A200
Mar 25 2008, 10:03 AM
Hi all, I have a big question I need to sort out... What is considered gay? I have been asking myself this for ages, am I, or aren't I? Ok I like to watch gay porn (ok I hope noone I know is reading this  , is it possible to have this topic hidden after its been answered ??? just so noone reads it who knows me and spreads rumours) but the thing is, I only like it if its only 1 person... I find the whole idea of two guys putting their thingy up other peoples you-know-what to be revolting... but I get turned on by boys with fit hot bodies... and kissing as well, but the thing is, I have no personal desire to have gay sex with anyboy and if a boy tried to kiss me I would run and hide...  I find chicks hot, I used to have a girlfriend a few years ago but I went to high school and haven't contacted her since (I don't think it was considered girlfriend status as we never went out, never kissed and only touched each other like, what? once, which was a hug I think when she was upset). But I never warm up at all to porn with chicks in it, and don't get sexually stimulated by the sight of one... but I do find them 'hot'... Am I gay? Am I straight? Or am I bi (!!!!!!!). I don't really consider myself gay or bi, I am unsure! HELP! It is wierd... I can stand the sight of a penis, but I cannot stand the sight of a vagina... I am one mixed up person. Can anyone help? PLEASE? This is one confused 16 year old here 
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Inhuman
Mar 25 2008, 05:21 PM
I think you might actually be gay. Yea, gay sex buttsecks could be revolting to you, but remember, gays do other things as well. I mean yea, you find chicks to be hot, but that's only recognizing someone's beauty. I think you would run and hide after being kissed from a dude because you might be scared to accept the fact that you might actually be gay. Like, you said it yourself, you find dudes more sexually attractive than chicks. Thus, you sir are gay. At least, that's what I'm getting out of your post.
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Lyon2
Mar 25 2008, 06:30 PM
Gay, which is normaly used by all, is a person that has only sexual appeal for persons of the same sex (male with male and/or female with female), and not a man that likes man like most people perhaps think. Obviously, there are other definitions, gay can or could be a person very feminine but not necessarily homosexual, being homosexual a person that has sexual appeal only for persons of the same sex which is equal to gay, i should say so. In my opinion, and considering the society definition of gay, which i already said, you are not gay if you are heterosexual, unless you are homosexual or even bisexual which is a person that has sexual appeal for both male and female. Now, i guess you can sure if you are or not gay/homosexual or perhaps bisexual, but that does not tell you who you are, only your sexual preferences, you do not have fault for nothing that it is not a fault, you can only discover who you realy are as long as your experience of life increases and it directly depends on what you do in face of your fears, in face of bad and difficult situations that eventualy uour will have on your life, on your future, perhaps even closer that you think. Everybody falls, but what makes us strong is the capability of rising up to that fall.
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cangor
Mar 25 2008, 06:39 PM
Yeah, I definitely don't think you're gay, I mean, like you might just be at an awkward period where you're not sure yet, but I'm guessing you're bi or just plain confused... I dunno, sometimes these things need time to sort themselves out.
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musicmaza
Mar 25 2008, 06:46 PM
Gay means to have sexual desire or appeal for the same sex First of all its better to check yourself first. Well with the things you said like watching gay porn etc I think that you may or may not be a gay with the experiences you are undergoing through. it is possible that You may not be a gay but you like to watch the gay porn or in other words you think gay porn is fascinating And as you said that you find chicks hot ...but seeing one doesn't increase your sexual appeal...this is think is more complicated than the previous one. Anyways If you are just fascinated by gays than it would be better to beleive in yourself and not to watch gay porn anymore.  Its just a advice given ....rest is upto you....afterall its your life and you can live it in anyway.
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KansukeKojima
Mar 25 2008, 07:28 PM
Many people in society often argue that you are either born gay or straight... well... I beg to differ. Its your choice man, do you want to be gay, straight, or bisexual? Its your choice, not your bodies or your hormones, etc.
