That is a girl thing to do. She's basically trying to say that she's interested, but something's keeping her from being with you at the moment. If you're that interested in her, I say keep yourself available, wait for a while, and ask her out. She's interested and that's a good thing. Just don't be too forward or intrusive from time to time. She needs her space.

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she's not interested, she is CONFUSED. a big difference. she already cheated on him now she may want to cheat on her current boyfriend. my advice is to stay the heck away from her until she is not confused anymore and can learn that she doesn't always have to have a guy in her life until she isn't confused anymore. this girl has some problems. doesn't make her a bad person, but she just needs time for herself and away from the influences that are guiding her in the wrong direction and confusing her even more.

 

 

 

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Time for herself leads to a bigger conundrum, especially if she isn't very trustworthy, she might wind up just reaching out towards another guy. Either way, I have to agree. It wouldn't be healthy to be the other guy if she does become more forwards with expressing herself.

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Well you may think that you love her and all which may be true at the moment. You are in high school though, when i was in high school there was no such thing as serious relationships. I am positive that nearly 85% of all the couple that were in my highschool have now broke up and are moving on.

I would suggest still talking to her and trying your best to get her attention, i am sure she will eventually get rid of this guy too. It sounds like she has had alot of boyfriends so far which is a very bad sign, because that means shes not going to commit to a relationship. Your best bet is to just try and become friends and see were that leads you. There is really nothing more you can do other than just be jealous and waste alot of your time chasing after something that you cant get.
Although i dont mean to be hypocritical but you if you really want something that bad why not try your hardest to get what you want.

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Well, I have actually gone to see a professional councellor about this to try and sort it out, she recommended some potion that would at least numb the feeling, it does that a little, but numbs all feelings, given the choice though I take it. Other than this, I did not really get that much out of it, there were a lot of silences where I was expecting something to be said. I dont know, maybe I expected too much, but thats another issue all together.

Personally, I really do not think she's interested, a while ago, from what I hear, her and her boyfriend had an argument about not seeing each other that much, (something I did a lot.) They seemed a little distant for a few days, but today in particular they seemed quite close. We are starting to spend more time together, 4 hour phone calls from midnight etc. There are some strange things that I just do not get though, she says things like she could "not imagine speaking to me nearly every day" whenever I bring up the subject of going away for a period of time in which I will not have any contact with her.

To be honest, I dont know what I am gonna do still, I have about a month to decide, as the summer holidays commence then. I have the choice of whether to see her or not, she says that "we will have to make arrangements to" But I am not so sure of this. It is getting to the stage whereby now she is starting to annoy me, the whole damn situation is starting to annoy me. The way I see it is that if she is the cause of the problem, and If I cut her out completely. [I don't mean not look at her in class or talk to her, I mean completely cut her out, not even have the temtation there, because I will be actively trying to ignore her, and most likely fail.] I can only start doing this in the summer time when she will not be around. It is not guaranteed that this is the way it will turn out, but it is something that I will try.

One of the other annoying things that I don't get is that her new boyfriend, from what i can see really doesnt treat her well, he doest wait for her after class, he barely sees her outside of school. It would have been easier if he was good to her, maybe its just from what I see, but I hear she does get annoyed with him at times. I never heard such things about me.

Thanks for the replies, keep them coming.

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Potion? I don't think that councellor is doing the right thing honestly. You shouldn't numb the feeling because it's only temporary. Like some people would resort to drinking to forget but it comes back again.

Trying to solve the problem once and for all would be better right? At least you can put a permanent closure to the problem.

Heh, some girls are like this, they stick with this guy even though he's not as nice as he should be. Why they do that is something beyond me.

But from reading what you posted, it seems like you're a nice guy. I'd say don't worry too much about her. Go out and enjoy life with your other friends. I'm sure you'll meet someone who loves you as much as you love her. Just continue to be her friend, be there for her, never expecting anything in return. That, my friend, is true love. Whether she pays back in return is another matter.

Hope it helps

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i deserve a cookie too:D lol
this is a great story for a lazy afternoon romantic movie....

my advice: stay out of her business, u did a lot for her. if she reliazes that she will come around. and if she doesnt she probably isnt the person who deserves u.

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Well, things have certainly moved on.

She has said to me that she does not want to see me as much, solely because when we starting talking to each other a lot, she starts to have feelings for me again. She is also on about the fact that she overall spends more time with me than with her boyfriend, and she thinks that having feelings for two people at once is too confusing.

Fair enough to her, I have said that I will decide upon whether I want to accept this kind of deal or not. Personally, the way I see it is that I have to accept some kind of slap dash half-friendship just for this guy who is not paying all that much attention to her. I have told her that I will make a decision whether we should go on like this, or whether I should cut off all contact with her together, something I am seriously considering.

She basically wants to end the contact that we have been having, stop the long late night MSN conversations, no texts, no phonecalls etc. I'm not at all sure I want that at all, I have plenty of half friends, I don't need another. When I mentioned to her that I was considering not talking to her again, it did spark a reaction. She doesn't want this, she basically ended up in tears on multiple occasions (so I've heard) as she "Doesn't know what she'd do without me"

I have very little idea on what I am going to do, one of the things I am considering is giving her some kinda of ultimatum. Id Est; We are either proper friends, or not friends at all.

Anyone else got any thoughts?

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That must really suck... guess she's really confused or something..

there's nothing much you can do at this point I guess but wait..

Sometimes we need to learn to let go and move on.. Maybe you'll meet someone else much better.. dun give up hope..

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from your account of things...i'm sorry but i don't think shes serious, either that or she's the type of girl that thinks its fun to break up with you adn see whay you would do to get her back, i've seen guys who've had girlfriends who break up with them once every few months for no particular reason...its either she's fooling around, or she had liked someone else and only was interested in you for a while because the two of you shared the same interests...i don't know her, and i don't know you, so i can't say for sure...but i sincerely do think she's just fooling around with you, no offence but maybe you should let go, i don't think she's the right one for you if she does these kinds of things..and she's even cheated on you once before, if she's done it once, she can do it again and again..i'm sorry, but what i think is you should let go and move on, she's not worth your time, and from your account of what happened, you seem like a great guy with good and sincere intentions, you seem loyal too, you'll find your girl someday, and she'll be way better than this person who's just playing with you...

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