Recently, someone I know broke up with their boyfriend of six years. The first thing that came to my mind was "what makes you realise that the relationship is no good after six years, that you couldn't have known at, say, 3, 4 or 5 years?"

Apologies if this is too dumb and open-ended a question, but at my age (19) and lack of life experience, I just can't get my head around it. I'm currently in a year-long relationship, and it's bizarre to think that in 2 years it's possible that we'll hate each other. Excluding the obvious betrayals such as infidelity, what the hell would cause that?

I understand that the responses will be varied, and it's the range of experiences that I'm interested in hearing. The issue(s) that ended the relationship -- did they arise unexpectedly? Or did you always sort of know? I have this morbid curiosity to know what can make something really really good evaporate into nothing.

My friends are too young to help me with this, and I'm too impatient to wait three heartbreaks and a restraining order to find out myself.

Ah, I see what you mean. Well, a good friend of mine broke up with his girlfriend after about 2 years or so, solely because there wasn't enough "vroom" left in the relationship. He said she became tedious, and nothing was new. Now I believe thats crap, really.

I believe some people just get bored after awhile, but if it is your true love you'll never get bored, eh? I know this isn't a straight forward answer to your question, but theres gonna be a lot of answers to your question and there all gonna be varied, you just really never know. Hope I helped atleast some, best of wishes in your relationship and don't let it get boring.

This post has been edited by SSBC: Feb 8 2007, 02:04 AM

The relationship breaks usually because one failed to meet (unknown) requirements set by their partner, or cause they were just being played/used. Woe to the one who plays another for a fool! True love never fails. The hard part is the breaking up—they usually always never end properly. Everyone needs closure, but sadly some don't receive it. No closure and pain may remain, if there was any pain to begin with. Most of the time, anger or hate is the person's closure—not the best, proper way to go about it.

It is usually something I did or didn't do...

My post might sound dumb and totally useless as it is I am just 14 and can't really think of that now.

As far as I've heard and a lot of people above me have said, true love never dies, you might get bored in a relationship, and sometimes it so happens that one person starts thinking that this is true love and sometimes sets very high expectations from the other person but never reveals it thinking that the other person is already knowing about it as it is "true" love but then the expectations aren't fulfilled and you end up losing faith or interest in the other person.
Sometimes after so many years of a strong relationship, a person gets convinced that his/her partner is totally aware of her affection and won't ever doubt anything, then they kinda don't mind mingling along with the members of the opposite gender a little more than they used to, this might create insecurity in the other partner as suddenly his/her partner is getting closer to the other guys/girls.
Sometimes it's just plain misunderstanding that makes people break relationships, all these years the other partner has been always there to clear out your relationship but now he/she is sure that you are well aware that you won't cheat on him/her or something, then a misunderstanding arises again but this time the partner isn't that interested in solving it thinking that it's not necessary due to the fact that they have already proved their strong affection, this might lead the other partner to think that he/she is no longer interested in the relationship seeing that there is no clearing out of the misunderstandings.

There are a lot of answers to your question actually but the thing is these are all I can guess for now.
Hope this helped you to find your answer.

Well I would think that it would be umm.
Well this would kinda be a guess but cheating probably.
OR you learn someting about them that you did not before you got into the relationship.

Here's what I think:

1. Cheating- will obviously be a good reason to break up
2. Buildup of tension and unresolved problems between the couple
3. Immaturity- not being commited to relationship.

The term, "youth is wasted on the young" might be appropriate here. I would agree with True Fusion in as much as "true love never dies." However, when relationships are engaged in too early in life, true love is often not recognized for what it is, and thus discarded in favor of other flights of fancy.

But regardless of age, what I've noticed in untimely breakups are expectations that have been set far too high. People often interpret what they see on television and other media as some sort of moral and/or cultural guide post, reflecting what some faceless entity says is "cool" onto their own spouse, girlfriend or boyfriend. This is a dreadful mistake, as tv is generally designed to illicit feelings of inadecuacy and insecurity among viewers. No man or woman can live up to the unrealistic figures as presented in the media. When the initial thrill has died, shallow partners move on to greener pastures. What once was the "seven year itch" has degraded to the five year itch. Now, it's more like the one-year itch as America continues it's moral decline into oblivion.

basically, relationship depends on trust and truth. if both the persons have these virtues. the relation will last for ever. in due course of time if only one of this is betrayed, ,the relationship collapse. because trust and truth spreads love.