DeathLock
Jul 2 2005, 12:00 AM
| | i personally dont think its bad to cheat on ur mate as long as u dont let he/she find out...because cheating on your mate might just be the thing that keeps you two together...and what he/she doesnt know wont hurt he/she  ...i mean like for instance...a friend of mine went out for a girl for almost 2-3 years and they cheated on each other the whole time but never got caught and they had a great relationship...they ended up braking up in the end because she had to move away...but they still keep in touch and hook up every once in awhile lol...but if ur married then u should not cheat no way!...or if ur going out with someone u can picture spending ur life with u shouldnt cheat either...thats just my opinion...what do u guys think? |
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quiksilver
Jul 2 2005, 12:36 AM
QUOTE(DeathLock @ Jul 1 2005, 06:00 PM) and what he/she doesnt know wont hurt he/she no, but syphilis might. Or herpies. Not telling your girlfriend/boyfriend that you cheated on them is lying and it puts them at risk.
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clagnol
Jul 2 2005, 01:35 AM
There are lots of ways for your partner to find out. The last time I dated two girls simultaneously, one of them found out from a mutual friend. This wasn't cheating, mind you, as I was not exclusive with either girl. But sometimes you'd rather just keep certain details to yourself.
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rejected
Jul 2 2005, 01:51 AM
I'm totally against cheating in relationships, I'd be crushed if I found out my girlfriend was cheating on me. What someone doesn't know won't hurt them, but what happens when they do find out? I wouldn't go out with someone and then be that unfaithful! That's the whole reason of being in a relationship is to be together, to have commitment and that trust that you feel for your partner. And as quiksilver said, what would happen if you get an STD, or some disease from the person you're cheating with? Your partner would find out and then you have some nasty disease on you that may stay with you your whole life. In my opinion, cheating is dead wrong and shouldn't occur ever.
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Johnny
Jul 2 2005, 01:56 AM
Cheating is bad. Period. It just causes way too much stress, distrust, and general badness. O.o
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apopguru
Jul 2 2005, 02:52 AM
Cheating is a bad thing. It hurts you even though you don't know it and if your partner finds out then you are in even worse trouble, My advice is don't do it
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Joshua
Jul 2 2005, 03:05 AM
I've thought before on where the idea of "cheating" originates from. Is it because people are trying to have the blessings of marriage without the responsibilities and institution God created to go with them? Long story short, I think it's because we treat dating as marriage is supposed to be treated, with much the same level of intimacy (I assume it doesn't involve sex, it still involves hugging and kissing and levels of intimacy and bonding) yet without the protections of marriage and the responsibilities/bond that marriage brings. You're expecting another to be tied to you when they have never made the official commitment to do so. Also, because there is no level of patience or waiting, of commitment without satisfaction, the relationship is devalued and people base their commitment to the other person on how they feel and what pleasure it brings them without caring about the other person. So what is being cheated on if there was never a commitment made on which to be cheated? As soon as the person feels the "magic" of the relationship, or what they could get out of it, is gone, they too are gone. I see it as something like sex. As they say, having sex before marriage only serves to put you on the used car lot. I'm sure I've just offended about 9 of 10 people who will read this post  Sorry, just my opinions
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hulunes
Jul 2 2005, 03:07 AM
personally,no one would like to cheat on other.maybe exiting some true lie,they can not help but to cheat.  however i dont like...especially on parents and friends.
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clagnol
Jul 2 2005, 05:16 AM
QUOTE(jzyehoshua @ Jul 1 2005, 10:05 PM) I've thought before on where the idea of "cheating" originates from. Is it because people are trying to have the blessings of marriage without the responsibilities and institution God created to go with them?
No, it has nothing to do with religion, whatsoever. QUOTE Long story short, I think it's because we treat dating as marriage is supposed to be treated, with much the same level of intimacy (I assume it doesn't involve sex, it still involves hugging and kissing and levels of intimacy and bonding) yet without the protections of marriage and the responsibilities/bond that marriage brings.
Hugging and kissing? Wow... QUOTE Also, because there is no level of patience or waiting, of commitment without satisfaction, the relationship is devalued and people base their commitment to the other person on how they feel and what pleasure it brings them without caring about the other person.
That's quite a logical leap, jzye. So a man cheats on his girlfriend (and vice versa) because there is no little slip of paper stating their legal and financial ties? I think you should give this little theory of yours some more thought. QUOTE
So what is being cheated on if there was never a commitment made on which to be cheated? I very much recommend you do not use this line when you start dating girls. QUOTE As they say, having sex before marriage only serves to put you on the used car lot. Who says this? Do you think you are better than us used cars for never having touched the road? Well, I hate to break it to you, but even new cars are tested to make sure they work. You aren't a new car, you are a car that hasn't even left the assembly line, for fear that you'll get a little dent before someone buys you. QUOTE I'm sure I've just offended about 9 of 10 people who will read this post Sorry, just my opinions What you really did was hijack a thread about cheating and turn it into a sermon against the evils of sex before marriage. I understand that you feel strongly about this, and I can empathize, as I once shared your views, when I was a child. But there is a difference between sharing your opinions and blurting them out during an unrelated conversation. And for future reference, when you realize that you are offending 9 out of 10 people, perhaps it's best just not to post at all, lest you be labelled a troll.
