RockinTheCasbah
Aug 11 2006, 06:25 PM
| | I've been going out with this guy for about 2 years now, and for the past 1 or 2 months he was acting a bit weird. A couple days ago he told me he didn't want to be in a relationship, he wanted to be single, beacause he's been in serious relationships for a quite a while, so he just wanted to have some time to himself. Well, with the help of a friend of mine and his, I found out he's going out with this other girl, and he's been thinking about a serious relationship with her for a while...and I don't know if he actually waited untill I was out of the picture or not.
I'm having a very hard time dealing with this, for he was my first possibly true love...or as true as it can get right now. I know I'll eventually get over him, maybe not completely, but I don't know how to deal with this right now. Can anyone give me some advice? |
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gaea
Aug 11 2006, 09:47 PM
*hug* I'm sorry you're going through this. It took me years to get over the breakup from my first serious relationship (which lasted three years), so I know how tough it can be. The most important thing you can do right now is just to try and take care of yourself. Remember that your friends and family really love you, and that you're not alone. I know it really hurts now, but this too shall pass. Try to do things which will make yourself happy; spend some time with your closest friends. Dealing with the pain itself can be really hard...you need to accept it in order to heal (ignoring it will only make it worse), but try not to dwell on it to the point where you're constantly miserable. Lastly, don't blame yourself. It was his choice to leave, you did nothing to drive him away. I'm going to PM you my email address. I'm here if you need someone to talk to. Or just need someone to listen while you try and let things out. Things will get better, but it's going to take time. Take care of yourself, --Paolo
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crazyteens
Aug 12 2006, 10:34 AM
sometimes in life u gotta let go things which u want the most... of course that ain't easy. I had a relation with my ex since 4 years... i was so in love wit her that i was willing to sacrifice anything. n i mean anything. it's been 7months since we had breakup...still i remember her...somehow we manage to be frens though. i c her very often...she one gal i can neva forget..no matter how hard i try
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stephanie
Aug 12 2006, 03:03 PM
i'm sorry for you,it's an horrible situation. But i think you should try to be strong,try to get over him. think like this: you are a nice girl,i'm sure that he is the one that stays losing without you. and don't worry if he was with her before leaving you or not,that doesn't matters,don't think about it even. You have to have fun and meet new people,try to take him of your head. I mean,i know it's hard and i know it hurts but the pain you feel will get smaller each day,and with time,you won't even remember it,you just have to be patient. But while you wait,try not to isolate and don't feel sorry because it is not worth it. relationships come and go and you migth think you love him a lot but when you find another guy you will see that you didn't love this one as much as you tougth you did. and if he didin't like you anymore,you are better without him also. so be strong girl,put some make up on,dress nice and go to the movies with your girls and then go to a bar and have a drink or something,without thinking about man,you will see everything will be ok. good luck****
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lawmatchmaker
Aug 28 2006, 07:09 PM
QUOTE(RockinTheCasbah @ Aug 11 2006, 02:25 PM) 
I've been going out with this guy for about 2 years now, and for the past 1 or 2 months he was acting a bit weird. A couple days ago he told me he didn't want to be in a relationship, he wanted to be single, beacause he's been in serious relationships for a quite a while, so he just wanted to have some time to himself. Well, with the help of a friend of mine and his, I found out he's going out with this other girl, and he's been thinking about a serious relationship with her for a while...and I don't know if he actually waited untill I was out of the picture or not.
I'm having a very hard time dealing with this, for he was my first possibly true love...or as true as it can get right now. I know I'll eventually get over him, maybe not completely, but I don't know how to deal with this right now. Can anyone give me some advice?
I think that basically if you find that you cannot trust your partner anymore its better to just break up and carry on with life. Obviously, your boyfriend was not very upfront with you initially about why he wanted a break up, and I think that thats not a good policy at all in any relationship. Since he has already made his decision, I think the best you can do is to abide by his choices and try to cope with it. I know you feel uncomfortable with it, but for the long term I think thats the right decision to make.
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tuddy
Aug 29 2006, 06:01 AM
On the other hand you have to wonder how long this guys new relationship is going to last. 2 Years with you, and suddenly it's all over red carover! However life is hard, we all must learn from pervious expereicnes and move along into the future of success.
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cangor
Aug 29 2006, 07:57 AM
if you ask me, that's really rude. If he was really a great, honest guy he would have just told you - it would have hurt still the same, but it's being honest and the two of you might still be able to be friends in the future. Though, really, if I was in his position I wouldn't know what to do, he should have just come out and told you. This other girl could have turned out to be a real loser and then he could always come crying back.  Well, take care. It might be a while until you're really over the whole thing but you just need to remember that you're your own person and that just because this guy broke up with you doesn't mean you're any different. If he hadn't wanted to be with you but he stuck to you for a long time it'd end up feeling fake to both of you and chances are more people than just you would have ended up getting hurt.
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Sweety
Aug 30 2006, 04:34 AM
Even though it's going to be hard....just learn how to slowly move on without him. After 2 years of a serious relationship with him you can bet that you'll think about him tons. Try to stay active so that you don't get all depressed with thoughts. And remember that everything happens for a reason. There's someone out there for you that will appreciate the special person that you are. Remain positive and surround yourself with people that love you ok. Best wishes!!!!
