I was just dumped by my boyfriend of a year and a half. I was his first girlfriend, he was my first boyfriend - we shared pretty much all of our firsts together. He even told me he wanted to get married. We were so serious that I decided to take a year off after graduation so that we could go to college together because he is a year behind me.

I just graduated from high school about two weeks ago. He broke up with me about a week ago after another fight. We had fought a lot before, and had broken up many times before but always managed to get back together in 24 hours. But this time he tells me he isn't sure if he ever wants to get back together. And I'm an absolute wreck over it. I can't eat, I can't sleep... I lost eight pounds since he dumped me. All I have been doing is crying non-stop. We have been through so much together that I just can't let it go. I am so attached to him. I keep asking him if we're going to get back together, but all he tells me is "I don't know." That's what's killing me. It has been a week from hell because he can't give me a straight answer. I don't know whether I should just let it go and move on, or wait for him to give me an answer.

I have taken advice from other topics like this one and hung out with my friends and such. But it seems as soon as I come home I start crying again. He is really jerking me around, and he doesn't understand that I just need an answer. I don't want to just throw the last year and a half away. I have tried talking to family as well, but that doesn't help much either. My mother is very cynical about relationships and all she tells me is that he doesn't care about me anymore and I'm not important to him, which just makes me more miserable. He tells me he still loves me, but he doesn't know if he wants to give me another chance. I've called him in tears, hysterical, begging for an answer. It's been a week, how much longer should I wait for him? He knows how miserable this is making me and how depressed I am but he doesn't seem to care. What should I do? I am very desperate for someone to talk to about this.

 

 

 

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As someone who knows just how you feel, I understand your thoughts. but as you said Your 1st Boyfriend. I feel very sure you will have many more before that Mr right comes your way. A heart is like glass. It breakes very easy, But I know it will heal. Always does.

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Sometimes when you want a direct answer, you never receive one and you end up figuring things out for yourself. You said it's been a week and he's saying "i don't know" and that he still loves you. Although i can't say for sure and although this may not be something you want to hear, but a pattern like that usually means it's over and they don't want to tell you that because they think it'll hurt you even more. If you're regretting anything, try not to, because some actions will be necessary, like confronting him again and asking for the straight out truth. If you meet with him again, tell him that you want to know the truth even if he thinks it'll hurt. He already knows that not knowing is hurting you, so what's the point in him not telling you? I know this has the potential of starting another argument, but problems don't solve themselves. If he doesn't tell you, then forget about him. I know it's not an easy task to just simply forget, but there is a way out of your pain; there is a future for you.

Psalm 34:18

 

 

 

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