I am in a pretty annoyed mood with my parents

The way they act is plain annoying, they expect me (at the age of 16) to follow their beliefs and views on different things and expect me to be like them etc. etc. IT IS ANNOYING! It's like I am not allowed to live my own life...! Ok I am not saying they shouldn't have a say if I join a cult (i never will) but its some simple personal things that annoys me.

First of all they are extremely homophobic. If on TV there is a scene where a gay or lesbian couple are kissing, they immediately say its gross and wrong. I believe otherwise (I think being gay/lesbian is perfectly OK and I applaud people who are open about it!) and am sick of them saying 'no it is wrong' when I tell them that there is nothing wrong with same sex couples.

Then when I go out with friends, they make a BIG DEAL about it and ask me to say exactly what we are doing 24/7 and don't let us choose which movie we want to see.. the parents of my friends aren't that overprotective. Also when I invite a friend over, they insist on cleaning up the house spotless to make an impression... for christs sake my friends aren't as judgemental as they are my friends don't mind if our house isn't perfectly clean (we just have a lot of stuff...). It erks me.

Then they are extremely racist and expect me to follow the same beliefs. We go for a barbeque or out to the shops and foreigners are speaking in their own language, I don't mind but they automatically assume that they should be speaking english yet when they go overseas (non-english speaking countries) they are hypocritical and expect the locals to speak to them in english! I just find it offensive when they criticise some of my muslim friends too. They think they are coming to Australia to make it muslim and take over the world etc. etc. etc. and that muslims should be avoided at all costs. Their views are extremely one sided and quite frankly I don't like it.

Also in elections its the same thing. In 2010 I will have the right to vote and since the Federal Election last November (2007) they have been saying unionism and the ALP are horrible people and the only choice is the Liberals. I'm sorry, but who I vote for is my own choice. They shouldn't be allowed to dictate who I vote for. Unlike them, I think workers have rights and unions aren't that bad (when I worked last year my employer offered new recruits a union to join (we don't have to join) and because I wanted a say I joined. Once I told them they kept lecturing me to leave the union. I DIDN'T WANT TO LEAVE IT! Just because they have had issues with 1 bad union doesn't mean they are all corrupt. I like my say, I want my rights to be protected, and they simply assumed I don't have rights.
After 4 months I quit working at that employer (as they disapproved me working and told me to quit, and I simply had no choice) so now I have been unemployed for 9 months, and don't know how I can get work as, as soon as I look at a place to work at they look at the downsides and tell me not to apply.

The last thing I want to rant about is my choice in eating.. I don't like eating pig (pork, bacon, ham etc. hate them all) as I simply don't like the taste, yet they say I should eat pork and force it on me...! They don't understand that I do not like it and continually bug me about it. I have different taste buds to them, I don't like the foods they like. OK I am not the sort of person who is addicted to fast food, I only eat it occasionally, but not being able to choose my hated foods is annoying. Eating pig makes me feel ill! I hate rare meat too (something they do not understand either). I cannot stand half cooked meat... it grosses me out!

One last thing- I feel I am treated like an object. I go shopping and my parents like to let ALL the people in the stores know that I am a tad underweight and blab out really personal things as if they are things that should be common knowledge. I have a personal life and they do not understand that. I am human and not their object!

RANT OVER.

Thankyou for reading. Anyone else out there understand my issues?

A200

I hear you man, my mom is kinda like that (not quite that extreme), you have a point, ur 16 yrs old, your going to (if you havent aready) enter the workforce, and basically form your own opinions and beleifs anyway, they should respect your tolerance of other cultures, and openess towards alternative lifestyles as well as the basics (politics, religion, etc). I think that(if you havent already) sit down with them and explain that alot has changed since they were brought up, and that you dont feel comfortable with some of the ways that they feel, although you understand how they could feel that way coming from a more close minded time/religion. This of course would depend on how you present it, look up some facts, How many Muslim's are there in you area? How many are productive members of society? How many other religions are repersented in not only the area, but your neighbourhood?

If they take the time to listen to you, and you show them how mature you are about the "cornucopia" of society, Im sure that they will understand where our coming from, and maybe will start to see you not as their little baby anymore. You cant change their minds, that for the most part is set in stone, but you can open their eyes to the fact that its not the same Australia that they grew up in, its not the same world. Alot of things have changed in the last 10 years, and even more in the last 50...

I hope what ive said helps you in some way man, parents are tough, they want whats best for you, but they think that they know whats best in the modern day society as it is, when in fact alot of our parents ideals and beleifs are outdated and/or "politically incorrect"...