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Archangel_Baw
Mar 25 2008, 07:32 PM
It sounds to me like you just have an addiction to gay porn, which does NOT make you gay, however, I also think, before you will KNOW your sexual orientation, perhaps you need to explore your desire for other men and experience it to the same extent that you have with women in order to find out for certain. But ONLY if you are comfortable in doing so. If not, wait until you are. And spend less time trying to FIT IN by slapping a label on yourself, you're worth so much more than that and it doesn't matter if you're gay, bi or straight so long as you are being honest with yourself. If it's that conflicting of an issue for you. Stop watching porn period and focus on other areas of your life. As for anyone who would gossip about this, I wouldn't worry about it, it just shows others how shallow, self-absorbed, inconsiderate & immature they are. It also shows they have a complete lack of respect for the privacy and boundaries of others and doesn't really look bad on you at all. This isn't something you just bring up over tea in conversation, people they blab to with think they are spun and stop associating with them. So it will only backfire on the person with the loose lips, not you:)
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A200
Mar 25 2008, 09:09 PM
I really am unsure now reading people's comments. I really don't want to be gay...  but I half am... this is weird... I don't really want to encounter an 'experience' at all... hey ill stop watching it as well and see how I go  when I was younger I never even considered the possibility that I was *person* but now I just don't know....
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Thingcubed
Mar 25 2008, 09:27 PM
As you're only 16, my suggestion would be to not worry about it too much at this point. Give yourself a few years to figure out what you really want. Who knows how you'll feel in a couple years, but 16 is usually an age where you're trying to figure out where your place is socially. Don't let how you feel about sexual stuff influence how you interact with other people on a normal social level.
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332083
Apr 15 2008, 01:53 AM
QUOTE(KansukeKojima @ Mar 25 2008, 02:28 PM)  Many people in society often argue that you are either born gay or straight... well... I beg to differ. Its your choice man, do you want to be gay, straight, or bisexual? Its your choice, not your bodies or your hormones, etc. Being gay is never decided. I knew a gay guy once, he said he never chose, he never was given options. If you think you decide to be gay or not, I would suggest research on the mater before posting.
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gisellebebegirl
Jun 6 2008, 04:13 PM
Well, i dont think you are gay, you are just comfused and like experiencing new things i guess. my theory is that all guys, NO MATTER how macho cool they act do too! so just dont worry, i mean you are attracted to girls, that means your ether straight or bisexual.. now ask yourself this question.. forget about the sexxx, and think, would you really see yourself marrying a guy? holding hands on the beach? hugging a guy.. kissing a guy.. calling him your babycakes??? okayy if the answer is yes, your bisexual(: glad to help mauahaha
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dwolters
Jun 6 2008, 11:02 AM
QUOTE Your hormones, chemicals in your body, desires, etc. should not make your decisions for you! You are always able to choose your sexuality! Seriously? The definition for homosexuality is ALL about desire. Whether you act on it or not. Hold on lemme get it off dictionary.com QUOTE homosexuality
noun
a sexual attraction to (or sexual relations with) persons of the same sex And even if that wasn't the case, sexuality is genetic whether you believe that or not. You are saying a person has the ability to choose. Sure, they can choose to hide who they are, or even deny who they are, but deep down they are always that person. I am speaking from personal (third-personal?) experience. My dad is gay. Wait, how? He must be straight because I'm around. Nope, he tried for over 15 years to be straight. He even eventually told my mom about it. They tried everything: Counseling, praying to god, everything. He was unhappy, she was unhappy. He had to fantasize about men to create me! Hiding who you are never really makes anyone happy. It is pure ignorance to say that one could choose. Have you ever read an article or seen on TV the "ex-gay ministeries" where they basically tortured these poor boys, because they thought they were bad christians and could be cured of their evil thoughts and/or tendencies? They messed up these poor people AND THEIR STILL GAY! Also have you seen what some of these poor gay people go through? Hate crimes, higher AIDS population: Oh yeah, I could see why someone would want to choose that. Come on. Sorry, a little off-topic rant there! For the original poster: There is nothing wrong with you. But heres what it comes down to (i'm going to be a little blunt): Do guys make you feel funny "down there" or do girls make you feel funny "down there"? Do they both? That's great, maybe you are one of the chosen few who is bi and able to choose. But in the end does it really matter that much? You love who you love, regardless if you are sexually attracted to them. Recognizing yourself a little better is not going to change who you are. If you find you like guys, you are not all of a sudden going to start talking with a lisp or decorating interiors! Be yourself. Hopefully sex doesn't play too big of a role in your life. Love is everything. Sex is nothing. Just concentrate on forming good and healthy relationships with people. Be honest with yourself and everything will be all right!
