Hello again everyone...

By now many of you should know my story...this thread is just a continuation of my last one, but in a new title, since this is not relevant at all to 'What to do on a Date' thread. I am sorry if my case sounds a bit too...long and boring...but well really don't know what to do and I need some advice...So please bear with me.

Ok, here it is...Yesterday I asked her out, with full confidence that she likes me 99.99% (because she glances and smiles at me every now and then) and because her friends told me so (on Thursday). So after school on Friday I saw her with her best friend, just about to go out of the school, and this is how the conversation goes.

Me: Hi <her name>! I want to ask you something.
Both of them stopped and she said: Yes?
Me: I was wondering...would you go out with me?
Her friend left us alone, and *she* thought a long time before saying: I am not ready yet...
I felt sad of course, but I didn't show it. I said: I understand. Have a nice weekend!

As I turned, she shouted at her best friend: <her friend's name>! come here!
I had a sad face by then, and I hoped that her friend would notice it and tell her.
Then they were talking excitedly; I assume it's about me asking her out


Now back to trap17...I am sure she likes me, but I don't know why she didn't say yes. Of course, she never said "NO"...which leaves a possibility of a yes in the future, but as for now...I'm confused on what to do on Monday. Out of my 6 classes, she is in all of them on Monday, and it'd be kinda awkward...Here are some ideas that my friends suggested me to do to her:
1. Play hard-to-get with her (since after all there are many other girls that like me and if she realises the competition she'll come running)
2. Get to know her better. (Alright, how better? I sit with her on lunchtime, I talk to her in the park after lunch, I try to sit near her in my classes, and I don't want to push it further 'cause she needs some privacy with her friends too)
3. It is her first time and therefore she might be shy (now this might be possible, but then...you never know until you try, isn't it?)
4. Let word out through her friends that I'm going to ask one of the girls that likes me out. (This sounds a good idea, but what if it backfires? What if she's testing me whether I really like her or not, and by doing this I fail her test?)

Well, what do you think? What should I do? Feel free to give your own suggestions...the ideas above are given to me by my friends (none of which is in school, because I can't find anyone to confide in). Please help...Once again thank you for your great help, everyone!

 

 

 

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I do NOT reccomend playing hard-to-get. As a guy I know I don't like it much when I really like a girl but they play hard-to-get. It gets old and tiresome after a while.

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First i need to disagree with damen in the part of hard-to-get girls are boring.
second it's a very complex thread since almost everyone would react differently
3rd why not act normal? changing means pressure. I mean, if you change with her maybe she will try to make up her mind quickly, and sometimes the result may not be what you expect. And if you really like her, you can handle 1 week. You just need to make sure that you still are waiting for an answer. By now you should let the "dust" calm down. =)

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so...what do you recommend me to do? well for one thing, she might think that I was just playing around because in my school...there are people who ask other people out when their bf / gf is there...so she might have thought that I was joking. Worse...she got online yesterday, but she never replied any of my messages...Funny though, she keeps logging on/off (maybe to get my attention I don't know) I wrote about 15 lines to her but she never replied...

Do you think I should act normal with her in school? or play hard to get or something? or just forget her (which I think is next to impossible)...

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"The secret to a woman's heart is an unexpected gift, at an unexpected time." If you follow that advice, that should help you a bit in addition to being charismatic (or you can come off as a bit creepy if you don't really know her that well, so be careful). If you have a lot of charisma and don't act like a wussy, it can make all the difference and is going to be your best shot at wooing her, and charisma can take many forms. Strength or power shown in some way such as charisma, strength, or intelligence is always awesome no matter if you're trying to woo someone or trying to be a leader to the masses.

You could probably use underhanded techniques exploiting the human psyche as well, but I won't go into anymore details about this unless you message me to do so.

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She didn't outright deny you she just said she wasn't ready. Just act normally because it's obvious you are important to her.

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What do you mean?

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Number 3 man... Look, girls are confusing sometimes... she probably just wasn't ready to make that decision on the spur of the moment... you should have just told her to think about it, but, now that it's happened, just try to be nice and normal, or pull her aside and talk to her... I mean, I'm sure you can come up with something good to say... Don't just ask a girl out, tell her how much you like her and how great she is... My advice is to take her aside and apologize for being kinda premature then tell her how great you think she is and all that stuff, and whatever else you want to say. Just be nice and understanding, and realize that going out might mean different things to her than it does to you.

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Hey dude I got rejected and it hasn't even changed our friendship.You need to
:ask her out on her own like walking home or something
:be confident
I'm gonna ask her out my self because last time I got a mate to do it

Darkmaster69

-darkmaster69

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help me
How To Get A Girl That Has Refused You

How to impress a girl who has rejected me

-question by maya

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