Hey guys, I am new here but I didn't just sign up for this so I'll try to stick around. I am 13, never had a girlfriend or kissed a girl. I really like a girl (because of a school trip) , and I want to ask her out and get to know her better. So can I hear your helpful words of advice.

On Friday, I admitted to a friend, I liked a girl. He gave me advice and tried to work something out...this led it to one of her friends. So I admitted to her friend that I liked her. I can't explain this too much, the whole MSN Conversation explains it the most. I am willing to send out the conversation to anyone who can possibly help me succed in my future happiness. I went out today with a few of her friends and my friends, she was not there but I couldn't stop thinking about her, this made me leave the day out cause I wanted to be alone to think. But I just got a text saying she is out. I am gutted.

Do I love her? Is it just a moment of maodness?

Remember, if you want the conversations, I am willing to add you to my MSN Contact List and hear your advice, the e-Mail would be given out via PM.

Thanks.

- John

Simply ask her out to something, movies, dinner, lunch at school , hang with her, become someone that cares for her, and knows about her, then tell her how you feel. If your a nice guy she will think the same about you, however i do think at the age of 13 your getting a little over-fest with the love thing, just play it cool and be good friends and see where it goes. Your only young, and girls as girlfriends just isn't worth wasting it away.

Hey, yeah. Sorry for the mega "bump up" but yesterday, I thought all hope was gone, she liked someone else. So I went in to one of my moments, and burned my love letters I wrote. So today, I go on MSN, I found out she doesn't I was slightly mad at myself. So we got talking and she feels not wanted by us and she was leaving the school, because my friends never called over to her house for her...so what did I do...I semi-admitted to liking her. Tomorrow, do I go back to her and talk about it, or carry on like normal and talk in person.
Once again, sorry for the bump.

Semi-Admitting anything to something is a cop out and could lead to all sorts of trouble. You need to fully tell her how you feel, I dont think it matters if it's over MSN, face to Face or even a letter just tell her th whole truth. You'll only ever regret it if you don't. If she is leaving your school, then she may drift away, so get in now.

Mr. J,

I read your post and thought of myself at your age with the same problems, now I´m 35 married to the girl of mt dreams. What my experience tells me is that you get too uptight about talking your heart up to a girl, and hear me, this is the Brazilian way to get chicks...

1 - When you go talk to her, be confident like you are when telling the truth to your mom about something you did n´t do. Remember it´s the same thing, you´re telling her the truth. (even though you´re not. )

2 - Be neat, I mean brush you teeth well ( she will notice that ), wear clean clothes, not your best, but cool ones, smell good (do not put the whole bottle of perfume, be conscious ) end at last you have to look at yourself and know your ready.

3 - Even before talking to her assume the happiness that you would feel if she had already accepted.

4 - When talking to her try grab her hand between your both hands firmly but not with too much strength ( women respond well to that gest ).

5 - The most important, after you tell her how important she´s for you and give her your torrent of feelings, if she hesitates to say something, seize the moment and kiss her softly. If she responds, give her your best, the first one is what counts most.

Hope I´ve helped

Good luck.

A HUGE MISTAKE YOU’RE PROBABLY MAKING RIGHT NOW WHEN YOU APPROACH WOMEN

Let me ask you something…

When you approach or start talking to a woman that you’re “interested” in, what is your attitude
toward her? How do you treat her? What are you THINKING ABOUT?

Do you start the interaction by trying to figure out if she’s single?

Do you assume that she probably has a boyfriend and look for hints that she doesn’t?

Do you try to pretend like you’re not interested in her “in that way” and instead try to be casual about it until you get signals from her?

Do you even THINK about your strategy for how to talk to a woman at all?

MOST GUYS ARE UNAWARE OF WHAT THEY’RE DOING

Most of us guys are running around doing things that we’re not even AWARE of. Or if we are aware of what we’re DOING, we’re NOT aware of what OTHER people (particularly women) think of our behaviors.

Also, most of us guys allow others to control MOST or even All of how we act. Now, we won’t ADMIT that we try to do or say whatever we think will please a woman, and we won’t ADMIT that we’re even mentally anticipating what she’s going to think and acting on it… but it’s happening.

And it’s happening ALL THE TIME.

In fact, if most of us could just get a realistic look at how much we’re trying to read women’s minds and act in a way that pleases women, we’d *BLEEP*-SLAP ourselves silly and we’d mentally yell to ourselves “HEY, WAKE UP!”

Think about the following scenario:

You’re out at a bar, and you start talking to an attractive young woman while trying to order a drink. And let’s even say that she starts the conversation by commenting on how busy it is and how many people are in line for a drink.