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~Nick[;
Jun 1 2008, 02:46 AM
I would say that you are bi, since you seem to find yourself in ways more comfortable with men. If you were straight, then you would not watch gay porn. But, if you were gay, you wouldn't have been that girl's boyfriend. I am not exactly sure, because it is as how YOU define yourself and not how other people see you to be.
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gaspe86
May 16 2008, 09:32 AM
QUOTE(A200 @ Mar 25 2008, 03:03 AM) Hi all, I have a big question I need to sort out... What is considered gay? I have been asking myself this for ages, am I, or aren't I? Ok I like to watch gay porn (ok I hope noone I know is reading this , is it possible to have this topic hidden after its been answered ??? just so noone reads it who knows me and spreads rumours) but the thing is, I only like it if its only 1 person... I find the whole idea of two guys putting their thingy up other peoples you-know-what to be revolting... but I get turned on by boys with fit hot bodies... and kissing as well, but the thing is, I have no personal desire to have gay sex with anyboy and if a boy tried to kiss me I would run and hide... I find chicks hot, I used to have a girlfriend a few years ago but I went to high school and haven't contacted her since (I don't think it was considered girlfriend status as we never went out, never kissed and only touched each other like, what? once, which was a hug I think when she was upset). But I never warm up at all to porn with chicks in it, and don't get sexually stimulated by the sight of one... but I do find them 'hot'... Am I gay? Am I straight? Or am I bi (!!!!!!!). I don't really consider myself gay or bi, I am unsure! HELP! It is wierd... I can stand the sight of a penis, but I cannot stand the sight of a vagina... I am one mixed up person. Can anyone help? PLEASE? This is one confused 16 year old here First of all what do you mean by liking it when it is only one person? Do you mean its a man masturbating or what ever he decides to do to himself in a sexual way. The fact that you get turned on with a male figure excludes the being straight out of the map... you are either bi or gay.... but if you do not get turned on my women... my friend you are closer to being gay then being bisexual. A 16 year old not being able to withstand a vagina? Hell, that has homosexuality all over it.
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KansukeKojima
May 16 2008, 02:53 AM
QUOTE(332083 @ Apr 14 2008, 07:53 PM) Being gay is never decided.
I knew a gay guy once, he said he never chose, he never was given options.
If you think you decide to be gay or not, I would suggest research on the mater before posting. Well, I am going to have to disagree with you. First off all, I'll have to demonstrate the difference between a desire for a male, and literal homosexuality. Simply because you feel a desire for another person of the same sex, would not make you a homosexual. QUOTE he said he never chose, he never was given options. Ok, well obviously no one is going to walk up to you and ask "Hey, you have to choose right now! Are you a homosexual? If you say yes, I'm going to shoot you!" You are always given options, no one is forced to be a homosexual. YOU CHOOSE! Just because you may have a burning desire for another of the same sex, does not mean you actually have to have sex with said person, or another of the same sex in general. Your hormones, chemicals in your body, desires, etc. should not make your decisions for you! You are always able to choose your sexuality! Anyways, this last part is to the original creator of this post. Dude, this truly is your choice. I encourage you to make the choice not to become a homosexual, however, I will not (nor am I able) force you to do anything you do not want to. Its your decision make it when you want
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