 What Do You Do When You Love Two People?, suggest me your relationship advice |
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 May 21 2008, 04:26 AM
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Trap Double Mocha Member  Group: Members Posts: 2,360 Joined: 21-September 07 Member No.: 50,369  |
In love with two people
What Do You Do When You Love Two People? I have a boyfriend who I love and I know he loves me back. Recently I have been talking with an ex-boyfriend and he is asking me to go back with him. He tells me he loves me and I love him too and I know this because I loved him when I left him. I don't know what to do, can anyone help me with my dilema? -question by Sara |
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Jun 8 2008, 05:15 AM
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Trap Double Mocha Member Group: Members Posts: 2,360 Joined: 21-September 07 Member No.: 50,369 |
I wish I had an answer
What Do You Do When You Love Two People? I clicked the link to this webpage in order to find answers, but all I've found are a bunch of people in the same situation as me. It always seems to be the same case too: the first love, then the second, and then the first comes back and now you've got two. I have been struggling with this for a year now. The two men I love are complete opposites. I am with one, and have been for the last year, but I'm always thinking about the other. It's awful, and I wish there was an answer. -reply by lilly |
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Jun 16 2008, 04:51 AM
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Trap Double Mocha Member Group: Members Posts: 2,360 Joined: 21-September 07 Member No.: 50,369 |
Replying to Trap FeedBacker
Ok I'm really pissed right now because I entered like a 500 word answer for you. It was really good! And then a mistake erased it all >.< Well here's just a quote about love: What is love? As an overwhelming, overpowering, dizzying, hormone-driven feeling of utter happiness and coronation of your self-worth, it is not. Its power notwithstanding, it is just a feeling; it is not who you are. Love, as an act of will, as a determination to care, to understand, to forgive, to defend all that is good, is a cure of sorts. If you are seeking a state of perpetual happiness--or at least a state of absence of pain--you are bound for disappointment; you are chasing a will-o'-the-wisp. But if you would like to know what it is to share the best within you with other people who desire to do the same, yes, love can be the cure. Back to me: A spiritual sacred combination of two people is marriage. And lust and best friend feelings might just be that: friendly feelings. Maybe he is better just friends with you. Sometimes when you're attracted to a best friend so there's a deadly combination of lust and friendship, it could destroy a marriage as you're willing to sacrifice your foundation with one guy to pursue a fairly symbiotic relationsihp with someone else? Are you attracted to this guy wholy and mentally but also able to leave your husband guilt-free? Like sometimes you think you're in love with a guy butmaybe its better to just be friends and keep it that way you know? Hope you have a great day, ma'am. admin reply---- We apologize for the inconvenience you had to go through. :-| |
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Jun 15 2008, 04:01 AM
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Trap Double Mocha Member Group: Members Posts: 2,360 Joined: 21-September 07 Member No.: 50,369 |
Replying to Moolkye
Not true at all. I am in a very similar situation and I truely do love them both. I would die for them both, and I would kill for them both. Now if you knew me, you would know how much that says about how I feel about them. It is entirely possible to be compleatly in LOVE with multiple people. And trust me, I know what it's like to be in LUST with someone. You always know the difference when you meet them. If not at first then thinking back. That moment standes out either way. At least for me it does -reply by kuro neko |
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Jun 21 2008, 07:31 PM
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Trap Double Mocha Member Group: Members Posts: 2,360 Joined: 21-September 07 Member No.: 50,369 |
Replying to Trap FeedBacker
Please keep me updated I am so going through the very same thing at this moment except I haven't been brave enough to tell my hubby. |
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Jul 1 2008, 04:55 AM
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Trap Double Mocha Member Group: Members Posts: 2,360 Joined: 21-September 07 Member No.: 50,369 |
Replying to Cody I was just in his situation , you lust for someone but you love the other.
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Jul 2 2008, 09:50 PM
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Super Member Group: [HOSTED] Posts: 267 Joined: 25-November 07 From: a beach, in California Member No.: 53,718 |
well first i think about who i want, [really want] because that makes things so much easier, and less hard on the person your letting down, because your not, necessarily giving them hope of a relationship anymore, your just slowly letting go.. and getting to know the other person in a whole other level.. but please dont let the other person on, if you dont want them.. then be like.. oh by the way, i have a new girlfriend/boyfriend.. it really sucks when a person does that
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Aug 18 2008, 08:19 PM
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Trap Double Mocha Member Group: Members Posts: 2,360 Joined: 21-September 07 Member No.: 50,369 |
Love with two people
What Do You Do When You Love Two People? I have all the experience you need in this matter. This is a rare but real circumstance. This situation normally arises when you are a stud, this is true. I was in love with 2 women at one time, and this is a bad situation. If you really love both like you say you do, then wow your in a rock and a hard spot. I left the mistress to continue being with my girlfriend, and boy did I regret that immediately. However I think I made the right move, it was 3 months of silence then she came crying back today. I cant go back and wont, but this situation your in will only get harder with time, so the quicker you end it the better. I know that you will wait to the last possible moment cause I did. Good luck -reply by DUBD |
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