive because you need to show her the reality (forget about this if you are rich! he he he).

Don't have time for more tips, have to work.

Check out the rest of my reply later nigh.

Kaila

Jul 24 2006, 06:21 PM

You can't "make" someone love you. There's no magical potion or ritual to make it happen.

Have confidence in yourself. Be yourself. Don't try to change who you are for someone else. That's pointless. Then neither of you would ever be happy, because you can't be yourself around him and you have to totally change who you are to make him happy, and he wouldn't be happy because he'd be able to tell you were faking.

Confidence, be yourself, and hope and pray for the best is the key =)

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iGuest

May 31 2008, 10:14 AM

Replying to Global
Global. I don't really understand the situation you're in, to be honest. But even if one "hasn't held a relationship" doesn't mean they don't know what "love" is. So before I make my best suggestion, I want you to know that I've never actually held a relationship before, and that I want you to trust me on this, nontheless.
I want you to forget all about "how to get someone to like you" or "how you could help increase their interest in you" (which every way possible). And the truth is, you fill yourself up "full of love" that you begin to become anxious and overdo yourself. But as easy as it seems, instead of planning out ideas and strategies, neglect them and simply act like a "friend". Alot, the majority, of the people find attraction through beauty, but as we all know, beauty can be a real beast. So Friendship is always the best way to approach the people you care for (it doesn't neccessarily have to be someone you like at first sight). When you're simply friends with that person, friendship bonds tend to develop MUCH stronger feelings when you're with them. And when you become open to them, "in a friendly matter", you begin to gain insights of how you two would manage to be as a boyfriend & girlfriend.

Also, its true. That you shouldn't be selfish, but curious as to know about it (which is fine). Instead of worrying about thoughts on how you can get her/him to love you. Simply be "friendly" to them. Open the door for them, greet them, then accompany them. Once he/she's use to being around you, they'll eventually look forward into meeting you the 'next day'. Don't expect "them" to follow you, yet you follow them instead. If the person enjoys being around you, you then have the opportunity to become friends. Once that's done, your on your way to start a new relationship, "in a friendly matter."

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"What is the meaning in life?" Can one person really point out a specific reasoning for "your own life"? If you focus more on emotions, expressions, characteristics, appearance. These are all the things linked up to each and every individual's "free will". Free will is mainly the beauty in life, otherwise we'll all be alike robots programmed to immitate human beings. Nobody can take away free will, even by strapping you down on the floor with your head tucked low. Because decisions are also a state of free will. "The free will to decide what you like or what you don't like." So the true beauty of free will is what gives us "personality".

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iGuest

Apr 10 2008, 05:00 PM

Replying to Gyad
am 16 my name is justin and I really like this girl I know she likes me because she winks at me sings songs at me.But I have a cousin who went out with her but he beaterd her about and now shes that scared to do anything she daret ask me out but wen hes not looking she winks at and sings at me she smiles take the piss out of him wen hes not looking I know she likes me the way she looks at me but how do I know if she feels for me.

iGuest

Apr 4 2008, 06:32 PM

Love HA
How Do You Get Someone To Love You?

What if you love some one and do everything for them sacrifice everything for them help them love them selves and they still don't even remotely have a questioning love for you? that's my problem and now we are not talking because I'm fed up with it but I still love her and it hurts she wont even talk to me. Advice please.

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