I have ten tips on what not to do on your first date. If anyone reads this post and wants to post more tips just come to me, somertonlord, lord of the somertons.

Tip number 1:Don't go on about yourself and yourself only, compliment your date by saying I like your hair, you have nice eyes and so on and mean it.
Tip number 2:Don't boast about your work life or your social life by talking about how you got a promotion at work or talking about your new mobile phone because people don't want to hear about phones and jobs on a date.
Tip number 3:Don't take your date for granted, don't be naive by thinking your date will put up with you talking about yourself. You want to make him/her feel special, remember that you can only make first impressions once unless you have a time machine.
Tip number 4:don't look plain, Swipe your date off your feet by ordering the most expensive champagne or buy a fancy box of chocolate.
Tip number 5:Don't embarrass yourself by talking loud or accidentally knocking a champagne bottle over.

And remember to note your anniversary in your diary.

Tip number 6- Leave your exes or current past relationships out of it. No one wants to hear what a jerk Bobby was or how Diane could have been more faithful.

Tip number7 - Eye contact is important. Nothing makes a person feel more important and listened to than direct eye contact. When you are busy checking your watch or staring past your date you are subliminally saying "I'm not listening and you bore me"

Tip number 8 - Cologne/perfume......go LIGHTY on the stuff. More is NOT always better. Try to keep the body spray stuff to a lightly used lightly scented smell.

Tip number 9 - Leave your current dramas at home. Your date is most NOT likely interested in hearing how Cindy ended up in jail because she slashed Janet's tires because Janet stepped on Cindy's dog who was present when Robert was just about to dump Samantha ( or some such silly nonsense).

Tip number 10 - Be engaging in your conversations giving as much time to listen as you to in speaking. Hobbies, movies, favorite or worst places are neutral enough topics to work with while proving to be informative and even entertaining.

''thanks for the extra tips

Good tips there, especially the bit about noting down your first date anniversary. It could come to be useful in future!

I don't agree with the expensive champagne and fancy chocolate though. It may be intimidating for both sides and could imply that the person expects a lot. Unless you are filthy rich, then it's different. The first date should be simple. I'm a girl, and trust me, I don't mind going dutch. If the guy decides to foot the bill, that would be nice, but they should not have gone to a very expensive place in the first place.

Making a good impression with your dressing and your conversation is more important than the cost of the date.

This post has been edited by bishoujo: Feb 18 2008, 02:22 PM

make a good conversation in the first time is tough., i frequently failed on that part.
maybe i must learn how to make a good chit chat for better conversation