Has anyone ever been in Codependant Relationship?
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Understand What that really is ?
Every Ask yourself , you happier when you are Helping for others more each day or you do things in life that is for another person more than adding yourself in those efforts too.
Have you felt guilty spending money over things that failed in efforts you placed out there for another to succeed in ,Have you tuned life into taking on other peoples problems in searching out there negative or suffering to make it issues in solving those problems even when that person seems okay in way life is at the time ,although the need becomes stronger in own self in fixing there problems or suffering Despite What is actually helping for that other person to cpe with ,it becomes more important to fix that person in your own way of thinking and seeing ,that results actually only turns out ,to be not so rewarding ,always limiting that person towards feeling they are damagd or needing improvments constantly within there own self and Life .
You become depressed in issues that are unable to Fix another ,in all your efforts you placed out there and your Time .
Then become Angry that areas that you was there for another ,does not get appreciated or supported in return being there or giving the Thanks needed for being there in all areas you done for them and placing own self out there for another .
If you answer "yes" to the areas maybe that is a codependent relationship?
So I ask you what is actually a Codependent Relationship ?
I read many areas that those who are in Codependent relationship it is based on being a victim throughout your relationship ,weakness that gets paid close attention too and always needing a fix to those areas of another ,It seems as like there is unrealistic Responsibility for actions that are not your own ,feelings that some how to manipulate a person or environment an bring all negative towards a positive change for that person .
A relationship that is codependent one is always striving to change ones own self ,always improving themselves for there partner ,there always feeling if only they could change themselves there relationship will get better ,only if they was not a victim of there own doing in Life .
Then maybe there partner would treat them better and there relationship would be more loving towards each other ,only to find ,yourself never healed or on way towards living a life filled with happiness ,that you stay weak minded and All the improvements you strive to change and attempts one makes ,the other is never held accountable for there negative behavior as one is attempting to do better .
Therefore that relationship is perpetuated and help is not sought out as a fix or solution .
Those in Relationship that is ,Codependents may appear to see themselves in relationship , or even fool themselves or others into believing that are loving and kind and giving. In own self more than one there in a relationship with ,
Is it true that codependents relationships seek out enjoy relationships with areas than there other half is a victim or lived past that was filled with suffering , as these kinds of relationships or people they meet ,help codependent to feel good about there own selves they hold issues in themselves in being insecure .
Their acts of Love or helping hand is only of control and manipulation.
It is clearly seen there is enormous amounts of Time and energy trying to "fix or help" the victim; if the victim gets stronger, it does not really meet their purpose as that person always holds some form of a issue that keeps them a victim and weaker than that other person ,
Is it True in there own selves, They need to feel "needed" and Supportive thus enabling the victim to remain in day to day ,unhealthy Relationship.
Is it true that most codependent relationships gain some form of sense of there own self worth from a relationship towards , needy partner .
Is it True in Codependent Relationship that person that is always needing to fix another or solve another’s problems is actually in there own self is lavishing all of their time and attention another , that person is not really looking at there own self or full filling there own insecurities or that emptiness in there own personalities .
Has anyone ever been in CODEPENDANT Relationship ,if so How Did you actually realize you was in that type of Relationship ,your own self ?
Would be interested in Hearing other peoples views on Codependant Relationships .
