whoever says cheating isnt bad...YOUR ****ING RETARDED...I promise you if you found out he/she cheated on you it would be a completely different story and I know you would hate her/ him for doing so...It scares people for life... This is coming from experience and a marriage/relationship psychology major. I know what I'm talking about.
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i personally dont think its bad to cheat on ur mate as long as u dont let he/she find out...because cheating on your mate might just be the thing that keeps you two together...and what he/she doesnt know wont hurt he/she ...i mean like for instance...a friend of mine went out for a girl for almost 2-3 years and they cheated on each other the whole time but never got caught and they had a great relationship...they ended up braking up in the end because she had to move away...but they still keep in touch and hook up every once in awhile lol...but if ur married then u should not cheat no way!...or if ur going out with someone u can picture spending ur life with u shouldnt cheat either...thats just my opinion...what do u guys think?
There are lots of ways for your partner to find out. The last time I dated two girls simultaneously, one of them found out from a mutual friend. This wasn't cheating, mind you, as I was not exclusive with either girl. But sometimes you'd rather just keep certain details to yourself.
I'm totally against cheating in relationships, I'd be crushed if I found out my girlfriend was cheating on me. What someone doesn't know won't hurt them, but what happens when they do find out? I wouldn't go out with someone and then be that unfaithful! That's the whole reason of being in a relationship is to be together, to have commitment and that trust that you feel for your partner.
And as quiksilver said, what would happen if you get an STD, or some disease from the person you're cheating with? Your partner would find out and then you have some nasty disease on you that may stay with you your whole life.
In my opinion, cheating is dead wrong and shouldn't occur ever.
I've thought before on where the idea of "cheating" originates from. Is it because people are trying to have the blessings of marriage without the responsibilities and institution God created to go with them?
Long story short, I think it's because we treat dating as marriage is supposed to be treated, with much the same level of intimacy (I assume it doesn't involve sex, it still involves hugging and kissing and levels of intimacy and bonding) yet without the protections of marriage and the responsibilities/bond that marriage brings. You're expecting another to be tied to you when they have never made the official commitment to do so.
Also, because there is no level of patience or waiting, of commitment without satisfaction, the relationship is devalued and people base their commitment to the other person on how they feel and what pleasure it brings them without caring about the other person.
So what is being cheated on if there was never a commitment made on which to be cheated? As soon as the person feels the "magic" of the relationship, or what they could get out of it, is gone, they too are gone. I see it as something like sex. As they say, having sex before marriage only serves to put you on the used car lot.
I'm sure I've just offended about 9 of 10 people who will read this post Sorry, just my opinions
I've thought before on where the idea of "cheating" originates from. Is it because people are trying to have the blessings of marriage without the responsibilities and institution God created to go with them?
No, it has nothing to do with religion, whatsoever.
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Long story short, I think it's because we treat dating as marriage is supposed to be treated, with much the same level of intimacy (I assume it doesn't involve sex, it still involves hugging and kissing and levels of intimacy and bonding) yet without the protections of marriage and the responsibilities/bond that marriage brings.
Hugging and kissing? Wow...
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Also, because there is no level of patience or waiting, of commitment without satisfaction, the relationship is devalued and people base their commitment to the other person on how they feel and what pleasure it brings them without caring about the other person.
That's quite a logical leap, jzye. So a man cheats on his girlfriend (and vice versa) because there is no little slip of paper stating their legal and financial ties? I think you should give this little theory of yours some more thought.
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So what is being cheated on if there was never a commitment made on which to be cheated?
I very much recommend you do not use this line when you start dating girls.
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As they say, having sex before marriage only serves to put you on the used car lot.
Who says this? Do you think you are better than us used cars for never having touched the road? Well, I hate to break it to you, but even new cars are tested to make sure they work. You aren't a new car, you are a car that hasn't even left the assembly line, for fear that you'll get a little dent before someone buys you.
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I'm sure I've just offended about 9 of 10 people who will read this post Sorry, just my opinions
What you really did was hijack a thread about cheating and turn it into a sermon against the evils of sex before marriage. I understand that you feel strongly about this, and I can empathize, as I once shared your views, when I was a child. But there is a difference between sharing your opinions and blurting them out during an unrelated conversation.
