Hello, I am going to be a freshmen next year, and it has occured to me that I have never had a girlfriend. The closest I have ever had to one was on the last day a girl went to my school there was a dance, so for the final song she told me she liked me and we danced, but then she left. That was 3 years ago and nothing has happened since then. I have a end of year dance coming up, and there is a girl I like, but I don't know how to ask her. I am also not what you would call handsome. I have long hair, and to be honest, I am always confused for a girl. So any advice?

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Don't freakin worry about it. I came out of high school with no action. (yea, I'm still a virgin, whatever) I've literally had 2 girlfriends in my life, and my last relationship was almost 3 years ago. And ya know what? I don't care. That's the attitude you gotta have....just be laid back about this sorta thing, cuz it really isn't all that important. You should just focus on what matters: school. If you get a girlfriend, good for you, but really, it only matters come time for prom. Oh yea, and I got stuck up on that as well. My date didn't even kiss me. Hell she doesn't really seem to care that I haven't felt the touch of a woman. So yea, whatever....so my ranting aside, only worry come time for senior prom. That's 4 years from now. It ain't gonna kill ya to not have a girlfriend, cuz hey, I'm still here!

Oh btw, I'm a dude and I bet my hair is longer and that I am uglier.

As for this dance....I didn't go to my 8th grade dance....didn't really care to...I might have watched TV or played video games or something. I say, just put it all on the line, what's the worst that could happen? I mean if she laughs right in your face, it just shows that she has some growing up to do, as well as anyone else who laughs about it. If she agrees, then hey, it was worth it. But you'll never know if you don't ask her.

 

 

 

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Hellosies!

Being handsome is not a mandatory thing. I've seen guys who don't have hygiene, guys who are way overweight, guys who are breeding grounds for zits, and even guys who are just jerks get a gal. It's CONFIDENCE that is the secret. You could be the offspring of Quasimodo and a Basilisk and STILL get a chick if you have confidence in yourself.
Be yourself.
Be confident about yourself.
Long hair? What does THAT have to do with getting a chick? I know several who actually find that sort of thing HOT. If you are worried about it look online and see what styles are available to you. Play around with it. Worst comes to worse have it cut in a style you like ( after all it does grow back ).

Question(s) here for you........why is it important for you to have a girlfriend ( you are what 14 or 15)? Is it because you want to branch out and have a relationship? Is it because you are lonely? Is it because you feel you "need" the experience? Is it because many of your friends ( or other guys of your age) have one ( or have had one) and you feel left out?

I have to agree with Inhuman on that having a girlfriend isn't the biggest thing in the world. You won't die without one or anything like that .

However it sounds like you would really like to put your best foot out for this so:

Don't be afraid of the female persuasion. They are just people too with their own hopes, fears, insecurities and quirks. They are not some complicated alien species ( although there are some individuals of the gender that I do wonder about).
Gals ( in general) like confidence, wit, compassion, understanding and respect. The specifics depend on the gal.

Don't try to be something ( or someone ) you are not. That is taxing in so many ways and in the long run do you really want a gal who just likes the image you portray? I doubt it. Even desperate people bow out of this maneuver after awhile. So be yourself. Do you like games? Sports? Cooking? Sewing? Poetry? Movies? Never be afraid to share what you like. Worst comes to worst she's not into you. Not so worst to worst she doesn't like some of the stuff you do ( which has a high percentage of being the norm). Best comes to best she totally digs the same things as much as you do. You won't know if you hide it.

So how do you approach a girl? Well no matter the situation ( bump into her at a quickie mart or coffee joint, library, school hallway etc) it starts by opening your mouth and speaking. If you are at school and she's in the hallway what is the harm in asking her which classes she has or what grade she is ( makes asking about classes less awkward). In public you could always make a casual invite to have a drink ( slurpee, coffee, tea, whatever ) together. If she asks why be honest:
"I think you have great style and would like to get to know you better."
"I noticed that you have a ( patch, CD cover, book) and I really like that ( group, band, author, whatever) too and so would like to hang out and talk."
" You look like you are into ( whatever) and I would like to get to know you better. If I am wrong in my assumption then this would be a perfect opportunity to set me straight ."

Those of course are just some example situations and starter conversations.
Remember confidence and honesty.

I hoped this helped some.

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Hey come one, You're going to be a freshman in HIGH SCHOOl next year, big deal, it's only high school.

besides, if you DO get a girlfriend, how are you guys going to stay together when you go to college? (assuming you do)
It's going to be hard to go to the same college if you have different grades, majors, etc.

As for me, I don't exactly worry too much about these things, I don't think about having a serious relationship until after high school, and maybe during or after college.

As for a good friend who'll stick by you,
Get some confidence, and you'll do fine.

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haha eh dont worry about it, its high school, not whos dated who control, you will find someone, you just have to be yourself, and get yourself out there [not ina slut/*BLEEP* kinda way] but in a meeting new people kind of way.. as for the dance.. try spending more time with the girl, before you ask her, i mean.. im a girl, and its kinda akward when some random guy asks you out of nowhere, and even if you say yes, to avoid the akwardness of saying no, its still akward, if you two cant even carry a conversation, without there being akward silence in between.. so yea, just take your time. your barely going to be a freshman there is no need to rush things.

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man you got long hair, use that because if you get mistaken for a girl at times you're not ugly (cause ugly guys dont look like girls ugly girls look like guys) that's for sure. so if you want girls to digg you just clean up a bit. look and dress realy nice with the hair ( no creapy or too faminine hair styles), i'm telling you, girls may not be like that's the finest thing ever but just looking nice and clean i'm telling you they'll digg you.

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