I forgot to add one thing. If you can overcome those fears of asking her out and do, she will she that in positive light, and may give her some "balls" as they say to also say yes to you if thats what she really wants. Shy girls tend to believe they are not good enough for a relationship with you, am I correct on that one girls?

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Since it doesn't seem like there's really any female perspectives in this discussion, I'll try and give my two cents worth. Or possibly two dollars worth, cause I tend to ramble on, when I get behind a keyboard.

Anyway, I've always been one of those 'shy girls', though I don't think that I was quite as shy as this girl you speak of, since I did speak a little here and there during school. Though I would only answer the teachers questions in class, and only then if I KNEW that it was the right answer. Many days it was all I could do to force myself to make sure to give one answer a day.

So, anyway... relationship stuff. I've always been highly confused with it all. I'm not sure if I'm the best example, because I don't know the circumstances behind this other girl's shyness... maybe something happened in her past, maybe not. But I'm guessing that she might be like me and not really know what she wants.

It's strange looking back on the 'crushes' I had back then, because I would have given anything to have one of these people even talk with me, let alone ask me out... (I know, I didn't really know anything about the person, but I was young and in love, so who cared, right?! Funny how things are looking back.) But more than anything, I also wanted everyone to just not see me, so that I wouldn't get hurt (because I've been hurt many times in the past, which sort of ruined much of my 'people skills', making me even more shy and afraid to speak up). I wished that I was invisible half of the time, but the other half of the time I was waiting for a 'prince' to sweep down and pull me up from everything and make everything in my life better.

Unfortunately for me, that time never came. Things got worse in school and I eventually left it altogether, so yea, like I said, I might not be the model 'mind' to be basing your 'shy girl' ideas from.

Anyway, after a few years I ended up getting more confidence in myself in that I at least talk now (wow, big step, eh?), but I still hide behind the computer screen as much as I can and avoid human contact as much as possible. People still really scare me, because I think that they are always judging me and seeing me as worse than others, and not good enough for the likes of them. I half know that it's not really how others see me, and rather just how I see myself, but the feeling is hard to shake - especially after thinking it for so long.

Hmmm.... I don't really think I'm helping much here, but I certainly am starting to get myself all flustered and confused. I hope this is making some kind of sense, because I really don't know anymore.

And I don't really know about this either, but I'll throw it out there anyways... There were also times where there was a guy that I liked, got to know, started wishing he would ask me out, then got to know more, then just wanted to be friends with, got to know more, they asked me out, I said I just wanted to be friends, so we still hang out, and then sometimes I think about wanting to date them... but I can't bring myself to say it to the guy, so I hope that he mentions something again. Though if he even does, I really don't think I'd have the courage to tell him how I feel after telling him I just wanted to be friends for so long.

I don't know, but I do know that my feelings don't ever seem to stay constant, so this might be the same with other girls. Like sometimes I 'like' someone in that I want to go out with them, and then other times I just like them as a friend. And then sometimes I go back to wanting to date them...

Okay, I give up, my mind is now officially mush But if you have specific questions, I can try and give you an answer... Otherwise, I can just be quiet, because your brain is probably hurting from trying to deceipher this. I hope things work out for you and her

 

 

 

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Hello? not every girl does the same thing. stop worrying. shes the one whose worrying she's shy and she trying not to be too shy round you. stop worrying nd everything will b fine.

-ashleigh

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How do i ask her???
How To Ask The Shy Girl Out / How To Read Her Signs-help!

Simply I fancy a girl and I don't no if she fancies me. We talk all the time and she gets on fine with me.I have fancied her for 2 years and want to know. Should I ask her out and if so how? thx for reading

Cal

-darkmaster69

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I have close to the same thing. But its my best friends sister. Its wierd because I have had 1 girlfriend and I moved shortly after we started going out. I have never asked a girl out. Well I asked my friends sister out to the movies but she said no. It wasn't easy I had a plan of what to say , my heart was beaten, and when I saw her my heart stopped and my mind went blank and suddenly I had no plan. Well I asked, she was real slow to say no. It seemed she wanted to say yes but is way to shy. She said no, I'm worried I messed up BUT I like her so I'm gonna talk to her more and in 2 weeks try and ask her out again. If another no then talk joke and 2 weeks later ask again. I will eventually get a yes. Does this sound like a good plan? btw I'm a really shy guy.

-reply by sleepless

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