I think there are almost perfect (wo)men on this earth, (my boyfriends is one) cause there's always some tiny thing you don't like or less like about that girl/boy. But then, you decide what you think will make a me or women perfect, so it's for everyone different. I think if you keep looking and searching, you'll never find them, because you will keep adding demands on how-a-man/woman-should-be like and that's on reachable. Then there is this; what if you finally do meet the perfect one? You aren't there yet, cause if he doesn't want you, the chance is even more little you meet and get together with a guy or girl from your perfect image.

Let me tell you something it is thing that we always expect from our partners but we wont let our partner expect from us.why so?
any girl wants that kind of comfort but i know girls usually dont move arround me.and i have no girlfrind yet.but i have so many girls in our group.anyway,if you are waiting for soulmate search within your surrounding you will find her somehwre.

Of course, no one's perfect. Before you feel disappointed though, you should ask yourself if you really need someone perfect to be your partner for the rest of your life. I think many, like me, would say no.

If you think that the intial reaction to a perfect boy/girl is an attraction, I would strongly disagree with you. I do not think that attraction or even love is the intial steps to a relationship. To me, RESPECT is the key to a relationship. I think even think that love is even an easier feeling to developed than respect.

Well, before anyone jump on me for saying that; ok, maybe LOVE can be a much powerful feeling, but these days so many people abuse the the word LOVE, that's my reasoning for saying the above.

I recently found a quote which seems appropriate for this topic:

"We're only perfect when we lie."

I think this is absolutely true. While a person may find someone who is perfect for them, there are still qualities you have to over look. That is key to a successful relationship.

(I'm kind of a romantic so feel free to disagree with anything in this post or subsequent posts in this topic)

I suppose that one could argue that someone would be perfect when not lying if viewed through the eyes of someone who truly loves them. Like the old saying, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder," I think it's possible for someone to see perfection in someone else, despite the fact that perfection is, by nature, impossible.

I've always liked to think that there is some perfect person out there, but as I grow older and society begins to have more of an effect on me, I've begun to doubt it. Any relationship takes work from both parties, be it friendship or a romantic endeavor. However, with the six and a half billion people on this planet, there is bound to be someone who you would get along with extremely well. Backing up this somewhat, in my short 15 years of life I have already met three girls that I get along with exceptionally well, and many more with whom I have strong friendships.

I also liked to think that it would be guaranteed that you'd meet this person some time in your life, but probability and the decline in belief of spiritual happenings has got me doubting this also. When I say "doubting this" it's not like I thought that it was actually something plausible in a world where nothing supernatural exists, but I've always been somewhat spiritual in my belief of things beyond what can be proven (not specifically religion).

So I guess in answer to the topic's original question, no, I don't really think that there is a "perfect person" anymore, but there are probably many with whom it would be relatively easy to get along or have a strong relationship.

beeseven said:


Well, I actually agree about the 'so called perfect girl/boy' and its nonexistence. The thing is that I don't either believe that there are plenty of people outside who would really easily get along with anyone in a serious relationship.

I'm not even sure if there's anyone like those 'close-to-perfection' partners in everyone's life. Perhaps there are plenty of people in the world who haven't even tasted that 'true love' we've been talking about...

Love hurts... and that is very OK for me

Hmm... I have a theory... suppose two people fell in love but being torn apart managed to remain so bound to each other that they didn't get involved with other people? Patience can shape a person I think... However, the ultimate person-changing factor in my experience is knowing Jesus Christ, He's in the business of changing lives.

Scoff or laugh at what I'm saying, but I can tell you that many (if not all) of the most happily married people I know are those who serve Christ together. I know a lot of pastors and those involved in my church who have been happily married for 30 or 40 years. It's really heart-warming to see their loving familiarity with each other and how they can joke with each other and be a constant source of joy for each other

I think that's the true key however, you have to have love in your heart to both be able to receive it and to give it. And love is one of the attributes which God defines, and which Christ exemplified in His life.

Having a relationship with Christ in which He dwells in you and shapes you to become more like Him so that you love as He does greatly increases the love which will be in a marriage relationship, in my opinion.

And the other factor that may play a part I think is that patience which waits for the other person and foregoes other opportunities for the sake of the one you love. It's hard to fall away from what you've sacrificed for and dedicated yourself to. But of course in this society we're told to just go with whoever's available and the idea of dedication to anyone person is scoffed at and ridiculed. People no longer even save their virginity for the person they will marry, how much less anything else?

I guess what I'm saying is that the dedication, commitment, and patience is a big part of what will both endear you to the other person and keep you from leaving them.

The perfect girl is one who is sensitive. Warm hearted. Giving. Loyal. Smart and fun. Overall great personality. Have a great attitude. Able to make time for everyone including herself.

I think the perfect man or woman, depends on the other person's personality traits. For myself, the perfect man is who I married . He's warm, kind, hilarious, big, strong, intelligent, and has a certain vulnerability that is very attractive. It's wierd, because he's got a combination of the good guy/bad guy thing. You know the saying, nice guys always finish last. That's not always true. Well he's got that macho thing going, plus he a vulnerable side to him as well. I think all guys should be made that way (hee hee).

I must to tell you that I had a relationship with this kind of guy,for over two years I meen,with married man.Yes,they are different from other guys,they have maybe more experience in life,they are maybe stronger and they can maybe give you some advice and backup with some problems and stuffs but I don't think that they are perfect...simply,how can a man be perfect when he is cheating that woman that he had chosen to live for all his life?
And there is something else to,he would allways go back to his wife...and if he stay with you,do you really want to be with a "perfect" guy,who left his child and first family?Where is the garancy that he want left you like he did left his first wife...
That's my appinion...