| | Does age matter when you are in a relationship? i am currently 17 and i am in a relationship with a 14 year old girl. there is only 3.5 years difference.. and we love each other. She is proabably more mature then i am, so does age really matter? |
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This topic really hits home because a girl asked me out to Prom but she was a Senior and i'm a Sophomore so I had to say no, because you know sometimes people will just exploit you for their own personal gain and whatnot.I wish, sometimes this world just hurts to be in it. From where I stand however, the right thing in your situation to do would be to intervene and explore the different routes... read more.
In this case yes, regardless if she is mature or not, sexually she is immature and to top it off she is not of legal age and if I remember correctly you live in the states and that is considered statutory rape. If I was the smart I would end that relationship and explain it to her the situation and if she doesn't understand or handle the break up that shows the immaturity she has. Curious, how do her parents feel about this and hopefully they disagree with the fact she is going out with an older guy (you).
Wow.... I thought it was the other way around. Well I'm 17 year old too and almost went out with this 20 year old, but decided not to because of insecurities.. u noe wat i mean.
Well, I think it's fine... as long as she doesn't look 14. My friend is 18 and he's going out wit a sophomore (i think she's 14). She doesn't look the age so it's fine. But if she does look pretty young and you "do it" it's kinda weird and u should stop. But I don't think a break up is necessary, I mean u guys could still wait when she gets older like 16.
Break up is necessary because no guy will wait that long for a girl to be legal, and even though most say they will wait for the right time they don't really mean it. Sex is all about temptation and a guy gets tempted every time he looks at another girl or guy depenind how he swings. But staying on topic it would be in his best intrest to break it off because when hits 21 she still be under age to drink and that just brings in another load of problems if he even drinks.
What Saint Michael said is right but I dont exactly agree for when I was in a relationship I was 14 and the guy was 19. Even now I am in a relationship and the guy is 28 so I dont think that age is relevant when you have a relationship But I totally agree with the fact that she is 14 and the two of you can get tempted very easily for even now me and my partner have been going out for 8 months and this is the phase where both of us are supposed to be out of the "sex" phase of teenage but we still get tempted very easily so My advice would be to stay friends with the chick with your feelings in mind and then after she is old enough you can jump off a cliff if you'd like for all I know Listen at this age all that goes on in a guy's mind is to "have sex". Sorry If I was rude but this is what my boyfriend said. Dont cause any problems for the girl nor her parents for I dont think that her parents would be really happy. Cheers  Sorry If I was of no help or rude
I like your posting about your relationship. You are 17 and your girlfriend is of 14 age. Ow you guys have good moment right now.But i believe that you should think of your relationship once more. I think you both are not wise enough to make a good decission. Relationship will be stronger when there is understanding between you two. Dont go seriously right now. Take your time and believe your relationship will work out. Carry your friendship and maintain a strong bond between you two. Time will come when you both will realize what is a relationship, and how two carry it out.
Yes, in a relationship age DOES matter because if two people at totally wierdly different ages are dating, they are at different stages of life and maturing. They can't even compare their thoughts and have nothing in common - it can even get dangerous. Some say it's a "bad mind attraction"... are you doing anything physical??? I should hope not!! If you are then stop.... that is bad considering your large age difference. It is unhealthy, dangerous and ILLEGAL. I guess I'm trying to say get a girlfriend your own age or dont get one at all.
In this case, age matters very much. The legal consequences...yikes. And they'll all fall on you, not her, regardless of how she feels about the situation (as in: she may be completely in love with you, but you could still get into deep trouble).
She might be a very mature 14-year-old, but you're 17. You'll be 18 soon enough. You'll be out of high school (if you aren't already). She'll be...what? A sophomore? Yeah, something like that. She'll still have to go to school while you're off at college, or working full-time, or in the military or whatever it is that you end up doing with yourself as a young adult. Your lives will be so utterly different...or at least yours will be. Even though she's mature and such, she's still in her early-to-mid teens. Her mind is still developing, as is her body. She's not going to be like a 17/18-year-old girl/young woman, no matter how much you'd like for her to be. As for her being possibly more mature than you: that's normal. Girls tend to mature faster than boys for whatever reason.
hmm... I guess my view on this is different from my last post. I never took the maturity circumstance in mind. Although I'm not the thread starter, may I ask what your views if it's the other way around.
(The guy is 17, the girl is 20-21)
Should age matter? Yes and No. Within age ranges there needs to be a acceptance level. 10-16, 16-20, 20-40, 40+ crissing those ranges puts you into a different lifestyle, she is starting to learn the way of the worlds while you are starting to find yourself in the world. While you're going to college or whatever, she is in school learning things, being with guys her own age, it will only distract her and you.
However, Should this matter? No, not really, age shouldn't be defining weather a relationship will work or not, or if it even starts, but you have to question your own intentions and he your liking some aged 14 at 17 then are you not meeting people if your own age, how do you even come about getting together with a 14 year old to start with. I can be understanding, i don't care if she was 14 or 18 to be honest (any younger, i would be worried), but the law may not be soo understanding, it doesn't take each <16 as a case by case basis and you automatically end yourself in the *BLEEP*, now you have to weigh those odds to those of the happiness you have with her. Latest Entries
This topic really hits home because a girl asked me out to Prom but she was a Senior and i'm a Sophomore so I had to say no, because you know sometimes people will just exploit you for their own personal gain and whatnot.
I wish, sometimes this world just hurts to be in it. From where I stand however, the right thing in your situation to do would be to intervene and explore the different routes you can take with this world, whether its to continue the relationship or to just let her go. Because long distance relationships don't work and no guy will wait that long for a girl to be "of age" I suggest just letting her go because she's only 14 and she will fall in love with other people regardless if you let her go now. Cheers mate, good luck with your love life, hee hee.
I honestly don't think so because I am in a relationship with a girl 3 years older than me, but my friends seem to thin k that age matters and they feel bad for her cause she is three years older. I think what they say about that is stupid
Hi. I agree with heavensounds. Age in relationships matter, but only in two cases: when the difference is notorious (10+ years) and when love isn't very strong. In the first case, the problems are so many: sex, family, jobs, mutual friends, personalities, etc. In some cases maybe the love seems like mom and dad love instead of couple love due to difference of ages. The second case, when love is weak, many stupid things could cause really damage to the relationship like gossips, doubts, discussions, fights, etc.
I hope that people in relationships like that mentioned above could stay away from its. Bye. "Excuse my english. I still learning it."
I don't think age is what matters in relationships. Age is a standardized measure of maturity, experience, and values. Someone younger might not be emotionally mature, and if you're a lot older than she is, she might give you a lot of drama and crap. She might also not understand some of the things you do, and why you do them, because she's not as experienced in relationships.
At HER age, it matters legally, so don't have sex with her. When she is older, it won't matter as much. For example, a lot of married couples have around a 3-year age difference. But when they were younger, the relationship would not have been socially acceptable.
I think that age does matter, maybe not now when the only problem is sex, but in the future too big of a difference between two people make a difference! There are only 3 years between you two and you are older so that should not be a problem in the future, but you if a girl is 19 and the boy is let's say 29, that is a problem, because he wants to settle down and have a family, maybe kids and so on...the girl in our society probably or mostly won't be ready for that sort of life at this young age so there is a big problem here.
Of course, there is only one rule...if two poeple really and I mean REALLY love each other, then there is no problem at all!
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