 I Need Some Advice., please help me out |
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  Jun 13 2005, 03:33 AM
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Newbie [Level 1]  Group: Members Posts: 20 Joined: 12-June 05 Member No.: 8,158  |
Hello all,
I need some sound advice. Ok so my problem is... There's this girl right? And I really, really like her. But, Idon't know what to do. What should I do??? |
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Jun 13 2005, 06:22 PM
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Super Member Group: Members Posts: 264 Joined: 16-April 05 Member No.: 5,768 |
Well...
Do you ever talk to her? If you don't, then you should start doing just that. At first, be friends with her, then things will start happening and you will figure out what to do when the time is right. Remember, don't try to force anything; you will look desperate then and she won't respect you. If you could spare us some more information, that would be helpful not only to us but it would be to your advantage too. Good luck man. AmeriBass |
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Jun 14 2005, 03:59 AM
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Member [Level 1] Group: Members Posts: 52 Joined: 3-June 05 From: Illinois Member No.: 7,847 |
QUOTE(monkeys-r-orange @ Jun 12 2005, 10:33 PM) Hello all, I need some sound advice. Ok so my problem is... There's this girl right? And I really, really like her. But, Idon't know what to do. What should I do???  Well i am not a pro with girls by any mean, but I think you should do that AmeriBass said. It looks like he knows how to deal with the opposite sex. |
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Jun 14 2005, 04:10 AM
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.::UniCorN::. Group: Members Posts: 973 Joined: 19-September 04 From: Dalian CHN Member No.: 1,192 |
umm,show your humour and wizard as you can but not on purpose.certainly more interesting chat could help you to deal with the problem
 and you must know her very detail...good luck for your affection to her. |
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Jun 14 2005, 05:00 AM
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Group: Members Posts: 1,161 Joined: 9-May 05 From: Brisbane, QLD Member No.: 6,818 |
QUOTE(monkeys-r-orange @ Jun 13 2005, 01:33 PM) What should I do??? Pull her poneytails. |
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Jun 14 2005, 06:37 AM
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Trap Grand Marshal Member Group: Members Posts: 1,205 Joined: 25-March 05 Member No.: 4,883 |
QUOTE 1. Get inspired. Look back on the times when you really enjoyed being around her, discovered that you might have a lot in common, or realized that you had tremendous respect for her.
2. Put yourself in her shoes. Based on what you know about her, imagine what language or situations might make her uncomfortable, and avoid them. If you are unsure, err on the side of caution. Avoid overemphasizing the appeal of her physical appearance. 3. Choose an appropriate venue for your disclosure, so that you can avoid embarrassment and awkwardness as much as possible. Telling her on a sailboat, miles away from shore, or announcing it from the audience of a talk show might not work out well for either of you. 4. Make yourself clear. You do not have to be cryptic to be tactful. Rather than wrapping your feelings of romance in a riddle, clearly convey your attraction. "You might already know that I like you, but I want you to know that I am interested in you romantically." 5. Keep the door open for a response, without putting pressure on her. Let her know that you want to remain friendly, even if you do not develop a closer relationship. 6. Resist requesting an immediate response. It is pretty off-putting if you say, "Well, what do you think of me? I mean, I could be wrong, but I am pretty sure that I was getting a vibe from you. Am I right or am I right?" 7. Give your declaration some time to sink in. It may take a few days or even weeks. Once you start counting the months go by, you can safely bet she is not interested. 8. Let it go and move on if the feelings are not mutual or if she doesn't mention it again. 9. Celebrate with her if she believes that you two just might become an item. 10. Learn from your experience, whatever the outcome. What would you do differently next time? Are you often interested in women who don't feel the same way about you? Are you open to approaching different women than you have ever considered for a relationship before? |
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Jun 15 2005, 05:11 AM
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Super Member Group: Members Posts: 420 Joined: 11-June 05 From: United States of America Member No.: 8,099 |
First, you left out a VERY important thing. You forgot to tell us how old you were. If you did, I could've told you what to do.
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Jun 15 2005, 05:18 AM
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Newbie [Level 2] Group: Members Posts: 29 Joined: 15-June 05 Member No.: 8,243 |
if she likes jokes and stuff i highly suggest making her laugh a lot once u become her friend. Thats all i have to do, girls just laugh so easily
 Eventually you'll have to ask her out cuz if u don't for a while she might just consider u two of being only friends from now on.
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Jun 15 2005, 02:59 PM
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Super Member Group: Members Posts: 420 Joined: 11-June 05 From: United States of America Member No.: 8,099 |
Yes, true. You have to ask her out, after around a week.
She will think you're just a friend if you don't. |