so did i experience one 2 months ago.

it was a 4 year relationship with my girl but apparently when i'm in army, the whole ship just sank.

i was depressed, listened to a few songs and here am i again living my life.

cheerios people

Dont wanna loose him
Dealing With A Long Term Relationship Break Up

I have been with my boyfrtiend for almost 3 years in feb. 2009.
We went through a really bad rough time. Not because of him, but because of me. I cheated on him twice and had a few friends I associated with. He found ou t and things got ugly. I was stupid and shouldnt of did that to him. In my heart I really care and love him and right now it stills hurt him. I regret everything and he doesnt believe I can make things better. I really love my man and I beleive I can show him I changed. I want to continue on and stick by him. He doesnt trust me but he told me he stills loves me and its hard for him to break up with me since we have been together, but in a way he does want to break up. I don't know what to do. I can loose him.! what to do? we been through good and bad. And I apoloogize a trillion times for hurting him

-reply by teyah

Replying to iGuest

I am currently going through a break up after a 3 1/2 year relationship. And I can totally understand what you are going through. We have been off and on for the last year and a half abnd I really don't think that either of us have been happy over that time. The first year together was great but after that things started to head south in a big way. During this period of time it is good to understand that this is a time to embrace your self, and to love yourself by realizing that the relationship ended because of unresloved issues, and by taking a step back you are giving yourself time to see the dynamics of the relationship more clearly. And id there is a way of working through those issues then maybe there is a chance for reconciliation. If not then just take things one day at a time, you will become stronger with each passing day.

-reply by Dexter Johnson

Betrayal
Dealing With A Long Term Relationship Break Up

My boyfriend of 6 years just left me 2months ago and I can't seem to stop crying. He had been working abroad for a few months and when he came home he told me that he'd been having an affair for over a month, it broke me as I trusted him more than anything on this earth. He said it was over and that she didn't live where we were moving to for his work. So, after a few days he had to go back to work abroad and I decided to follow a few weeks after to see and discuss what would happen next. Little did I know that he had been lying when he was 'telling the truth', she was in fact living there and even worked with him. It ended and I flew home,didn't speak for a 2months and when I finally called him to get some answers that I need to move on, I find that he is very happy with his new life and that he had never stopped seeing this person even though he had said so. I can't deal with the fact that he started a whole relationship within ours,it is so hurtful I don't know what to do or how to move on from this?

I can't bear that he is so happy with the person he caused me so much pain with,it is unimaginable. It is so disrespectful and I feel like such a fool. I honestly don't think I can get up from this. He does not want to answer any more questions or talk about anything,he is very cold and matter of fact its scary.

I never saw this coming,a few months ago I thought I was everything to him, now I seem to be less than a stranger. I would have entrusted him with my very life.

What can I do?

Movin on...
Dealing With A Long Term Relationship Break Up

I been with a girl for over 5 years now, we were together since high school, we had a place of our own and we were both in college.. Life was GREAT!! Till I found out she was cheating.. After that my whole world came crashing down.. I lost EVERYTHING! We even have a son together, But thats not the worst part.. I found out that she was cheating on me with her cousin, and she keep doing it no matter what I said, no matter with anybody said.. I keep givin her chances after chances, everytime I tryed to leave her she would cry and tell me to stay. I hate seeing her cry, I do anything to see that smile on her face.. So I stay. But she just couldent stop seeing him.. Then one day she came home with red dots all over her neck.. That HURT! like she took a butchers knife and ran it stright through my heart.. Now I'm living out of my car, our son is with my parents, (he is staying with me by the way)I still love her.. She was my whole world.. Even tho she put me through hell I still love her and care about her like the day we met.I got nobody to talk to about my problems, was only her.. Need somebody to talk to.. Somebody who knows what it feels like when the one person you really loved turns around and stabs you in the heart.. Over and over again..

-question by Nelson Wilson

I've been in a relationship for 3 and a half years also. We dated through highschool, and in our three years we rarely had fights. She decided we needed more time to grow up, so we separated. Then we got back together and after about another month, she decided to do that again. It hurts, my heart is broken. We're still together, we just decided to take more time away from eachother, but I know deep down that she'll just break up with me after awhile. All I can say to anybody that's getting out of a long term relationship is that time heals all wounds. The best thing to do is go out and keep your mind occupied until time has healed those wounds.

How to move on or not
Dealing With A Long Term Relationship Break Up

I have been with a girl for 2 years and absolutly love her to bits she has had a few problems which she couldnt share with me. We lived with each other for over a year I have always had a commitment problem but things were different with her and I wanted to take that step and we moved in together so from that point I knew she was the person I wanted to be with forever, when things got got bad I told her didnt want things to stay as the way they were and asked her to leave I'm regreting this ever since I ever done it I want her but not the way things were but she cant change to make things better again. I have constantly been out with friends to keep busy so I don't have to think about her but I cant carry on like this anymore something needs to be done it would be nice to know if anyone else has experienced anything like this before and nice to know how they handled it?

-reply by Kaine