Ok well I like this girl at my school, shes soo cute and likes alot of the same stuff as I do. I always walk her home and we share a lot of good times in school. I've heard she liked other people before but not sure if she will go out with me. Everyone think we like each other and stuff but I am so scared! Everytime I think about asking her I get nervous and change subject. I'm not exactly attractive or cool so its hard to ask. Anyone can help me out?

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Ask her out on a "non-date". Just something you two can go do, possibly with friends, that you both enjoy. Don't put any pressure on her, and just see how things go.

Or, you can use the "grapevine" approach. Have a mutual friend "casually" mention you kinda like her, to test her opinion.

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Ah... puppy love?
You will have to simply bite the bullet and drag up some courage. Try to just ask the question in the normal flow of a conversation. ... just do it.

One approach could be gently leading up to the question and directing the flow of the questioning.
Example:
You might say: "There is a dance/party/football game next week.
Might be fun to go to it. Are you considering attending? And could we go together, kind of like a date?"
See what mean...
Good luck with it.

[And don't show any signs of disappointment if you get the wrong answer. There will be other opportunities come around. Of course, jump up and down like it's the best thing to happen to you in a million years if she answers 'yes'. She'll like that.]

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Very true, haslip. ^-^

You don't want to make her feel you can't still be friends. But if she likes you, enthusiasm is rarely a bad thing. ^-^

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IF you've got a dance or anything coming up, ask her to that. I don't know about how public school works. . .but I'd guess it's the same as my Christian school. We have things called banquets, and if you have a date to them, it's not like you're going out with them, you're just going to it with her.

If that's farther away than you'd like, then just think about an outing with some of your friends and see if she'll go with you. I personally think that even though you guys are shy that you have it easier than the girls just because you've been the ones to ask since about forever. Then again, I'm just generalizing things most likely. I think if you make sure that she know's it's not a date as a gf/bf thing you should be in the safe area. That way if she declines it's not so bad and it won't make thing's uncomfortable when you hang out still.

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Just be relaly good friends with her.

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Just do it you coward! Do you not have any guts? This is what you should say:

" Yo toots, come ova hurr. You know me, straight thuggin, wanna hope in a car with a straight thug"

Her response. " Oh yes, I love you! Let's get married and own our own house, and have babies!"

There you go, you came with the problem of asking a girl out , and look with my help your not only married, with your own home, and babies own your way, but your a true thug straight out of the hood!
Yeah, Or you could take another approach****NOT AS GOOD****

"Baby gurl you stay on my mind you fill my fantasy, I think about you all the time I see you in my dreams"

Her response" Baby boy not a day goes by Without my fantasies
I think about you all the time I see you in my dreams"

Both ways work, but the first way is better. Worked for me!!! And will work for you homie!

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Yep, that sure as hell won't work. Have one of your friends bring you up in a conversation and see what she says about you. You should definitely start talking to her more and invite her places with you, and you guys will most likely become great friends. Becoming friends with somebody is almost always the first step in a successful relationship, so give it a shot.

 

 

 

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Ok.... first thing.... i see that you are desperate for her... does she have a bf?? find out if she doesnt then ask her to go do something with you(find out what she likes ie dancing, japanese foods, persian food, mexican food... you get the point...) then just see what happens! what do you have to loose... think of it this way:

Right now ur not dating her... if you ask her out and she says yes then thas gr8! and if she says no then ur where you are now... no better no worse...

TAKE A SHOT> BUILD UP THE COURAGE!!! GIRLS LOVE THAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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U must not be attractive or cool whatever you say to win over woman's heart. It just need to be gentle and warm and you're done. Best of luck dude.

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