Long Distance Cyber Relationship

I would like to share my greatest love story ever.

I met my girlfriend on the internet 6 years ago, that was 30th of August 2002. Most people in my city are indulged in this so called, IRC chats (since YM wasn't so famous back then). Me and my friends own a channel in a certain IRC server and that's where our lives are everyday, every free time.

One morning (after a whole night of partying) before going to sleep and still sober, I visited our channel to have a bit of chat. My ex-girlfriend was there, we greeted each other "mahal, kumusta na? (Love, how are you?)" (the way we greet each other when we're still lovers). We havent seen each other for so long since she and her family migrated to US few months ago. Then one chatter PM'd me asking, "If I were your girlfriend, what would you call me?" and I replied, "I'll call you Baby". We became cyber lovers on that very moment (around 5 mins of talking). Since then we communicate thru chat, txt and call. After a month, we met personally, we kissed and hugged each other like we've seen each other before. We never knew how each of us looked, but maybe we felt true love so it didn't matter anymore. We we're students that time (2nd year in college), and we are 200miles apart.

We've had alot of hardwork to make the relationship work. Alot of misunderstandings, quarrels and lapses. But we believed in each other, fought for our love and prayed for God's guidance.

Today my girlfriend is already a Computer Engineer and I am a businessman and an IT professional. We still love each other, and we're currently building our own house. We planned to marry next year, hoping to have 4 kids and I hope everything will go as we have dreamed of.

So who said long distance relationships don't work? Who said that cyber relationships falter?

It really depends upon the people involved, if you work out on love, then maybe you'll find true love no matter the distance no matter the barrier.

i've a realtion with girl from last 2 years. in this 2 years strange thing is that we have not more 3 time meet to each other. but i'm sure one day we will meet. although we are different choice
i hope you support me...
please...

Yes, it seems that many long distance internet relationships eventually fail, especially if they hadnt met each other in real life after a while. Although I do give kudos to those that still are in those type of relationships, even those that hadnt met each other in RL yet.

Long Distance Breakup
Long Distance Cyber Relationship

I am Clark from the Philippines. I am 21 years old. My girl broke up with me 3 weeks ago because she's so tired of our way of communication. We were on a long distance relationship. How can I get her back that she is standing firm on her decision never to get back with me again?

-reply by Clark

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Everything in life happens for a reason my friend. Just accept what happened and just by heart, pray for her happiness. After all you really loved her, Correct?

Talk to her and be good friends with her. Respect her decision and move on in life :-)

-Shree (trap17.com)

well for some congratulations. but it was discouraged because kids can be a target of rapist and when you meet can be a chance of abuse. Have tried it once and the idea of talking to a girl that is really a man is too strong for me to try it longer no offense

Congratulations to everyone here! I just visited my e-BF for the first time in Europe. I met his entire family, saw the country and the culture... And managed to convince him to come back with me. :D Though we had much drama at times (I don't care to divulge on a public forum) related to distance, having close access to sex and our terrible lack of communication... Anyway, we ended up spending 31 days together instead of my scheduled 14. He is coming back to visit me this winter, and I will go to him in the summer. As I have an EU citizenship and a pretty decent/stable job (I've been teaching piano since I was 15) the money and staying places/paper work that deter other people haven't really affected us. I truly believe that love knows no boundaries. Best of luck to everyone; but be warned, long distance and e-relationships are harder to maintain than regular ones. If you love the person enough to put the effort in, you will be rewarded, TRUST me! -reply by Tegan

should i break up with my internet boyfriend?
Long Distance Cyber Relationship

He is from the UK and I'm from Mexico, we met on myspeace about 2 years ago, became really good friends, actually my best friend, I talked to him about everything that came to my mind, eventually after a year I fell in love with him, something I thought shouldnt have happened, I couldnt keep it anymore, and told him... Turned out he was in love with me too and for the first time he put his webcam and asked me out, I couldnt help myself and said yes. In august 7th we'll have been dating for 4 months, thats a little time I know. But by now we have talked about growing old together, having kids, getting married, moving to another country together... We are really into each other.. The problem is.. I love him so much, but he is so far away, and I think its not fair for him, he could meet another girl there that can kiss him and hug him, and I just can type what I feel, which isnt the same. I also thought, my english speaking isnt really good so he would have to deal with it, and I just feel I'm not good enough for him. Yes I have told him how I feel about it, but he says if we stop dating it would be a waste of time when we could be showing each other how much we love. And then he uses his webcam and mic, and I don't (I have panic using it, weird I know) and he says thats fine, but I feel like I should do something else. I was thinking maybe the best would be to break up and if when we meet he still feels something for me we can start dating again... I really love him, and if it wasnt for that I would never break up with him. But I want the best for him and I don't think thats with me, its with someone that can show him how much she loves him in person... So what should I do.. Can someone give me an advise? please I really need it. P.S. I'm 17 and he is 19, I'll turn 18 on october and he 20 on december in case you want to know -reply by abigail s.

