| | Does age matter when you are in a relationship? i am currently 17 and i am in a relationship with a 14 year old girl. there is only 3.5 years difference.. and we love each other. She is proabably more mature then i am, so does age really matter? |
| Nov 8, 2009 |
Legal age is 18 and you are valid for a contract only if you are over 18 years of age. As you said that you are in a relationship and both of you are minor, I think the relationship is not a valid one. On attaining maturity, either of you may prefer to enter in to new relationship.There is a lot more difference between matured relationship and immature relationship. Yours is immature one and so one can not predict its future. Moreover, history reveals that most of the young age relationships are...
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In this case yes, regardless if she is mature or not, sexually she is immature and to top it off she is not of legal age and if I remember correctly you live in the states and that is considered statutory rape. If I was the smart I would end that relationship and explain it to her the situation and if she doesn't understand or handle the break up that shows the immaturity she has. Curious, how do her parents feel about this and hopefully they disagree with the fact she is going out with an older guy (you).
Wow.... I thought it was the other way around. Well I'm 17 year old too and almost went out with this 20 year old, but decided not to because of insecurities.. u noe wat i mean.
Well, I think it's fine... as long as she doesn't look 14. My friend is 18 and he's going out wit a sophomore (i think she's 14). She doesn't look the age so it's fine. But if she does look pretty young and you "do it" it's kinda weird and u should stop. But I don't think a break up is necessary, I mean u guys could still wait when she gets older like 16.
Break up is necessary because no guy will wait that long for a girl to be legal, and even though most say they will wait for the right time they don't really mean it. Sex is all about temptation and a guy gets tempted every time he looks at another girl or guy depenind how he swings. But staying on topic it would be in his best intrest to break it off because when hits 21 she still be under age to drink and that just brings in another load of problems if he even drinks.
What Saint Michael said is right but I dont exactly agree for when I was in a relationship I was 14 and the guy was 19. Even now I am in a relationship and the guy is 28 so I dont think that age is relevant when you have a relationship But I totally agree with the fact that she is 14 and the two of you can get tempted very easily for even now me and my partner have been going out for 8 months and this is the phase where both of us are supposed to be out of the "sex" phase of teenage but we still get tempted very easily so My advice would be to stay friends with the chick with your feelings in mind and then after she is old enough you can jump off a cliff if you'd like for all I know Listen at this age all that goes on in a guy's mind is to "have sex". Sorry If I was rude but this is what my boyfriend said. Dont cause any problems for the girl nor her parents for I dont think that her parents would be really happy. Cheers  Sorry If I was of no help or rude
I like your posting about your relationship. You are 17 and your girlfriend is of 14 age. Ow you guys have good moment right now.But i believe that you should think of your relationship once more. I think you both are not wise enough to make a good decission. Relationship will be stronger when there is understanding between you two. Dont go seriously right now. Take your time and believe your relationship will work out. Carry your friendship and maintain a strong bond between you two. Time will come when you both will realize what is a relationship, and how two carry it out.
Yes, in a relationship age DOES matter because if two people at totally wierdly different ages are dating, they are at different stages of life and maturing. They can't even compare their thoughts and have nothing in common - it can even get dangerous. Some say it's a "bad mind attraction"... are you doing anything physical??? I should hope not!! If you are then stop.... that is bad considering your large age difference. It is unhealthy, dangerous and ILLEGAL. I guess I'm trying to say get a girlfriend your own age or dont get one at all.
In this case, age matters very much. The legal consequences...yikes. And they'll all fall on you, not her, regardless of how she feels about the situation (as in: she may be completely in love with you, but you could still get into deep trouble).
She might be a very mature 14-year-old, but you're 17. You'll be 18 soon enough. You'll be out of high school (if you aren't already). She'll be...what? A sophomore? Yeah, something like that. She'll still have to go to school while you're off at college, or working full-time, or in the military or whatever it is that you end up doing with yourself as a young adult. Your lives will be so utterly different...or at least yours will be. Even though she's mature and such, she's still in her early-to-mid teens. Her mind is still developing, as is her body. She's not going to be like a 17/18-year-old girl/young woman, no matter how much you'd like for her to be. As for her being possibly more mature than you: that's normal. Girls tend to mature faster than boys for whatever reason.
hmm... I guess my view on this is different from my last post. I never took the maturity circumstance in mind. Although I'm not the thread starter, may I ask what your views if it's the other way around.
(The guy is 17, the girl is 20-21)
Should age matter? Yes and No. Within age ranges there needs to be a acceptance level. 10-16, 16-20, 20-40, 40+ crissing those ranges puts you into a different lifestyle, she is starting to learn the way of the worlds while you are starting to find yourself in the world. While you're going to college or whatever, she is in school learning things, being with guys her own age, it will only distract her and you.
However, Should this matter? No, not really, age shouldn't be defining weather a relationship will work or not, or if it even starts, but you have to question your own intentions and he your liking some aged 14 at 17 then are you not meeting people if your own age, how do you even come about getting together with a 14 year old to start with. I can be understanding, i don't care if she was 14 or 18 to be honest (any younger, i would be worried), but the law may not be soo understanding, it doesn't take each <16 as a case by case basis and you automatically end yourself in the *BLEEP*, now you have to weigh those odds to those of the happiness you have with her. Latest Entries
Legal age is 18 and you are valid for a contract only if you are over 18 years of age. As you said that you are in a relationship and both of you are minor, I think the relationship is not a valid one. On attaining maturity, either of you may prefer to enter in to new relationship.
There is a lot more difference between matured relationship and immature relationship. Yours is immature one and so one can not predict its future. Moreover, history reveals that most of the young age relationships are unsuccessful.
The basic social rule is 1/2 the age of the older party, plus 5 years.
So if there's a 70 year old man, the woman has to be 40 for it to be socially acceptable. You hear about these kind of marriages all the time, and while it may sound weird and may make you cringe, the marriage isn't going to draw any criticism. If, however, the woman is 30, then she's seen as a gold digger, and he's seen as looking for a good lay . . . all sorts of negativity. This rule even works for younger people. Men who are 30 can date women who are 20. It's not pretty, but it happens and nobody really twitches about it. So basically, age does matter, but the boundaries are loose and nobody really cares that much. Another problem with age is the gap between wisdom levels and personal beliefs. A man who grew up before WW2 probably isn't going to get along well with a flower child from the 70s. It's just too wide a breach to cover with love. She'll be all like "free love, man!" And he'll be all like "back in my day we didn't have rap music" and things will devolve from there.
3.5 years isn't that much of a difference
Age matter less and less as you grow older anyway.. so I don't really see a problem with age
Of course the age matters. Or you will can fall in love with a 90 years old woman or something for example. You need to meet the people and fall in love. In the most of cases the peoples who fall in love are of a close age. But the extremist like the Fundamentalist Mormons believe that the age doesnīt matters and they celebrate marriages between a 75 years old man and a 16 years old woman. That in the natural work is ridicoulus. And I donīt support this because it looks like a kidnapping or something like that I canīt explain that.
The age matters a lot. Donīt be a child.
love is like a rosary that full of mystery.. that was the quote my mother always tell me when i ask about love...
i once in a situation that the girl is much older than me.. i am 17 and she is 19.. i ain't feel any differences.. we love each other and she care for me.. so i must say that.. age doesn't matter when it comes to love.. you didn't know where... or to whom your heart will beat... but one thing... sometimes those beats.. aren't true.. |
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