And for future reference, when you realize that you are offending 9 out of 10 people, perhaps it's best just not to post at all, lest you be labelled a troll.
Ehh, clagnol let him say what he wants. He is entitled. I'm not offended. To get back to the topic though, cheating is definitely not something you would want to do. And you can call it trying to be married without actually being married if you want but I love my girlfriend and I wouldn't even want to see anyone else beside her, nor would I want to hurt her by doing so.
Dating for most people I think is trying to find that special girl or guy you wanna spend the rest of your life with. If you prove that you can't be faithful (ie cheat) then you will never keep a mate. They also have a saying "once a cheater always a cheater"... but I don't believe that. Many people do however, so cheating will get you nowhere fast.
whoever says cheating isnt bad...YOUR ****ING RETARDED...I promise you if you found out he/she cheated on you it would be a completely different story and I know you would hate her/ him for doing so...It scares people for life... This is coming from experience and a marriage/relationship psychology major. I know what I'm talking about.
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Cheating is so entirely ignorant. The whole "cheating keeps you together" scenario is even more ignorant. Cheating does nothing but the kerosene that lights a relationship up into flames. Cheating is something that is addictive, something that if you get away with once you'll continue to do, BECAUSE you got away with it. If you're willing to cheat, you're clearly unhappy or unsatisfied with your current relationship. So heres an idea, end it? Why is that so difficult for people to do?
Yes, breaking up with someone can be hard and hurtful, but due to experience and what I would consider common sense, I would much rather the love of my life break up with me rather than cheat on me, me find out, feel hurt and confused, AND be broken up with. I can't even fathom the idea of someone thinking cheating is remotely okay. Cheating is selfish, low, disgusting. I would never do something like that. We are not dogs, we have self control, lets act like it. People like to act as if they're so strong and invincible, yet they can't control themselves from cheating? Grow a pair, guys. And yes, I say guys because 70% of cheaters in relationships are males. And for girls who cheat, I don't even know what to say to you. You have some serious issues, which could vary from mentally ****ed up to herpes? Take your pick. Anyhow, people who want to cheat are mentally sick people in my opinion. That being said, have fun playing 'Guess What Disease I have' in the dark with your cheating partners!
Lying creates distance ..Involuntarily. And distance creates breakups. Cheating is, of course, "bad" because you are clearing the path to a breakup. You don't' normally lie to a person you like or atleast respect, like best friends or parents - people you expect to know for a long time. It's true
But say you wanna have one of them open relationship-thingies. That's not lying. No, no, no That's like saying to your girlfriend "you are TERRIBLE and I diserve better!". But it's not lying.
You want a open relationship?
Two words : Internet Dating ...You'd be surprised how many chicks out there are up for "no-strings-attached-fun".
You know i kinda agree on what your saying, its perfectly fine as long as the other person does not find out. but i mean if i was the person who found out, i would be devastated
(me being a girl, with a low selfsteam) i would think that you do not like me, that you think im ugly or fat, or that you are simply just playing with me,
and if i found one girl you had on the side, god knows how many others you have OR HAVE HAD, that i did not know about, and what if im just "One of your girls" enstead of THE GIRL
you know/? i do not think guys realise how sad girls get when they find out they have been cheated on,
ofcourse we put our angry face upfront, but thats just because we have been stabbed, and cannot let our guard down without falling to the ground, from how much you have hurt us by doing that
I think that you are probably the stupidest person I have ever met! I'm sure that this was written by a man that wa thinking with his junk Cheating is nasty, disrespectful, and for people who are not secure enough with in their own skin to stay with one person. If cheating is what you think is keeping your relationship together then CLEARLY that is a bad relationship and you don't need to be with him/her.
People that think like you are the same people that are spreading around stds and f**king good hearted peoples heads up. If cheating was not a bad thing then you would not go to your partner and allow them to decide if they wunna b with someone who is f**king around on them. Its funny because I bet you don't have a daughter! If you did I knwo you would want her to be with someone who respects and is FAITHFUL to her. All these people have issues with gay people getting married, when in fact they should have an issue with most people gettin married this day in age. It is people like you that are destroying the beautiful and sacred side of marriage and relationships.
how would you feel if you found out your partner was cheatin on you? how would you feel if they gave you an std? or how would you feel if someone did that to your child?
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