The Very First Topic In The Counseling Forum

Woo hoo, go me for being the first one to post here. So my problem is, I was pressured into drinking alcohol at this party. I said no, but now my friends think I'm a huge nark. What do I do?

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And mine for the first reply here too..

If I'm you, I'd lie to them that I'll vomit after taking alcohol. Say you tried before and landed in hospital.. Your friend should stop pestering you if they care.

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All i can say is that it aint cool to drink alcohol, and if they pressurize you they aint your friends. Let them spoil their lives, you took a brave step by saying no, keep it up. No need to feel like a nark.

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i don't trust anyone who doesn't drink, but at the same time, i do respoct people for being themselves.

peer pressure doesn't just come from friends, but family and society in general. in fact you can't pleae anyone because whatever decision, you will recieve pressure. so it comes down with what is most comfortable for you and who you are. if your "friends" are complaining about you not drinking, then they aren't your friends. how can they be your friends if they don't act like it. same goes with family. if your family can't support you in who you are, then they aren't your family are they or they would act like it. you saw this big time 20 years ago when people just started coming out of the closet in admitting they were homosexual and their family not wanting to be associated with them or that word. sad sad sad.

stand up for yourself man and stop being a pushover and being rolled over by pressure from others or expectations of others and you will do just fine. you will eventually find REAL friends in this world that will come in to your life when you need them the most. life is uncanny right now.

if you are always worried about what other people think including friends and family when you are just being yourself(and others don't like it) then your going to find it very hard to live the life you want....even over small issues like not drinking.

 

 

 

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It might not seem like it at the moment but you will earn a lot of respect for standing up for what you believe in. It won't happen overnight but as your friends realise you are sticking to your guns they'll admire you for it. Of course, that's if they are true friends - you'll always get some idiots who try to persuade you to be like them. But who wants to be an idiot? It might even happen that once your friends realise the bad effect alcohol can have - and that they can enjoy life without it -, they decide to join you and give up the booze. Personally I am not opposed to alcohol but I do think it should only be taken in moderation so that it doesn't become the ruling factor in your life.

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first of all you having said no is a very good example that nobody can force you to do something you dont want to do , it's essential that you be assertive otherwise you'll end up regretting waht you have done and that will lead to more problems for you.I dont belive you should give in to your friends thinking you are a *BLEEP* , you should try to explain to them why you cant drink ,they should understand your situation if they are really good friends and mean good to you , so if they still continue to force you i would seriously consider their friendship if i were you

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but alcohol is your friend.....

nah I started drinking at a fairly young age (15) and still drink now (23), i've found that because I did a lot of my heavy drinking and partying at a younger age I don't feel the need to do that now. that said, i am australian and drinking sems to be part of our culture, i love having a beer after (or during) work with a few mates, or on the weekend having a bbq, some of my fondest memories involve alcohol in some way.

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Meh, i'm surprised you still care about what other people think about you. Like mentioned by anwiii, if they dont like you for who you are, then they're not really your friends as they claim to be. I know none of my friends would dare me to do to something like that.

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My opinion? No offense to you anwiii, but drinkers, are generally losers who abuse children, women, and everyone else around them. Strong opinion? Yes. I know several drinkers. Both are/were great guys. You can drink, but be safe with it. I don't agree with it anyway. So I don't drink. What do you do? For one, you can stop going to parties. But that won't do sometimes. So you get on the eoffense. You don't need to be on the defense all the time. When they say, hey, want a drink? You can say, no. And have them laugh in your face. Or you can get a little more up close and personal. Look 'em in the eye and make it clear that "Drinking is for losers, I like my brains thanks". You may lose some friends, but I know that most of the time, they will lay off, and respect you more highly. You need to be firm though. If they laugh at you, just laugh with them. Just say, " Yeah we all got our preferences. Me? I would rather have pop, but don't let that stop you from having your drink". Then change the topic to something like school, if you are in it, or something else. People change their attitudes quickly, likely they will forget it. If they are giving you a huge problem, then get firm and tell them in their face you are not going to drink. Just a suggestion. I have never dealt with drinking, but I know from experience it works in other situations.

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thing is, sometimes it jus happens. i went 2 a party, every1 was drinkin nd i did 2, thing is, it depends on how u feel about it. i hav nofink against drinkin, but if u do, then don't. If ur m8s arent kl with it, its their problem, nt urzz.

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