misere
Feb 13 2006, 04:58 AM
| | There's this guy I know that I've been crazy about for years. He's always had girlfriends, but he was never really serious about any of them, and so although I told myself each and every time he hooked up with someone new that it was time to get over him for once and for all, it didn't really work because I knew that he'd break up with them soon, something that always happened. Then last Christmas, he found this girl that even I can tell he's serious about, which definitely means he's into her, considering how blind I can be where he's concerned. I've been telling myself since then that this time, I really have to get over my ridiculous crush on him, since it's also obvious that he's never going to see me as anything other than a buddy to hang out with, but despite all the talking-tos I've given myself, I still can't stop thinking about him.
What should I do? What do you people do to get over unrequited crushes? How do I get over him? |
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SHELLY
Feb 13 2006, 10:02 AM
QUOTE(misere @ Feb 13 2006, 04:58 AM) 
There's this guy I know that I've been crazy about for years. He's always had girlfriends, but he was never really serious about any of them, and so although I told myself each and every time he hooked up with someone new that it was time to get over him for once and for all, it didn't really work because I knew that he'd break up with them soon, something that always happened. Then last Christmas, he found this girl that even I can tell he's serious about, which definitely means he's into her, considering how blind I can be where he's concerned. I've been telling myself since then that this time, I really have to get over my ridiculous crush on him, since it's also obvious that he's never going to see me as anything other than a buddy to hang out with, but despite all the talking-tos I've given myself, I still can't stop thinking about him.
What should I do? What do you people do to get over unrequited crushes? How do I get over him?
>>Hey shelly ere, i think the best way to get over sum1 is to think of sum1 else or hang out wit your friends more  Dont wori bout him at least you can see him by hang'n out wif em!!!wb xxx xxx
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antony2kx
Feb 13 2006, 09:28 PM
i think you should not stess out your self and be patient and it all will go away just like how it came to you
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brandice
Feb 13 2006, 11:26 PM
That's a tough situation. The only thing that I can think is that you have to stay away from him for a while. That doesn't mean you have to go hook up with some other dude to keep your mind off of him. Find something new that interests you, like taking a new class or going someplace new on your own where you can be completely distracted from thinking about him. It's going to be hard to make those sorts of feelings fade if you are buddy-ing around with him all of the time.
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tuddy
Feb 14 2006, 02:27 AM
The truth is you never really get over someone, im in a spot where i always have 3-4 people on my mind. As much as i don't want to think about them, or get over them i can't. By the way you worded your post, it sounds like you haven't told him, that you do have an interest in him. Like a sercet crush, thats where you get into trouble cause you start thinking about the 'What if' etc. I suggest you just hang with friends, and be happy that he is happy, and if you find its really to much, you just have to tell him how you feel.
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serenity
Feb 14 2006, 04:41 PM
awh.. i get wat you are on about.. there was this boy i couldn't get over he was buff but people dint see him like that lol.. i liked him so much and he appreciated me for me and made me feel like i was his special gyaL and everything was perfect.. but people had to put their big heads in everything and then one person asked him if he would ever look at me as a girlfriend and he sed NO.. i was gutted when it got back to me.. i asked him on msn he told me that he dont look at me like that.. he doesnt look at any girL like that - i was scared to ask this question lol, i asked him if he was gay and he said yes i was like (at first) I FANCIED A GAY DUDE  but things got better because he told me why and everything then i became a close girL friend and we are still like best friends. I think the best way to handle your situation is to talk to him about your how you feel and ask him if he will ever feel the same way- it might end up bad but it is for the best because you wont keep holding onto a little bit of hope and you can get on with someone else in your life
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sm00nie
Feb 15 2006, 08:52 PM
I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years now, but I sometimes come across girls who I really click with. Not wanting to give up a good thing, I asked a good friend what he does, and he said to focus in on one annoying trait (we all have them  ) that that the girls have and that will drive you nuts after a while. Simple as it sounds, it really does work. Hope this helps
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antony2kx
Feb 15 2006, 09:43 PM
QUOTE(sm00nie @ Feb 15 2006, 08:52 PM) I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years now, but I sometimes come across girls who I really click with. Not wanting to give up a good thing, I asked a good friend what he does, and he said to focus in on one annoying trait (we all have them ) that that the girls have and that will drive you nuts after a while. Simple as it sounds, it really does work. Hope this helps i like that smoonie
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xaetos
Feb 16 2006, 12:02 AM
I had one of those. 'Sept, he never had girlfriends.. I was just too stupid to tell him, possibly 'cause I was convinced he'd never like me back. Sometime this year, I have intentions of telling him, and finding out if he ever did feel the same.. since there's the possibility I'll never see him after this last year of high school. But what did I do to get over him? I tried to concentrate on another guy for a while.. even though it never really worked. It did for a while, but then I realized I didn't really like him, but I still liked the guy I was trying to forget. Maybe that would work for you, even though it failed miserably for me? :\ Eventually, anyways, I just.. got over him. I saw him one day in class and realized I didn't actually see myself being with him. It just.. happened. Try thinking about it, not about him, but what you would be like if you were with him, how he would be when he was with you, how either of you would change. Theres an off chance that you'll realize that you like him now, but wouldn't if he were with you.. Its different for everyone. I just had to live with it till it went away on its own. It took a good four or five years, but thats ok.. :\
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tuyetmy
Mar 2 2006, 12:29 AM
Well the best way for me, to usually get over someone is by liking some other guy. Try meeting new people, and maybe you'll find interest in someone else. Or other good way is maybe hang out with your friends more, or play sports, or doing something that distract you from thinking about him. If you don't feel someone else, maybe you wont completely get over him but at least you're not mad crazy about him. I still think of my ex till this day, I only think about him at times.
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Nani Cheri
Apr 6 2006, 02:24 PM
I think about a boy I know every day since the day I met him. We live very far away from eachother, so it should be easier for me to forget he ever excists.  NOT! He's every day on my mind even for one second. But I just live my life. I call him once in 6 months or something, I see him twice in 6 months I guess. This guy, he also has everyday another chick he goes out with. He is a real *BLEEP*  , but I do know why he does that. It's because he thinks every girl is gonna hurt them , he leaves them before they can. But I know, and I told him I really love him, and just tried to make him understand that I will never hurt him. And he knows that. And one time he said to me he could love me so much back, but that he would hurt me, that he was'nt right for me. So I guess, he just has some issues why he's acting the way he does, especially with those different girls all the time. He just tries to protect himself being hurt. Maybe you should let him know how you feel about him. Maybe he's just being afraid of being hurt by these girls too. You never know. I don't want to give you hope, now that you actually think you are actually getting over him. But actually you can get over him, but still think about him. That's what I'm doing actually. I have accepted the distance between us, but I still think about him. But I don't worry about him anymore.
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trace-uk
Apr 5 2006, 08:54 PM
I can recommend paying more attention to me, that'll take your mind off of him  If your girlfriends have got a similar problem, feel free to pass on the advice
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Apr 5 2006, 08:38 PM
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Fermy
Apr 3 2006, 11:28 PM
one thing i would try to do is avoid the person! if you can go areound him so you dont see him! and try too look at other guys also! that can help alot if you wanna forget about someone! GOOD LUCK! Fermy!
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Alissa
Apr 2 2006, 08:02 PM
A method that I've heard works is the no-contact rule. Just try to basically stay away from him for a while. Don't e-mail him or talk to him online or anything, or talk to him on the phone...just try to avoid him as best you can for a while and that may help the feelings fade. Edit: I just realized you already pretty much concluded this thread but I hope my advice is still helpful anyway.
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