I have a friend who's always bugging me. when he's free he'll find me and talk rubbish, and resulting me to hit him as hard as i can. After lying on the ground for a few seconds and laugh...... do you know anyone that laughs after being hit? as if im playing games with him... he is very annoying!! i cannot stand him, how can i get rid of him? EDIT: It's fine now, he gone to Australia to live..forever! Still feel bad because he had to live overseas...

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It's always hard to get rid of a friend, although it doesn't seem that you really are friends. You have a lot of opition, but some are very uncomfortable. You probably won't want to just sit down and talk with him, but that's a choice. But, since he's not taking you seriously, I would try to ruin it for him. For example, laugh when you punch him and maybe he won't enjoy it as much. It might not work, it's just an idea. By the way I would word wrap your posts instead of making them like a poem

Or simply tell an adult, they will handle it

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It could be that he enjoys the attention more than the fear of inflicted pain.

Or maybe he is masochistic:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Masochistic

Or maybe he just enjoys rough-housing. <= That would be my guess.

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@husker:
Hey, nice idea!
should work, i'll try it out sometime...
yea, he's my friend but not a really nice one.
@jhsmurray:
no, he's very thin and very kiddy...
and yes, he enjoys attention more than fear of inflicted pain.

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In that case, have you tried ignoring him? You know, always be preoccupied or something when he comes around taunting you. I know that this may be difficult, but it's worth a shot.
If you're right about him, this might work - but remember if it works you may lose him as a friend.

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he'll push me and resulting me to kill him again....
I tried that before, he pushed my shoulder harder and harder and screaming at me louder and louder, I REALLY HATE HIM, sometimes....

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keep on punching him in the mouth until he stops laughing or ignore him lol

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I hardly think that violence is the answer either. It's just brainless and stupid not to mention the definition of torture is to inflict pain upon someone to illicit information or persuade them into doing what you want.
You have to understand that if this person probably has amazingly bad self-esteem - here you are inflicting physical violence on him and yet he has so little self worth that he still stays with you. Of course I'm sure there is some inherent attachment psychology as well but my point is you are only making the situation worse.
If you have tried talking or are unwilling to do so, the fastest way to solve your problem is to ignore and avoid him. And I mean completely ignore - as though he is not there. It will probably get worse before it gets better but it will work eventually.
Of course given that your 'friend' obviously has self-esteem and attachment issues this would make things a lot worse for him. I've seen people like this before. They have nothing in their lives to make it worth living so they attach themselves to someone or something. When they lose that, they lose their point to living. It often ends up bad. If you want to fix this the right way then you'll need to find why he has these issues and build up his self esteem by making him feel like he is worth something (usually involving you being a good friend). You'd have to treat him like a child essentially - not talking down to him etc but making him feel good about himself, like he is in control, rewarding desirable behaviour and ignoring bad behaviour mostly through being a good role model.
This is long winded and a pin in the a** I know but if you want to be happy and want to be a good person, this is pretty much the best way you can do it (short of fobbing him off on someone else to get attached to who can build up his self esteem etc which would still make him feel abandoned).

 

 

 

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Um.... I think he laughs when you punch him as hard as you can because your weak. Start lifting weights or something, heck..... Punching someone has hard as you can, and only getting a laugh is pretty sad, go to your schools weight room and start benching, squating, shoulder pressing, and doing skull crushers to build up muscle so next time you hit him, he'll have no time to laugh in the E.R!!!!

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lol never thought of that...


Your right too, and have a really good advice, thanks.
But i tried, i cant stand it because he start being a girl....
Did i mention the whole class hates him and even other classes do?
But mostly i think the problem is on his mother, that's why he wants to find another "parent friend" to go around...
His mother did'nt let him to wear glasses when his really blinded just because his mother wants him to be a pilot when he grew up....She is dumb(no offence too!)
Her mother also treat him badly, she does not let him to exercise.....what kind of mother is that?does not want the on to be healthy?
she'll kill him if he was found sweating...
But i'll try to treat him like a child, but i will never do more than that, he'll start bugging with his face again..
(he stared at the nice view outside and being interrupted because he kept on thinking that i was looking at him....his eyes are really placed wrongly.....)


Hey, I'm the strongest among the school...people who knows me never dares to take a fight with me...
But i think that's a bad thing, because when i put my hands on top of my buddy, they always hurt
maybe the whole school is weak or something? lol

EDIT: typo......

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