Chatz
Sep 1 2006, 11:05 AM
We often mistake love as generally just being romantic and never really appreciating the other kinds of love that do exist. SECURITY LOVE: This love is the love that everybody needs to survive. It is that feeling of being cared for and nurtured. Some people would describe this as the type of love parents have for their children. This is so important: high on Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs; and studies have even proven that people have died of a "broken heart" (there have been no explanations for their deaths other than that). FRIENDSHIP LOVE: This is a love between yourself and someone that is totally honest, open and comfortable. You really only have this kind of bond with a few people. You might know a lot of people and be "friendly" with them in a group situation but they are not the best friends I am talking about here. I have a theory that you can not truely be best friends with a member of the opposite sex. Down the line romance will always come up from either party and feelings will be misinterpreted and mistaken. When this happens, the friendship will change and possibly never be the same again. ROMANTIC LOVE: (The much anticipated love!) Most people experience this type of love many times in their life. It is when you see that person for the first time and he/she makes your knees go weak or gives you butterflies in your stomach.i.e. "Love at first sight”. Most people don’t even love the person they think they are in love with…they fall in love with the idea if being in love. This is more of a lustful kind of love, it wears off after a while and hopefully leads to... UNCONDITIONAL LOVE: This is the sincere love, the love that lasts forever. This kind of love comes when you have found the person you are destined to be with. Nothing can destroy unconditional love. It is like when you have an argument or disagree about something with that person and you realize that it doesn’t bother you because the love you have for him/her overcomes everything.
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Jeune
Sep 1 2006, 11:31 AM
I heared similar types of love that can derived from the bible. Am just wondering if they're the same with what you wrote.
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salamangkero
Sep 1 2006, 01:46 PM
QUOTE(Chatz @ Sep 1 2006, 07:05 PM)  UNCONDITIONAL LOVE:
This is the sincere love, the love that lasts forever. This kind of love comes when you have found the person you are destined to be with. Nothing can destroy unconditional love. It is like when you have an argument or disagree about something with that person and you realize that it doesn’t bother you because the love you have for him/her overcomes everything. Not exactly. Do not assume that love is meant to be reciprocated. Also falling under the category of unconditional love is love that is given but not returned. It may or may not last forever. It may or may not be destroyed. In the event that unreturned love ages, it is more likely that this kind of love will evolve or devolve into one of the other types you mentioned. Oh, we do have a term for "friendship love", it's called fraternal love. Not to be confused with love between actual siblings, fraternal love is, metaphorically speaking, "brotherly love" or "great solidarity".
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ghostrider
Sep 1 2006, 02:50 PM
QUOTE I have a theory that you can not truely be best friends with a member of the opposite sex. Down the line romance will always come up from either party and feelings will be misinterpreted and mistaken. I don't think this is necessarly true. I am a male and the only people I am totally comfortable talking with, totally honest with, and almost totally open (everyone has some stuff they keep to themselves) is my female friend Sam. She is the bestest friend anyone could ask for, and she is the exact same way with me.
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Teri Luketic
Sep 1 2006, 11:14 PM
I must agree with ghostrider. Two of my best friends are guys, and one of them I have not attraction towards in that way at all. Sure, he's good looking I'll admit, but he's not the type of guy I could fall for like that. He's a really cool guy, and is someone I enjoy being around, but I don't see him in that way and probably won't. I've thought about what it would be like, and we just wouldn't be compatable enough for a working dating relationship. He's my best friend, and that's all he'll be. His type of girls are completely different from me. We've even disgussed this topic before! You can be best friends with someone of the opposite sex and not have those feelings for them, and my mother is a case of which they won't even get together at all somewhere down the line. She had this guy friend, and she never was anything more than best friends with him. The two of them and my father were always hanging out together, and then when he got married, it was the four of them. It's completely possible.
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EnRohbi
Sep 2 2006, 12:39 AM
The theory is right. I mean, it's makes sense enough. Although, it seems way too limitted to list only 4 different types of love and expect everything to fit unconditionally into one of those four categories. It's only logical to assume that there are going to be exceptions to every single statement you made.
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tuddy
Sep 4 2006, 01:00 AM
I think the whole love into 4 different types is alittle to out there. I mean, Love is love, you either have the bond between two people, or you don't. Also people use the word out of context, someone may say i love you, but not mean it excatly, but know what it means. However, people can say it and mean it in the best of ways and live for the rest of thier lives.