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Trap FeedBacker
Oct 14 2007, 04:17 AM
O.k what this guy is thinking is that he just didn't want you to find out because maybe deep down inside he does love you but he was not commited to a long relationship. He didn't want to break your heart so he told you he didn't want to be in a long relationship. Give him a break, sometimes it sucks being with the same person. Telling you the truth if he DIDN'T LOVE YOU then he would of told you the truth about seeing another girl. So it brings to my point of course he loves you, give him awhile. 3 or 4 weeks he will want you back. All you have to do is make him think that you don't care and search for another guy, try to make him jealous. believe me it will work, just try...! -Lala
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FeedBacker
Dec 28 2007, 06:00 AM
Be strong - you are better than that. I just recently got broken up with from my 2 and half year relationship. It hurts, burns, and truly feels like the world is going to end - however it is not, just make sure that you don't do anything that you regret. Make sure you grab hold of a piece of your pride - even if you have to fabricate pride, hold it up in front of yourself and when you really want to call him, because - believe me you will, learn how to say "screw you, I am better that that." It slowly gets easier, but make sure what ever happens you hold onto pride - and don't get too drunk. Good luck and take care. Xx -nats
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iGuest
Oct 18 2009, 05:59 AM
How do I break off a long term relationship...for good?
I'm 30 and should know better when it comes to co-dependency, but it is very obvious that I still have much to learn. I'm breaking up with my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years for the fourth time, hoping it will be the last, and any advice it much appreciated. See, I'm one of those fixer-upper girlfriends. I was with one of my closest friends when I met him. We went to party at some hotel with a guy we knew and he happened to be his friend. I honestly didn't even pay attention to him for the first 2 hours, and I couldn't tell you who initiated the conversation or what we even talked about. I'm pretty sure I found him repulsive at first glance but 1 month later, he's living with me and I'm footin the bill emotionally and monetarily. He had no job, no education, no manners, no respect for women and no identity. He lied compulsively about everything, including the amount of porn he watched behind my back, (while blaming me for not having sex properly.)
BUT...After 8 months of emotional breakdowns and arguments something changed. It was a little bit at a time; He got a job, part time. He became more affectionate. He bought me cute sentimental gifts. He divulged personal experiences. Unfortunately these are the things he should have done since the beginning. It just isn't enough. Isn't there a point where you realize that it will never be enough. The damage is done and I will never be satisfied. I go irate over trivial issues because I still resent him. He has come a long way but I still make up the difference and I will always hold that over his head. It isn't fair to either one of us. So I'm asking for help on how to keep this break up a nice, clean break up. I already did an immature thing by telling him how I hooked up with someone else while we were broken up the last time which was unnecessary. It was a last resort but it's all I've got to motivate my decision.
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iGuest
Aug 25 2009, 12:18 PM
how do i let go of him
Dealing With A Long Term Relationship Break Up
hi everyone.
On December 2007 I started the relationship with this guy, we are working together and we normally close on December. We started dating on our last week before we close for Dec. He went home to another province and the relationship was so good. We were talking to each other time and again but before we reopen at work I found that he was married. He never told me that he was married and it was difficult for me to break up with him bcoz I luv him and I did not want to loose him.
We continued seeing each other but know the relationship is not fun at all, we do not have time together and I suggested that we stop bcoz he does not have time for me anymore, he cud not allow me to but I found out that there is a problem back home and now he suggested that we take a break.
It is so hard coz I luv him so much and I do not know what the word break means in a relationship.
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iGuest
Aug 21 2009, 03:07 AM
Response to "dealing with being on a break/time away from each other..Please Help! read it is very interesting"
Dealing With A Long Term Relationship Break Up
Hello everyone. I just wanted to update you guys on my situation and hopefully help someone who is going through the same thing I went through. My original post was on May 5 2009, 07:32 AM. I am so happy to say that I am no longer sad. It has been months since I shed a tear and I have been concentrating on school, family and friends. I thought I was not going to survive my breakup. It was a five year relationship, my first boyfriend and he was also my best friend...But life doesn't end. In fact, my life is better than ever now. Yeah I still miss what we had and he will always have a special place in my heart but not necessarily in my life. I am so much stronger than I gave myself credit for. It feels good to be single, I haven't been single since I was 16y.O., so this is all new to me but it is a lot of fun. I have meet some very cool people, done things I have never done and best of all, learned that you don't need another person in order to be happy. If you are happy, then everything falls into place. I know saying "everything happens for a reason" sounds corny but I believe this more than ever. I hope this helps someone realize that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and who knows, it might be a brighter light than the one that went out.
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iGuest
Aug 12 2009, 07:43 PM
You will meet someone new and who is more compatible than your ex. First and foremost you need to heal and grow. Learn the lessons from the relationship and cherish the memories. Being angry and upset will hinder your growth and you don't need that.
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iGuest
Aug 5 2009, 08:21 PM
DOES LOVE REALLY HURT THIS MUCH
Dealing With A Long Term Relationship Break Up
hello every1, I was in a relationship wit my ex for about nine month when he startes seeing another girl, this girl happens to be the sister of his best friend, we broke up for a while and after a month he came back and told me how sorry he was, I accepted him back, ever since then he's being going back and forth between me and the girl its been 4yrs 6months now since I've been wit him, over this time he's beating me up several times, he even brings the girl to the same place he knows I'll be. I know I don't love him the way I used to, but I don't know how to stay away, he's the only guy I've ever loved. Please help, I know I can do this but I need help. Thank u very much
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