You’re thinking to yourself, “I wonder if she has a boyfriend… I wonder if she’s here with someone… I wonder how old she is and if she’d like a guy my age… I wonder if I should buy her a drink so she’ll feel obligated to talk to me and I can keep her attention… I wonder if I should just wait and talk to her later…”

Then, you remember that you’ve been reading my newsletters and my eBook… and learning from my Advanced Dating Techniques Series… and you decide to use some of your new techniques.

So you say, “Hey, do me a favor. I’ll let you go in front of me if you order my drink for me. All the bar tenders are guys, and they’ll give you more attention than they’ll give me, OK? I don’t usually use women just for their bodies this early on in the relationship, but in this case I’m going to make an exception”.

She laughs.

You think you’re on a roll.

You then say, “But I’m not going to let you pay for it, OK? I don’t want you thinking that I’m easy and that I’ll give you my number or come home with you just because you paid for my drink.”

At this point, she turns around and gives you the “You’re a loser” look, and walks away.

Now let’s think for a moment about what could be going on here…

- She might be married

- She might be in a bad mood

- She might be a lesbian (not all that bad, actually)

- She might be offended

- She might be emotionally unstable

- She might have misheard what you said

- She might have gotten nervous

- She might have thought you were ugly

…or the possibility exists that the technique you used might have been horrible.

But what do MOST guys typically do in a situation like this one?

Most guys typically let their emotions take over and they think, “Well that stuff doesn’t work”, and they STOP even trying Cocky & Funny humor.

WHAT A MISTAKE THIS IS!

A side note: If you’re not quite “getting” the Cocky & Funny humor thing, then you need to LEARN it. This technique will create more attraction with women than just about anything else I know. And here’s the best way to learn:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/16878/CockyComedy/

A lot of guys will even try something and have it WORK for them, then have it NOT WORK just ONCE and quit using it because they stop believing in it.

This is a HORRIBLE mistake.

Let me try to say this all a different way…

Out of a random sample of 100 beautiful women, you’d probably find that only 20 of them (or so) are:

- Single

- Emotionally Stable

- Able to carry on an interesting conversation

- Not stuck up

- Not psycho

This is just an estimate from my own personal experience, but I think you get the point.

Now, here’s the important part of this concept…

Let’s say that you started talking to all of these 100 women, one after the other, and you had to use the same basic attitude and opening with each of them.

What would you do?

If you treated all of them like they were probably NOT single, interesting, stable, etc. (which is the case), then you’d probably scare off the single ones who were your targets, because they’d think you were acting strange.

For instance, let’s say you started a conversation with a very attractive woman in her mid twenties, who was open-minded, funny, and wasn’t concerned with how old the men she dated were (there are a lot of women out there like this… I know this for a fact). But let’s say that you were “playing it cool”, not saying anything that might offend or appear “too forward”, and generally treating her like she was probably married or had a boyfriend. You’d probably be trying to figure out if she was single, not really paying attention to what you were saying, and you might finish up by saying, “So, can I take you out to dinner sometime?”

And what is this hot, smart, desirable woman thinking while you’re acting like a dork? Right… she’s thinking that you’re a dork. Duh.

Now, let’s take the flip side.

Stay with me here.

Let’s say that you treated ALL of the 100 attractive women like they were AVAILABLE, smart, interesting, etc.

What would happen?

Well, you’d probably start flirting with them all right from the beginning, or you’d communicate very quickly that you weren’t just another friendly guy who wanted to talk about the weather.

And what would happen?

Well, as you can imagine, a lot of the women who were either unavailable or unable to have a normal conversation would “reject” you. They just wouldn’t be interested. Their minds would be closed to the possibility of continuing the relationship with you, and they would end the conversation with you in one way or another.

Now, let’s go TOTALLY out into space, and imagine that you were a LAB RAT, and that you had a bar that you could press. And let’s say that 80% of the time when you pressed it you got shocked, and 20% of the time you got a treat.

How long would you keep pressing the bar?

And keep in mind that this is a random system.

You can’t line up all the shocks (or all the rejections from women, in the non-rat experiment that most men live in day-to-day).

You might get 7 shocks in a row at first.

Or you might get 1 treat, then 5 shocks.

Well, for most men, the THOUGHT of being “rejected” by a woman is worse than a shock for a lab rat.

So what do we do?

We don’t even try.

And we miss the opportunities with all of those wonderful, single, available women who are out looking for a man who has the balls to find them.

So what’s the solution?

The solution is to use a little technique called behaving AS IF she’s single, available, and interesting.

You must learn to overcome your initial self-doubt and your doubts about a woman, and behave AS IF every woman you start talking to is SINGLE and AS IF she’s going to be THE ONE, MOST INTERESTING AND WONDERFUL WOMAN EVER.

You must do the things that will attract THAT woman, and forget about the rest.

And you must learn to NOT take the things that happen in between meeting the wonderful ones PERSONALLY.