Popularity isn't worth it, if you get a few "Cool bad kids" as friends, what about your old friends the ones you call "Dorks", Will they be accepted by your new friends? These kids you want to hang out with will grow up to be shallow and idiotic while the ones you call "Dorks" might found a Multi-million doller corporations (Now look at bill gates hes got all the chicks ). The Popular kids at my school all got there by making fun of other kids, I have been invited to sit at there table at lunch hang out with them after school ect, but I decline and hang out with the "Dorks". It makes them feel good as well as myself. I suggest you don't throw away your current friends for ones you don't even know if they will accept you yet.

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Easy.

Think before you speak. Always. And don't say it unless it's funny, smart or cool.

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Never regret anything. Never be awkward. Always have confidence. Be involved in an extra-curricular activity and be passionate about it. Genuinely smile at everyone. Never reject anyone's offer of friendship. Statistically, most of your friends for life come from college, so don't sweat it.

When in a crowd, or walking down the hall with friends, be in the middle. I think people notice the middle person, and naturally assume that they're the "leader" and most popular of the group because of their physical position. People assume that the entourage belongs to you and that can make a positive impression about your popularity to observers. At least that's what I've learned from watching tons of teen movies.

Or just do what Drew Barrymore did in the movie, Never Been Kissed. All you need is one cool person to vouch that you are cool, and you're automatically accepted.

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Popularity is relatively subjective. When I was in highschool (alright, it was only last year), there was a group of the "popular" kids. The thing is, they weren't exactly popular. What they really were was a sort of holdover of the "popular" kids from middle school. It all really depends on what your definition of popular is. Looking back, I was definitely not "popular," but I had a lot of good friends from just about every social clique. The important thing isn't to be part of a small group of kids who are looked on as popular, the point is to have a good time and make friends that you actually want to have as your friends. Some of the "popular" kids really were popular, but it was only because they were decent people and treated the nerds/dorks/geeks etc... like normal people. Because you know, thats what they are, the different cliques are very superficial.

Oh, and as most people said before me, confidence is the key to it all. Confidence in yourself, and the fact that even if you aren't into the same things as other people, they'll still respect you. I was one of the nerdy kids in highschool, but that didn't stop me being best friends with jocks, preps, stoners, or anyone else. In the end most people fall somewhere inbetween all of the cliques anyways.

 

 

 

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High School is just a game and popularity only gives you an ego boost. that and once you get popular you forget about the friends that have been your friends since forever! and along with that you don't need popularity. unless you want to become homecoming king or prom king or w/e. what kind of popular are you trying to get to ? the hanging out with cool kids popular or the everyone knows you in the whole school popular? popularity is just a game. Once you lose its game over, because once you screw something up with that popular crowd then no one sees you the same and you are stuck with nothing no friends because when you left your old friends they didn't care for you anymore and then don't expect them to see them with open arms. Just becareful with your choices that you make.

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Before I pull a Galinda (musical theatre reference) let me tell you the consiquences of being popular.

Not everyone adores the popular crowd. And if you abandon those "dorks" who, quote, "bring you down on the social scale," you can and probably will get labeled something bad that I'm not allowed to say on the forums

And why do you crave popularity? Like I said above, a whole hoard of people at our school HATE the "popular" or the "preppy" kids.

And how good of friends are you with the popular kids? Could you invite a group of them to the movies or do you only talk to them at school? Before you dump your dork friends, figure out who your friends are. . . Well, I can't find a way to phrase that where it might be easy to understand, I'm sorry.

And there isn't a way to get popular quick. It kind of just happens. What I mean is that kids who are complete dorks/nerds/[insert derogatory term for a loser here ] have ascended up the social totem pole with little explination of why or how.

The best way to get a lot of friends (if that is what you mean by popular) is to join a lot of clubs, get involved, and just be NICE!

Also practice your body language, look nice, or even get a make over

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Believe me, being popular hurts so bad. You will probably never concentrate on your work. I had to leave and prioritise my education, which led to a 100% score in Physics. Something I thought I would never get!

PS I'm not boasting, I'm just proving how beneficial it can be if you don't turn to popularity

However, if you still desire to be very popular, I suggest that you look your best and leave your unpopular friends behind. Then when you are majorly popular, you can hang around with them again, without anyone getting in the way

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That seems kind of harsh to me...
Well, I think there's 2 types of popular and one of them involves the typical high school snob/bully. If you want to be the other kind of popular, you should just be yourself! Hang out with the people you like and care about. Ya know? I think if you make alot of good friends, that's also a way of being popular.
A good way to start is to not call your friends "dorks", we're all misfits, it's not our fault people give us labels.

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Well, at my side, be confident in what are you doing. Be friendly, be nice, be polite, helpful, be honest, and be confident is my motto while I'm in our school. I'm not saying that I'm popular in our school but almost everyone knows me lol. By being friendly, nice, polite, helpful, honest, and confident, you could earn friends and you may earn popularity somehow.

Watchout in what are you doing because people may see what you are doing. Watchout with your attitude because you may loose your friends and you may gain enemies.

-Amiel

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The easiest way to grab attention is to do something different ...


but, in the act of grabbing attention you should make sure that you DO NOT

imitate others : trying to imitate others may help you succeed initially. but, you cannot be another person for too long. Eventually you have to start being yourself, when you might start becoming uncool

hurt others: bullying and other sick pranks help students gather attention especially at teenage level. But, this paves the way for you losing respect rather than gaining it !!!


What you can do instead is ,

be sweet : help people around you. never be harsh with anyone. Even while depriving people of something they ask, be polite and make them understand. Eventually, you will start finding fans for you. This is a slow but sure way to win some loyal friends.

focus on your extra curricular activities : Get something apart from your academics, going strong for you. This is a sure way you may gather some good attention towards you.

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