Well sometimes it suck becuase you have to stand up and get physical.

Yeah it sucks because thats your bro, but just like when you guys where kids, sometimes getting into a fist fight was the best way to resolve it.

I say nexxt time just knock him out.

Naa just kidding.

These types of situations suck, What can you really do. Either stand up to him, or just sit there and take it. Me personally I wouldnt sit there and take it.

I would stand up to him , talk shtt to him, and If i had too , I would knock him out. Now I dont have older or younger brothers, but my best friends whoa re like my brothers are the same way. And I learned this lesson a long time ago, once you get punked and get taken for a push over its over. for you.

You either have to standup and fight. But what if you get beat, well even better. cause you may get beat once or more, but you keep fighting, Ive been there before, but now it all good, cause they know bwetter to get in my face.

You guys get it, it's not as simple as "ignore him".
I can't really assert myself though because as mentioned, I "have to be the understanding one".

Ok if you have to be the "understanding one" you can go out of your boundaries for 2 hrs are so to put him in his place.

That's the thing. Whenever I put my foot down he quickly elevates the situation; he has no problem starting a big fight. One time we got in an argument because I caught him reading my email over my shoulder (our computers are on a 90 degree angle). I called him on it but he basically belittled my right for privacy, unfortunately it was a bad time to start a fight so I just left the room. Somehow it becomes me trying to avoid having too many confrontations for my mom's sake, he doesn't really care that much about how it affects her.

I know it sounds bad but when I was in my early teens, when my social life was suffering and I was struggling to assert myself, I used to think "one push down the stairs and I can breathe". Of course I never did it but I feel bad for even thinking about it. Thing is it's true; remove him from my life and I can accomplish at least twice as much without this unnecessary weight on me.

In my family I'm the oldest brother, It's not as easy as it seems.
He's (they're; i got 2 littlebrother's) always nagging me, asking stupid questions and demanding help for something, and the MOMENT I ask for a hand he's mad at me and refuses to help!

I just hate being the 'good guy' all the time - I help family, friends and others all day long but whenever I need to borrow something for 10 seconds it's "f*ck you!" ._.

Bah...