So I'm a smart kid at my school that girls like but nobody will ask me out because I hang out with the un-cool crowd.. If you were in my situation would you deal with the BS and stick with your friends or wander out into higher social groups just to get some girls



I still have homework to do afterschool but I always find myself worrying about how i'm viewed and stuff, I just want to open up and be Reekun, you know?

Like someone can be the hottest guy in school, smart as a dime, fit as a fiddle, and yet still be unpopular as all heck. If he's the funniest guy in the class the jocks will still ignore him. The cheerleaders will still ignore him and go for the jock with no personality.



The brains of high schoolers do not develop for empathy unless they have been through hell and back, and what will they do if their futures are at stake?

For example, this jock was picking on my friend and I reported him anonymously and got him suspended for 3 days.



I just want to say that I'm writing an article on my site www.gnarfard.com in my rants section about high school BS and I would like to publicly announce that love triangles in high school are gay and that chicks turn good kids into total jerks. That's all, thanks.

 

 

 

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I am clapping my hands, too much respect really .. very nice language, unique writing style , and too straight to the point ..
Yeah, I totally agree with you although I've never been a either a nerd or a jock. Talking with nerds has become an indictment, " You are talking with nerds ?? Oh my god! you are one of them"! as if you are talking with a drug dealer or a prostitute, those nerds whom are not seeking fame in school or college, get that fame later after they become popular scientists (Who doesn't know whose Einstein?).
lol.. I am becoming a Nerd Defender, well.. I also don't agree with nerds, you can't just ignore the primary roles of life, get a nice converse, a fashionable T, a cool pair of Jeans and don't listen to Three Days Grace .

 

 

 

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i am the most academically succesful kid in my senior class. Highest ACT score. #1 class ranking, 4.0 student.... and most people love me. No one would consider me a nerd. I work out and i study.... i try to have a balance in my life.

over my 4 years of high school, i've changed my viewpoint on nerds to that they are not smart people, but rather people with sub-par communication skills.... there are plenty of people in the world who are very very smart, yet still personable and able to communicate.

but, the stuff you wrote about doing stuff just to fit in is right. Girls like me, they flirt with me, go crazy when they see me, hug me, etc... but the only ones that i can ever hook up with are the new ones... just because they don't see it as the status quo not to hook up with me... how that became the status quo i'll never know.


....its all over in 4 months anyways.

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Two thumbs up! I clap my hands and bow to whoever that author is. I really liked the way she/he defends people with higher intelligence capabilities.

Anyhoo, in my school (we call it secondary school) nerds aren't really treated like the way they are in the Western countries, say, the US, because nerds get respected here, albeit only by some. I'm not really a nerd but I'm among the top in my class so naturally people see me as the clever boy who excels at academic stuff but I SUCK at relationships with girls. Everybody knows I fall heads over heels over this charming girl for over 2 years and what they say about me really made me sad and angry. So in a way I think they don't confront nerds or make big headlines/statements about them, they just try to find whatever the nerds' weaknesses/mistakes are and backstab them. That's the way it works in my school.

People from other classes (scoring less in academic performance) also views my friends, the top students, as some sort of weirdos that talk weird and act weird. Some even loathe me. See, we go to this popular tuition school and my essay keeps selected as model essay and naturally people know me as the clever boy whose essays are top-notch. Yet this earns me dislike, not surprisingly, from guys from other schools.

See, in our education system, academic performance is very much emphasised and everything is exam oriented. Yet this changes the way people treats us.

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this is as of 3:00 so the ending doesn't really apply anymore

Okay, it started this morning when one of her friends wrote me a note asking if I decided who my Valentine would be. I said I'm not sure I'd have one because there's a senior that might already ask her. She asked me if the girl was in this class, and I said yeah, she was 4 feet away. She guessed Christina, and I said she was right. She wrote back, "omg that's soooooo cute!" but then Christina, who was 4 feet away got interested and asked what we were writing about. There were also some guys who wanted to get the note and everything, realizing it was something important

So after 1st period in the hall with her, she kept saying like, "tell me tell me tell me tell me tell me!!!!" and she wouldn't leave me alone. I couldn't tell if she was serious or not because she was smiling at me all day, but I knew that she was curious. We went through 2nd period the same way, except her best friend got involved. After 2nd period, Christina, her best friend, and I were walking down the hallway and I asked her best friend if she sort of knew what I was keeping secret

she said she thinks so, so I said I would give her a hint, and I put my arm almost completely around Christina's shoulder and was like, "You look REALLY nice today" (in a joking manner, unfortunately), and she was like, "thanks! But you're still gonna tell me!" but her best friend understood, even though Christina was seemingly oblivious. So, at lunch, I talked to her best friend, and asked what my chances were with her. She was like, "Do you want the hard truth?" And I was like, "Ok, hurt me." She said my chances were slim to none.

It's because that guy in her church (who apparently is the GNARFARD I thought went to my school, guess only 1 guy likes her) has been liking her for almost 2 years now, and she's actually likes him A LOT (I venture to say loved) him for almost a year now, and she's hoping that Justin is gonna ask her out. Good news: He's 17, and he's moving out this year, and the only time she sees him is at church.

Also, she doesn't really talk about me much when I'm not around, and her best friend said there's no real signs that she likes me more than just a friend. Not sure if this is for better or for worse, but I made her best friend feel REALLY guilty about it, and now she's one of the many friends who are helping me in my endeavor. Now I'm getting tips from her closest friend, which is a big up. I even got her cell phone number this afternoon.

Anyways, it's a 100% thing now that I can't say I like her on/before V-day, that's what her best friend said, with many "sorry"s at the end. So, she's suggesting I give her something anonymous, and for her to deliver it, saying someone else might like you, to keep her guessing. I can either build up my relationship with her at a steady rate and wait till my sophomore year (which is VERY unlikely), or start taking action fast (I'll prolly do this one) and pray and pray and pray that she'll notice me.

If I keep it like that, the only 2 things I have to worry about is 1. this Gnarfard Guy, and 2. my patience

Oh, and a temporary problem is that she still wants to know what was on the note, and I can't tell her that I like her, that would ruin her whole perspective of me.

Gnarfard = censored guys name
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