I am a jock, I'm man enough to admit it. I'm one of the big strong men on campus. I've never had a problem asking out, flirting, or approaching girls. Unless it comes to this one girl. I've known her since 8th grade and fell in love with her the first time I saw her. After I got to know her a little more she turned out to be even more amazing. But, she isn't the same as most girls when it comes to giving off signals. I don't think she has ever even gone out with anyone, so I don't want to come on overly strong and just skip dating and tell her I love her. She is really intelligent and athletic, she is absolutely the most beautiful person I have ever met, so when I'm around her I want to ask her out but can never find the words. And the few times I've got the courag to talk to her, I walk away from the conversation thinking "What the heck did I just say" I always end up sounding like a big dumb football player.

I've gone out with plenty of other girls and I know of some really amazing girls that like me, I keep trying to convince myself that it is just a stupid crush and that I'll get over her. But, every time I see her and our eyes meet, she always gets this big smile on her face and says hi to me and I do the same I say Hi back....and then I fall in love with her all over again. The biggest problem is, I never get any time with her. We both have sports after school and the only time I see her is going from one class to the next in the hallway.

I really need some good advice, it is close to the end of my school year and I don't want another summer of not knowing. Do I ask her via her friends, do I just stop her in the middle of the hallway and tell her how I feel, do I find out which locker is hers and leave a note. There are so many things I have thought of doing but I don't know what will work for this girl.

How do you ask out a shy girl, that you are desperately head over heals in love with?
Please help

This post has been edited by Ramwhad: May 23 2008, 07:47 AM

Don't come out with the "i love you comment" girls dont like that sort of thing since "love" is such a strong emotion, I'm not really one to talk about asking girls out cos to be honest im not very good at it but I'd say become friends before anything else, because if i were to just ask a girl out it'd work better if i know her first, of course i'm lower down the food chain than you but oh well. You say she's clever well im not suggesting anything but clever people tend to like other clver people, I dont know how clever you are i'm not saying your stupid, but its a fact.

lol.

Am I the only one seeing irony in this situation? xD

What part do u think is ironic? I know it is I just want to know which parts your talking about.



Well even though, my gpa wouldn't show it I'm actually way more intelligent then most would think. I was in the gifted program from 2nd grade through 9th grade. But it was just a waste of a period for me, and I got tired of listening to all of the annoying liberal "gifted kids" debate stupid pointless things. I don't know if this will help you to help me, but my IQ is 132, do you think that will up my chances with her. Her gpa is a 4.0.

I think you should keep telling yourself it's "just a stupid crush," because that's exactly what it is. You can't possibly be in love with someone you've spent virtually no time with (keep it that way). Contrary to Hollywood, there is no love at first sight. What you are experiencing now is infatuation at first sight. Chemistry, if you will. Too many students get sidetracked early in life by this sort of diversion and lose focus on why they're in school in the first place. You, I assume, are in school to learn academics and get your degree, perhaps even pursue post graduate studies. As a free, unattached agent, you also have the option of studies abroad and extensive travel after college. These are things you'll likely never have the opportunity to do if you let yourself get bogged down in a serious relationship now.

We are what we think. By spending your time thinking and focusing on this individual, you run the risk of becoming like all those other young people who get less out of their education than they should. Your thoughts now should be on you and your education. Once you've finished your education and get saddled with the responibilities of career and family, you'll have all the time in the world to discover the mysteries of the fairer sex with your future wife. But for now, best to get on with the serious business of finishing your degree, with accolades if possible.

I understand what you are trying to tell me and I've been telling myself that since I've known her. But, not matter what I do, how many girls I've gone out with, how focused I am in my sports. I just can't stop thinking about her, there has never been a day thats gone by since the first time I saw her even before we knew each other that I haven't thought of her. I have had crushes before, but this just feels different. Whenever I see her, I get the most undescribable feeling. Even if its only for a moment, nothing else matters in that moment, not the girl I'm dating, the problems I'm having, or even one of the sports I have later on, for that brief moment, everything just feels right. I've never felt that way with a girl I just have a crush on.

Replying to Ramwhad I am in the exact same situation as you. I am a three sport athlete, and I am absolutely stricken with this shy girl. The method I am using is slowly getting to know her. She ended up asking me out (albeit through her friend) and we had a great time. So my advice is to get to know her, try and point out she looks pretty or something menial like that. Since you are a jock she probably does not know there is this whole sensitive side to you. That is what my problem was.

-reply by keefer9

Omgad thats absolutely adorable! (: im glad you asked for my help.. well, if shes shy, im pretty sure shes a little overwhelmed & might not be confident enough to think that, you a major hottie has a crush on her.. i say talk to her friends, and just kinda let them know how you feel.. so they are on the same plane and can kinda help you out you know?

as in what to do, just make her smile.. im sure she thinks you freaking out is adorable, try asking her to go out somewhere, & hang out together.. or if you dont have the guts.. check to see if she has a myspace, or messenger or something...