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twentyinches631
Jul 2 2005, 01:39 PM
Ehh, clagnol let him say what he wants. He is entitled. I'm not offended. To get back to the topic though, cheating is definitely not something you would want to do. And you can call it trying to be married without actually being married if you want but I love my girlfriend and I wouldn't even want to see anyone else beside her, nor would I want to hurt her by doing so. Dating for most people I think is trying to find that special girl or guy you wanna spend the rest of your life with. If you prove that you can't be faithful (ie cheat) then you will never keep a mate. They also have a saying "once a cheater always a cheater"... but I don't believe that. Many people do however, so cheating will get you nowhere fast.
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Deretto
Sep 8 2008, 07:59 AM
I believe in dating around. You don't have to be someones boyfriend or girlfriend in order to date them. Everyone seems to forget that. How're you supposed to meet the perfect one if you keep tying yourself to one person for a long period of time? As for sex. I'd say go for it. I have sex with most of my friends. It's just something we do. Obviously we all get checked up on a regular basis just to be safe and whenever we have contact with anyone outside of our network. Even when I do find that someone, I'd still want to have sex with some other people now and then. I'd let him know of course. Heck, I might want him to join in! Things can be interesting and a lot of fun when you have an open mind. ^-^;
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iGuest
Sep 5 2008, 05:41 PM
Replying to DeathLockThats the stupidist reasoning EVER! what makes you think that as soon as you get a wife you will magically stop cheating? Secondly relationships should be about pouring everything you have into the relationship and you cant do that if your foling around with someone else. It is sooo nieve to think it is ok to stay in a relationship in which both are cheating on eachother because that means you both are just using the other for sex and so there is no heart put into it. The only reason they stayed in the relationship is because it gave them the security of knowing that they can call this person anytime they want for a booty call -reply by Leonidas
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iGuest
Aug 20 2008, 01:14 AM
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Bad Relationship, Partner Trust & Cheating
If we were raised differently things would be different as well. We were raised to think cheating is bad and when we grow up we'll find that soul mate and everything will be ok and we'll be with them forever and ever. Well this is what happens, you end up with that person, you get married, then your body, spirt tells you that you want something different because things change in the relationship and they don't stay like they were when you first met. So either you can stay unhappy forever by making the other person happy or leave and make the other person unhappy. You have your life intertwined with another person, to seperate would be hard or impossible because you have everything shared, it's like splitting one person into two. If you cheat, you can keep the relationship and still experience what your fairy tail marriage is now lacking unless they find out. It does not mean you love someone less just that you need the things the other person used to provide like their love or whatever. You can love 2 people at once and thats the problem, our society teaches us we can't love 2 people at once. Lets start doing this with everything, we'll eat the same food forever, keep the same job, watch the same tv show, keep the same apartment, keep the same shoes, coat cause if we dare think about something else it's cheating!
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iGuest
Aug 18 2008, 03:36 AM
NEVER EVER!
Bad Relationship, Partner Trust & Cheating
Replying to DeathLockYeh so my opinion on this is that when you have a relationship... It is because you are tryint to find the one for life... I know people who only dated one person and married that person... Because they succeeded after the first relationship. ... If you cheat on someone it is because you don't sincerely love that person... Which is one of the leading causes to relationship failures... Because there is that chance your lover could find out! WHY RISK IT! ... So long story short... As suggested by others DON'T DO IT...
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iGuest
Jun 11 2008, 12:36 PM
I think cheating is bad as it obv damages the trust you have in a relationship and with someone you care about...However saying that, I had been with my bf for about a year and a half and then I went to uni and met someone else and we had a bit of a thing and I did cheat on my bf with him, but I regret it imensley, because I wasn't seeing my bf as much as I used to see him I forgot how much he meant to me and the other guy I met was a player and just wanted me for a shag and I didn't realise that, I was considering breaking up with my bf for him, but I told my bf what happened, and he was obv really heart broken, so we went on a break for a week so I could figure out what I wanted, and I slept with this other guy again, and then my bf came down to see me the following weekend and we got back together, even though I still wasn't really sure about everything I was coming home for christmas so I thought we would be able to sort it out so I tried to forget about this other guy and me and my bf tried to move on from what happened, but then when I went back after christmas I slept the other guy again and I knew I couldn't keep pretending with my bf that things were going to work out, so I broke up with him...Then I find out what a dick the other guy was so I was single for a bit and had a couple of flings, and then I started to realise how much I still loved my bf, so after about a month we got back together and had both had some time to come to terms with things and what we wanted and we've been taking it slowly and are still happily back together 6 months on. I know he will never forget what I did to him and I still wish I could take back what happened but we've both dealt with it and we want to make it work. Looking back I should have broken up with my bf before I slept with the other guy and then it would have given us time to figure things out and it wouldn't have led to me sleeping with him while I was still with my bf despite the fact that I was drunk when it happened, it's in the past now and we are building things up again. I just wanted to know what you thought about it...
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