Not everybody wants to study literature, and getting an appeitite for religion, some people want to actually live their life have fun with their friends and do stuff social. And how the hell would you know if she dresses like such a slut, maybe she just allows men to say sexuak things to her, so this makes all men think they can as well. But, you are sort right that if you put yourself out then men are going to go after you, so after I read ur post twice, yeah you got a point

This post has been edited by bk2070: Jul 6 2007, 10:44 PM

I think everyone here has good points but as far as people suggesting that she change her habits and the way that she looks, my question is: Why should she have to change the way she dresses and acts for some immature boys? It is true that it is easier to change yourself than to change everyone else, but I think since this is a rant, perhaps she isn't seeking advice but merely venting a little anger at these kids. One thing someone was saying about control, I'm a guy and I'm 17 and you won't catch me walking around feeling chicks up in the hall at school... Matter of fact usually if I see a guy do that unprovoked I get a little angry and if I know the guy I might ask him you know, "what the **** was that?"

So I guess the basic message is "if you dress like a slut, stop" but honestly if that's the way you feel comfortable dressing then do it. Be yourself. But if it's a confidence issue, find a way to boost it other than showing yourself off.

Really if worse comes to worse and someone is really pissing you off and you've told him before to stop, collect evidence and/or witnesses and report it to the proper authorities. Take one down and you'll send a message to the rest of them.

Anyways it's like anything else you get, take it with a grain of salt and maintain your own values you know? Good luck!

Sean

The word fun is as diverse as the human race. I actually enjoy learning languages, history, mathematics, theology, and science and don't like to talk to people face to face, and have a social life that is "normal". Judging by the spelling that she had used at her original post, she does have a bigger social life than I(I often see a correlation between shy people and good spelling and grammar, and outgoing people and poor spelling and grammar. It isn't a science but I see it's true 7 times out of 10).

The only thing I can say is cover up act like a nerd and I am sure that no one shall bother you no more.

As a self-proclaimed nerd, I totally resent that. I had a boyfriend and guys flirted with me all the time during my nerdy phase of glasses and braces in high school. Of course, wearing a school uniform helped attract the creepy pedophiles, but there were some normal ones too.

My theory, though, is that you can't change other people, you can only change yourself. And since reason doesn't seem to work with these boys, then it's time to step up to b!7chhood and stop being passive about it. The next time a guy manhandles you, smile politely and grab his balls. Then squeeze... HARD. And ask him sweetly how he enjoys being manhandled.

My second suggestion is to sit back and observe guys. You'd be surprised how much easier it is to understand them than understanding women. Then use the knowledge to your advantage. If you want to go the friendly route, then find a common interest and talk to them about it. Eventually, they'll stop oogling you enough to listen to what you're saying and start seeing you as a person rather than a pair of headlights. Or you could go the other route and learn how to deflate their ego with just a look or a few choice words. Yes, you might be called some nasty things, but they'll stop trying to touch you.