long distance cyber Relationship
Long Distance Cyber Relationship

Who can resist these men...I have been e-loving one for the last 4 months. I think my intense feelings are scaring him away. We met on line accidently and have never met in person.  I think he is somehow part of this British fetish I have going on. But I know one thing for sure, I'll eventually find what I need in a man.   

  My reply to abigail s. Is that no love is stronger than latin love...So I have heard from extremely happy people who are in a relationship with them.  And, nobody is more accepting of differences involving their women than these wonderful British men either.  You are at a precarious time in your relationship and you are experiencing self doubts.  Just wait it out and I am sure you will feel different soon.  If you don't, then you will know your decision is the right one.  Don't sacrifice your feelings like some romantic martyr; you are important too.   

A word of warning...It is hard to say no to these guys.. So don't do anything you would regret..He will still love you and respect you even more.  And he will wait.  The fact that it has lasted this long is a good sign.  You just have to decide if this is going to be enough for you for the time it takes to finish school, etc.  If both of you get your degrees, then you can at the minimum get a job is what ever foreign country you decide to move to. 

-reply by lovesukmentoo

Do you think my girlfriend is seeing someone else?
Long Distance Cyber Relationship

My girlfriend and I have been together for 10 years between the years there have been ups and downs. She has decided to study in Ghana for 6 months, prior to that she was there for a 2 weeks holiday. We use to talk over the phone twice a week for the first 2 months, she rang one day "said she can't continue with the relationship, and would like us to be friends". After that there was no communication between us for week she decide ring me this time she wanted us to start again and I agreed. A week later she decided not to continue with the relationship. Do you think she is seeing someone else? -question by agyman

long distance relationship
Long Distance Cyber Relationship

hey there people...Well , talking about cultural dif. Ive got 2 stories related to that:

April 2007: I met this guy in a chat site , I'm latinamerican , He Is from Turkey... We got into an e-romance for 5 months or so , until he decided to leave everything and come to my country and stay with me ...Even tho I didn't feel that was true love ( I ve been involved in normal face to face relationships my whole life , so it was something new for me )

Sept 2007: He sold everything to get money enough to come here and start a new life...

Unfortunately for us... Cultural difference was too much , hes muslim , I'm agnostic. I'm single mom , he was a virgin. And so on...

We broke up like 18 months ago or so and still we are best friends on earth :)

Let me tell you. Culture is way too important , if  u wanna get involved in a e.Relationship with a foreigner...Ah well , learn A LOT abt his / her culture BEFORE u met up...

1 year ago I met this other guy...Hes an american guy , and , might sound funny but , I can see that our lifestyles, plans , way of living, and many MANY other things are so similar...Even tho we are a continent far away :) . My english its just enough to talk...Spoken , its same story...We try to go on video calls everyday jst to know "how was your day" and now I'm moving there in a few months,...I love him...Really I do! and so far I can see he loves me as well.. .. Most of his family already knows about me and whats he planning ( ahem...Yeah  , wedding!! yay!!)

 

I know some of his friends might think I'm using him to get a "green card" , since I'm latin, hes american and that whole jugdamental oppinions abt this kind of relationship...I don't give a damn!! I'm an engineer and earn good enough money here , So I'm not willing to go to states for a "better life"...A better life form e will be with HIM...He has nothing but his loving heart...And I don't care ...And he cant move over here bcoz he doesnt speak spanish at alll :D...Ah! except when he says "Te Amo!!" (how cuuuute aww)

So, does love have any kind of borders?  I don't think so , Is it like gambling?Well you might find stupid people , nice people , liers and cheaters and honest people...But...Doesnt that happen in REAL LIFE as well?? I know  ;)

Sorry abt my english !! I do my best :)

Best luck to ya all!!

-reply by Alejandra