Cheerz man, and best wishes....


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P.S. Let them know that by "Imposing" their beleifs and lifestyle on you, its only goin to push you away, "Like Seeks Like"

This post has been edited by .:Piper_2051:.: Jun 23 2008, 11:43 AM

I feel you here, my brotha, haha my parents arent as extreme as yours, but they have their little perks you know, like the whole racist thing... we live on a sorta all white & hispanic community by the beach, so they are kinda used to seeing the same kind of people you know, and the minute they see someone who doesnt match that mold, they get all, eww, trying to make racist jokes about them, or point out that they are different/make fun of what they are wearing etc, which i find annoying, i see no reason why you have to point people out that arent nessecary like you, you know??

haha same about the people i hang out with, they usually make fun of whoever im going with, or asume its a date, im gonna get raped get an std and die, which is annoying.. and well i dont like bringing over, its akward and annoying, because all they do is stare and try to talk to my friends, and im just kinda like.. mom, dad dont do that!!!

lalala.. parents are too old school sometimes. (:

This is the problem with people - they expect other people to be like themselves.

There's a word for this: xenophobia.

When people see something they don't like, it's only natural to try and shun it for what it is, simply because you don't like it and making fun of it makes you feel less scared about it invading your thoughts. I'll point to a story in the Bible as an example, not because it's from the Bible, but because it serves the purpose of the context of what I'm saying. You should know this: the Exodus.
Most people know it because of Moses holding his staff up to the water in front of all the people, and parting the Red Sea (which, by the way, is translated as the "Sea of Reeds", not the Red Sea as we know it today.), but some people don't know the message behind it: the fact that the only reason this happened was because Pharaoh was aftaid of the Israelites.

Big whoop. Get over your fear, stupid serpent-headed king.

If you think something's morally wrong, it's not for you to decide whether other people think it is or not. Preach to them all you want, but don't impose your beliefs as if they have no choice. (Yes, I'm talking to you, Christian extremists.) They'll just shun you and you won't have any friends.

(Note: I can see where my argument fails when interpreted by a Christian extremist. They'll say, "Who cares about earthly friends? I have Jesus; that's all I need." Of course. I mean, the entire New Testament is geared towards that. Go ahead only needing Jesus. We'll follow you if we like. Just don't push us or we'll pull harder.)

I share a lot of yours views. My situation with my parents is very unlike yours but I can understand your aggravation. They seem EXTREMELY controlling! Wait until you can get out of your house, then you can think and do whatever you want. But until then try to bare with them, and rebel as much as possible without getting in trouble.

My mom is extremely liberal. Heck, she is even more liberal than I am. Since I was little, she told me she would support me in whatever beliefs I chose to follow. She is very knowledgeable about religion and politics and I talked to her about them a lot. However, when I told her I was questioning my belief in ANY God at all, she flipped! Turns out she was OK with whatever religion I picked, as long as I actually picked one instead of none. So in a way I understand where you are coming from. My mom definitely isn't like your parents, but I was shocked when after all this time she told me she would support me no matter what, but then turns into a hypocrite and isn't okay with my decision!

I agree with you - Parents should teach their children basic morals - right and wrong and such.
But not inflict their own beliefs on their kids.
And i agree with you about homophobia being wrong - lots of people will say they are agaist homosexuality for fear that they will be thought homosexual themselves. Im straight - but im not a homophobe - surely it is ok for people to like who they want to like.

And people should not be discriminated because they are muslim - THERE STILL HUMAN - they have just chosen what to believe in - the same as many people. And I dont tyhink that anyone has the right to tell anyone what to believe and what not to believe.

There are also the times when we are going somewhere and dark skinned people were walking along the footpath and they immediately start saying 'hahaha all you can see is the whites in their eyes and nothing else!!!!' and other crude comments which I find distasteful.

But meh I have basically given up on trying to get them to leave their homophobic views... but I am just glad there are other people who have similar issues and know what it's like

A200

i feel the same way
Parents Who Don\'t Let Their Children (at A Reasonable Age) Developing Their Own Beliefs... It Is Annoying Me!

Replying to A200I hear you I am 12 and my moms says I cant date till I am 18 my dad says he doesnt even want me to date it gets so annoying all my friends are dating and they rub it in my face I really like this guy and he likes me to and hes asked me out twice and its hard for me to turn him down but I have to because I cant date I really hate turning him down I think I sould be able to date but you know parents they don't want you to date they think your still a littel kid.



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