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caz2406
Oct 3 2007, 07:51 PM
I also put love into 2 catagories, now this is like immunity-acquired and natural-the love we have for family is natural, well in the majority of cases it is, their will always be exceptions. the other kind-acquired, the love that we have for friends and partners, it is not naturally there but we aacquire it as we get to know them....thats my take on it anyway caz
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FeedBacker
Dec 27 2007, 09:05 PM
Trying to define
4 Different Types Of Love
Love is a lot more than a few stages. Love is what keeps you from giving up, it is what pulls you through the worst, greets you at the opening and puts you to sleep at the end. There are things such as being in love with the IDEA with being in love, but that is not love itself, that is a fantasy. It can be an act, insult, compliment, a way of doing something... It is simply a devotion to someone or something with many ways of expression and attitude. I think. -Hannah
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FeedBacker
Jan 1 2008, 12:52 AM
I think love is JESUS dying on the cross because he forgave us of our sins and loves us so much!! -bobson
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iGuest
Dec 21 2009, 12:50 AM
My best friend is a guy and I am a girl. Neither or us are bi or homosexual. We have been best friends since the sixth grade. I liked him for the first two weeks of school while he did not reciprocate the same feelings. Yet, he liked me off and on for years, while I plainly did not reciprocate his feelings. But by sophmore year he had accepted thoroughly that we would only be friends and he felt that it would fit best as being friends. He chose this relationship rather than to not loose me as a friend since we had been friends for many years. He eventually moved on and fell in love with another girl while I moved on with another guy. Through our relationships with other people we have been able to maintain the closeness of friends without any misleading components to us being best friends of the opposite sex. Our significant others and mutual friends understand that we have chosen for ourselves that being friends is best and what we want. By being able to be open about having had feelings once for each other at a young age, we understand each other better and realize that we can be honest about anything without fear of judgment, awakwardness, or mislead statements or actions. We have matured in our relationship with ourselves and others and have come to realize that the immature feelings we had have now passed and we are simply best friends. He has been with me through everything and I have him and four other girl friends as my considered best friends. I believe whole heartedly that a person can have a best friend of the opposite sex without fear of judgment and inaccurate assumptions from other people and a clear, honest, and pure relationship with each other, while still having a real love or significant other. We have been assumed as more than friends simply by those who do not know us or what we agreed to or been through together. That is there right of an opinion but I can tell you honestly that for some, not all, but for some having a person of the opposite sex be their best friend is of great value. It allows a completely different insight from a different gender and makes things more interesting. Especially for me, who has always been more comfortable to be around guys, having my best friend be a guy was inevitable. Those who know us like our significant others, friends, and families understand the uniqueness and genuineness of our friendship with the opposite sex.
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iGuest
May 12 2009, 11:18 PM
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4 Different Types Of Love
I think that the four types of love under discussion serve to define the majority of the emotions that we may come to feel for an individual; and that our way of seeing a significant other of any nature could easily be placed under one of these four categories. However, on a similar vein to what someone said earlier: there can always be exceptions. At the same time, I must make a distinction between an exception to all four types of love and what could be a combination of several. For example, I believe that while most relationships begin within the boundaries of Eros (that is, romantic, passionate or lusty love), with time-- and if the two people are right for each other-- the relationship can deviate into the realms of Philia (love between friends; between people who share common interests and views). That love can be a thousand times stronger than Eros, which can often be rash and dehabilitating, if not kept in check. The best part about Philia for me, is that I believe you can have it with a person and still be insanely "in love" with them (I.E. Eros). You can have both. I think the combination of these two categories can be what we may call "true love".
I don't believe that unconditional love fits the role of "true love". Unconditional stipulates that we love regardless of compatibility. I don't think it's right to love anyone but a stranger this way. Further, it's a highly Christian characteristic that not many people adequately display. Think Mother Theresa. That's unconditional.
-reply by Fran
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iGuest
Mar 27 2009, 08:37 PM
Actually, the Greeks beat you to determining how many types of love there are. There are three types- Eros, Philos, and Agape. They are all explained here:
http://theseekeroftruth.blogspot.com/2005/02/3-types-of-love.html
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iGuest
Feb 20 2009, 03:52 AM
I still do believe the standards of what the Bible states about the matter.
But, in this modern world we have today, only a few would survive, and some even end up unmarried due to the perfectness of the standard.
If in a circumstance that someone you like turns out to be an imperfect one, I think, the best thing to do now is to meet and totally understand the word "ACCEPTANCE", accompanied by the word "HOLISTIC" to the extent of respecting each others limitations... Because if this happens, there and then, you can testify that you are fully satisfied of the person you chose to be with for the rest of your life!
That's how love is for me?(^_^)
How do you call that?
-reply by janna mae palma pelisco
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iGuest
Feb 13 2009, 12:18 PM
Love.......
4 Different Types Of Love
Love is a truly beatiful thing. But I don't believe that the best of love is found in 'love at first sight' or in the ongoing boyfriend-girlfriend cycles.
The best of love is in marriage. And I am waiting patiently for that time of mine. At the moment I can manage with the love I get from all those around me. Just one more heart to fill my heart with love, I can't wait for that moment but I can. That one heart will fill my heart like none ever filled it before this... :)
The next best is the mother's love... Unconditional.. Though some really forget this and are so ungrateful.
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