ok well i know somebody who is having real problems with his family and had this problem for 3 years now he has been telling me about it but it was just like little teenager problems we all have them but lately he has been really sad and he said he hates his family and he wants to move out but he has no one to stay with so he wants to go to some orphanage place. I told him that he should reconsider the problem but he says that his family doesn’t talk to him, doesn't like him and he says that they yell at him for things like getting a B and they have hit him so basically he doesn't want to sew them or anything he just wants to go to another place where he will feel safer. I was thinking i would tell him the orphanage but he is 14 and i don't know how this process works any ideas or information. TY

Tell him to talk to a counselor, or his favorite teacher at school. Or maybe somebody in the clergy if he goes to church. He needs help. He probably doesn't trust adults at this point, but there must be some adult he can talk to. Another option is getting in touch with his local Social Services. He can look that up in the telephone book probably under County listings.

Interesting... I have a classmate who has the exact same problem. She also wanted to go to an orphanage... Guh... as if things will be better over there. It's not exactly a cakewalk. I agree with Mich on the counseling part though. The best way to fix a problem is not to run from it, but to face it. If all else fails, call the Social Services if the situation is getting dangerous. I wish you luck with your friend. Do they make your friend leave the house? :/ What else is giving him stress?

man i don't think any kids life is perfect, but you need to stick with it even if you think your parents suck and your life sucks. the only reasons i could see for kids to actually leave their parents is if they were drug addicts, or beat the kids badly or sexually abused them. you say the family doesn't talk to him and hits him, well i never got along with my family, and my mum would spank me for discipline and I fought with my brother but thats life.

the other guys have made some good suggestions, like seeking some counselling or something, there are always people out there who can help if life isn't working like it should, make sure he knows exactly what he's doing before he leaves his family.

that is exacly the problem he isn't just getting spanked its hitting on the head and its not like the way we think of punishing kids its much harsher. And someone said that if they make him leave the house and i didn't mention this but they have sometimes made him get out for three days and i didn't find out about this until he told me a month later. And since he has no family other than his parents he said that he would stay in the library during the day and at night on the sofa that was left on the street.

this is a serious problem if they are making him stay out of house for three days,are they parents? idon't think so these sort of people should be jailed and now to the solving part of the problem
1. go to a religious orphanage (like if he is christian go to a church etc) religious orphanage are better then the others
2.opt for any other social service orphanage
3.if he's older get a job and leave alone, the best option
4.take support from relatives if possible
i am out of good ideas here ,he won't get a normal childhood in any of above ,yet he could try them and make his life the best he can
AND TELL HIM NOT TO FORGET TO SUE HIS PARENTS WHEN HE GROW OLD[

have to agree there richierich1

Not that i am saying he is lying, but he might just be blowing it all out of proportion. I had a friend who complained, about her parents and her home life constantly, saying her parents never gave her anything, that they loved her sister nore etc...but the more i stayed at her place, and the more i was around her (not just at her house, at school, the movies...etc) i realized, she was really stretching the truth. It was apparent that there was some kind of connection between her parents, and her sister yes that was apparent, but as for loving her more, i dont think so. And my friend got a lot, it was one of those, maybe she didnt get what she asked for right then and there, but she did get it, kind of ordeals.

My point is, he could just be stretching the truth, Teens tend to overreact, and i know that almost every teen has at one point in their life said they wish they could run away, or go to an orphanage. Teenage years are hard, and during your teens you start wanting to gain more independance, and often you feel your family gets in the way of exploring life. Maybe his parents have hit him, but maybe they only hit him once and he has blown it way out of proportion. Its just hard to tell what is true with kids anymore, because it seems like the ones crying about their problems, arent the ones who are usually suffering, they just hunger for some form of attention [possibly, from not getting a whole lot from their family- so they feel, if their family isnt giving them attention, they will draw negative attention to their own family, as a way of personal revenge]

Have you seen bruises on his body, you say he was hit in the head...did you see any bruises? Have you been to his house? Well, i know this post wasnt probably what you wanted, but i just dont want you to put so much effort in trying to help someone when in the end, it turns out to be something so small (it has happened to me, and not just with my friend talked about above). As for 'real' advice, i would suggest YOU go to the school counseler, and express your concern on your friends situation, because no one can help if no one speaks up.